Surely you have heard this word more than once - pofigizm. And although he has some kind of negative taste, and it sounds not at all scientific, this phenomenon is very widespread. And since it dramatically affects the life of a person, it is very important to understand what it is. After all, such a life position is related not only to the relationship with other people, but also to the person as a whole.
First, a little theory. Since the phenomenon of pofigism has become widespread, it has already been divided into various types, or, so to speak, into degrees of pofigism. The first thing that comes to mind when trying to give some concept of pofigizmu - it is indifference. However, this is not quite true. Indifference is the absence of feelings for any event or object. It occurs on a subconscious level, it is almost impossible to control it, it is like instincts. In contrast, pofigizm is a reasonable choice not to attach importance to any things. And it is already controlled by the conscious part of man.
What are nihilists.
At the moment, there are such types of pofigism as: full pofigism, aggressive, relative, reasonable and hidden. Their names speak for themselves in many respects, but let's sort them out.
The most extreme manifestation of pofigism is complete.
But even such a pofigizm is a conscious choice of a person. This does not mean at all that he doesn’t feel anything, just at some point in his life, the person decided to hammer on her, including himself. It is easy to recognize the absolute nihilists, because he is not trying to hide it - he doesn’t care about the opinions of others, although he will impose his position and convince him that he will not be true for the same reason. At the same time, he will not be disturbed not only by external stimuli, but also by himself. They have a very bad memory, because he tries to forget all things, both good and bad, as soon as possible and eliminate them from his life. This is a fairly rare type of pofigism and the only advantage of such a life position can only be considered the safety of their nerve cells, which is actually quite important for our health.
Unlike him aggressive naughty, proud that he is.
Moreover, this attitude of his applies to everything around, excluding only himself. And since he does not pay attention to others, he has a lot of energy left to worry about the only thing that is important for him - his I. Of course, there are certain advantages in this position of life, but the negative will be that they are incapable, in general, to feel something in relation to other people. But at the same time, it is they who most often openly take pride in being pofigists, and it is often on the basis of such people that the opinion about the concept itself is formed, although in reality this is not so.
Relative nihilists, or how else it can be called selective, it is a person who, for his only understandable reasons, gives one thing, people, notions, great value, without thinking about the rest. Often it manifests itself in people who are passionate about some idea or goal, like geniuses, experimenters, and just entrepreneurs. But this is not limited. Such people can be passionate about anything, not only work, but their health, religion, the opposite sex, sports, art, anything. By the way, such a skill is called purposefulness, and it is certainly regarded by all as a positive quality, but although they say that the end justifies the means, unfortunately this is not always true.
Hidden nihilists carefully masks his attitude to the world.
Often, they are very responsive, attentive people who are ready to listen to you, sympathize, even give advice, but as soon as he leaves, he will instantly forget everything, because in fact he doesn’t care. Of course, from the point of view of psychology, such an attitude is fully justified, since taking on other people's problems does not lead to anything good, and unnecessarily tormented, especially the fact that you can’t change completely, but when you get to understand such a hidden pofigist, you will surely feel regret because he seemed completely different. As for the attitude to oneself, the hidden nihilists care a lot about what is on display for everyone, i.e. his appearance, facial expression and more, because they need not seem to be themselves, but behind this there is always complete indifference.
Now let's consider reasonable shit.
People who took a healthy pofigism, from my point of view, took a reasonable stance in their lives, they themselves determined what was good for them and what was bad for them, and extended the detached attitude to all the bad, negative things that were happening. And although they say that life consists of white and black stripes, for a reasonable nihilist this is not so, black stripes for him simply do not exist. These are people who find good in everything, and do not focus on the bad. They know how, moreover, they are sincerely happy from positive events, from communicating with interesting people, they know how to rejoice. They are often called idealists, optimists, they seem to be wearing pink glasses, but you know what is most interesting, the most interesting things happen in their lives, because they sincerely believe that this is the case. Isn't such a life attractive?
Without thinking about the problems, not tormenting yourself with feelings, do not fall into depression. To see only the good in life, while getting more and more evidence of it from life. Say it is impossible, but because it is not. In the life of every person there are such people, they are easy to recognize by the constantly wandering smile and the expression on their face that says, I am ready for what will happen. They want to live, and more importantly, they are interested in living, because they are constantly waiting for what good she will bring to them. And this is where the most important question arises, where to start? such people can only be born? And without a doubt, I would like to be born with such people, but if you are not lucky, like me at one time, then I want to please you - you can learn this.
What is healthy pofigizm.
And so it turns out that the most important condition for “living well” is to become a “good” person himself, that is, a person developed in all respects who is in harmony with himself and the world around us. And despite the fact that it is very easy to determine such a goal, it is extremely difficult to achieve it. After all, so many different ways we are offered, choose in this stream of information what would be best suited not so easy. So why exactly reasonable pofigizm?
The main feature of this philosophy is that it is focused on the modern man who lives at a particular point in time. Surely a couple of thousand years ago, when there were fewer people around, the level of literacy, and accordingly the awareness of the population is extremely low, the more rigid social framework, the philosophy of healthy pofigism would be out of place, but nowadays it is exactly what is needed. Probably one of the most important moments is to stop worrying over trifles. Most of the situations in which we find ourselves, which make us worry, and often take up a lot of time with us, do not matter or, as they say, are not worth a damn.
However, an ordinary person understands this vanity and uselessness afterwards, when the nerves are wasted, and it is already difficult to correct something, if ever it understands it. Now, if you had conducted a sociological survey on the topic, with what thoughts did you fall asleep, or, paraphrasing what you think about before going to sleep, what percentage of people would answer that they have no worrisome thoughts, and they fall asleep with peace of mind? After all, during the day, so many annoying trifles can happen, the Internet hangs, the water is turned off, the report is to be taken tomorrow, and you haven’t sat down to do it yet. That's just to torment yourself with this - an empty case. Angry, wasting my nerves makes no sense, because problems will not solve it, but a bad mood, and how often the result is poor health, on the contrary, it will only complicate things.
Pofigizm allows you to avoid the mass of errors and wrong decisions that we could make, being annoyed because of little things. It allows you to react to any incident with restraint, confidence and calmness to assess the situation and make the right, and most importantly deliberate decisions. Otchebuchit some nonsense in the heat of passion - this is certainly not about nihilists. By the way, such an aura of stability, prudence - has a very positive effect on people, especially in a working environment. The very presence of such a person in a team, in stressful situations, calms others and sets them up in a constructive way. How to achieve this state, read the following articles.
