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In the usual sense for us, altruism is unselfish help to others. In the general sense, it is considered a positive, respectable quality. But self-sacrifice sometimes takes extreme forms. For example, in caring for others, a person completely forgets about himself or acts defiantly, solely for his own authority.

According to statistics, a third of divorces occur due to male adultery. No one is immune from this. But the traitors have a very convenient explanation for their own infidelity: "A man is polygamous by nature, he needs this." From the distant ancestors we are separated by a long process of socialization, cultural, moral and moral values.

Quite often in the life course of a person there are situations that cause a certain excitement: exams, public speaking, upcoming interviews, competitions, etc. At such moments, there can be not only some emotional experiences, but also external manifestations: palms sweat, voice disappears, stuttering appears, knees shake, hands tremble and other unpleasant processes occur.

In life, we often commit acts that can not be explained even to ourselves. For example, we break into a stranger for no reason. Or buy a new handbag instead of a down jacket. Meet - these are triggers or internal automata of our brain. They act in circumvention of common sense and willpower. But there is also good news: “automatic” actions or habits are not innate.

We often say "thank you" automatically, just because we have been accustomed to this since childhood. But true gratitude requires a lot of inner work, willpower and courage. Why is gratitude so important? How does the energy of gratitude reduce stress, preserve family and improve health? How to make gratitude using a diary in a way of life?

Our brain is a real super machine with billions of neural connections. Sometimes he behaves well: he remembers the necessary information and in time he finds the answer. But sometimes the brain likes to play with us and throws up different puzzles: it stumbles the name of a favorite music band into the back streets of memory, it will give out a new solution to the problem when you don’t even think about it.

One software company hid a cash prize in a licensing agreement. Only after half a year and after three thousand sales, one meticulous user read to the right place and took the promised money. So the diagnosis of "bore" sometimes brings benefits. But in other cases, with his monotonous speech and endless explanations, a boring person evokes two desires: to flee, and then bypass him on the other side of the street.

“Incomprehensible” is the word that best describes a phenomenon. This amazing phenomenon has worried philosophers for centuries. But the most interesting for us is the phenomenon of the human brain. If you learn how faith treats real diseases, and why negative thinking is more beneficial than positive, you can make a personal breakthrough much faster.

When reality causes too many questions, discomfort increases in the brain. Or in a scientific way: cognitive dissonance arises. In order not to strain and restore harmony, the brain invents perception tricks: it blocks unprofitable information, finds the necessary evidence, calms, lulls. This property of our brain without a twinge of conscience is used by others.

There are skills that you can live without. But it is worthwhile to master them and the quality of life is noticeably improving. For example, mnemonics. I learned how to invent associations - and now you remember all the passwords and names of new acquaintances, and English words are learned without tedious cramming. And to train the memory to store information and play it on first request at any age.

Being late for work and winning the lottery combines one thing - a coincidence. Successful or not - we decide ourselves. Why do some become eternal hostages of circumstances, while others create these circumstances themselves? What behavior is called proactive? How to recognize a sacrifice? We cannot control the circumstances, but we can wrap them for our own benefit.

Silence today is a valuable commodity. And for the residents of megalopolises, it is a luxury at all. But such a desirable ideal silence does not please, but stuns. The absence of any sounds does not allow to relax in the same way as the buzz of the high road outside the window. That is why the idea arose to replace one noise with another, white.

Our every day includes dozens of unconscious actions. We notice something beautiful and take out the phone to take a photo. We look at the clock, but do not remember what time it is. We blink, breathe in a dream, pull a hand from a hot kettle. The reason why we do such actions is reflexes. Sometimes they help to survive, sometimes they literally pull back, making it difficult to succeed.

They do not show their emotions and do not respect others, they lie and insult. Their criticism and praise are equally poisonous, and intercourse is like trying to hug a hedgehog - it will still hurt. However, they often occupy management positions, have many friends and connections in business circles. The good news is that people who are called “scum” behind the eyes are scientifically called sociopaths.

In the wake of motivation, self-development and time management, we are used to neglect fatigue. But the body does not let itself be offended. When the level of internal resources falls below the critical level, physical, emotional and psychological safety devices are triggered. In place of the exhausting activity comes the diagnosis of asthenia.

Surely you have heard this word more than once - pofigizm. And although he has some kind of negative taste, and it sounds not at all scientific, this phenomenon is very widespread. And since it dramatically affects the life of a person, it is very important to understand what it is. After all, such a life position is related not only to the relationship with other people, but also to the person as a whole.

The question of how to unleash one’s potential has been worrying a person for centuries. And no wonder. We all want to maximize the use of internal resources in the profession, creativity, personal life. This is possible, because most people do not even suspect about their hidden reserves or use them halfway. How to find out what we can do?

Cicero bequeathed: "Every speaker is obliged to excite, persuade and charm his audience." And Aristotle explained that it’s pathos that is responsible for the excitement. Why did the word pathos in everyday life become ironic-condemning, even abusive? How did the literary term go to the dictionary of modern glamor? Why is it impossible to do in public speaking without pathos?

It seems that the best occupation after work is to come home and do idleness. But so think those who are accustomed to ignore the needs of their souls. Do not know what to do with the weekend? Ask yourself what made you happy as a child? Why not repeat it right now or, on the contrary, learn something new?

Modern fashion to achieve is great and wonderful. But, talking about the benefits of activities, travel, search for impressions, we often do not explain the main thing: what to do alone with yourself? How to survive the moments of loneliness, confusion, spiritual discomfort? How to cope with the feeling of nagging anxiety or exhausting doubts?