In our society, to admit that you need the help of a psychologist is, for many, tantamount to dubbing a shameful diagnosis. It is they who, in their West, pour tears on the couch in the psychoanalyst's office. And I don't I am flint. And that life is not going well - so is the head of the goat, and the disease is all from the nerves. The first step is difficult. Especially in a small town where public opinion stamps harder than a court sentence. But you can visit open events - psychological training. So to say: and in the crowd get lost and solve their problems.
What is psychological training
Psychological training - this is a training conducted by a psychologist and raises the psychological problems of each of the participants. The psychologist must be a practitioner, and the problems must be relevant. This is not a lecture, not a notorious kick, and not group therapy. The universe simply gathers people in one place at one time. And then the magic begins.
The success of psychological training for each individual participant is affected by 4 components:
- Personality. The trainer is a psychologist, in the sleeve of which there are a dozen stories from the practice and exercises for any audience request.
- Mood. The bored expression on the face and the message “Come on, teach me” will leave regret for the money spent. A raised hand in time will help solve the problem.
- Group. Experienced coaches know that the hand of providence is involved in the formation of the group. Participants are selected according to a special principle, but with one goal - to help each other work through difficult life situations.
- Atmosphere. The trainer, like the conductor, sets the pace and tone of the overall game.
How can a novice understand whether he is interested in an occupation? If there are unfamiliar words in the stated topic - this is a meeting for the initiated. But it happens that a personal problem is written in large letters on a poster with a designated training. Then, of course, worth a try. But too vague and abstract topics are best avoided.
For example, attending a training called “how to please everyone and everyone” is tantamount to reading the horoscope for people born in the Year of the Dragon. Treat as you like, something will coincide. And at the exit from the event "how to please mother-in-law or boss (people of the older generation)" the skills can be immediately put into practice. As the saying goes: "go the right way, comrades!".
Why do we need training in psychology
Any training is an experience of interaction. Psychological training - the experience of interacting with yourself. Participants face internal problems, the existence of which was not even suspected. Old grievances, unfinished relationships, stresses, carefully forgotten by consciousness, are thrilled deep in the soul.
Psychologists call it unconscious or subconscious (another useful term). Like a war shard, an old soul wound can remind you of yourself at the most inopportune moment.
Conclusion. Psychological training forces participants (sometimes against their will) to admit that they have problems.
The stated topic can respond in the soul of a completely different problem. So, the participants who came to lose weight, crying over the children's situation: the parents did not praise them for their excellent grades. And after the training, they still lose weight, because the situation is lived to the end and it makes no sense to jam it.
And the voiced problem: I want to return the former, causes less emotion than memories of the mockery of classmates. As a result, it turns out that the former just looks like an offender and was chosen as a whipping boy.
Conclusion. Psychological trainings show: all spheres of life are so interconnected that by pulling the thread in one of them, you can unravel an impressive tangle of problems.
The group moves into situations artificially created by the coach. But emotions live here and now. At the first classes, you can see people sitting with glued smiles and eyes full of tears, because crying is bad. But at the next meetings, all together weeping in three streams. Both women and men. Participants learn to recognize their right to "shameful" feelings: anger, envy, fear, jealousy.
Exercises help not to accumulate negative emotions in themselves, but to properly spill them in the right place at the right time. And after that, the participants allow themselves to be tender, show compassion and simply arrange a hug with their relatives.
Conclusion. Psychological trainings remind participants that they have the right to simple human emotions.
After attending several activities related to psychology, the stages passed are no longer something extraordinary. But for uninitiated participants, much becomes a revelation. Psychology is a powerful tool, and training is the first step on a long stretch of track called “know yourself.”
What are the training in psychology
There is no official classification. Themes are modified depending on the needs of the society. But the essence remains the same, because the deep instincts are sewn at the level of genes. If our mothers and grandmothers were interested in how to meet a guy at the dance, then modern girls learn to make beautiful selfies. And one goal - to please others.
Psychology trainings are conditionally divided into 3 groups:
Business training. Communication with clients, subordinates, methods of persuasion and overcoming objections. Trainings for management, management and office workers.
Behavioral. Learning eloquence, charm, overcoming problems at work is the most popular and most visited category. But the effectiveness of external change is short-lived. Participants either forget about their skills, or require constant recharge in the form of new and new activities.
Therapeutic. Changes can not pass instantly. And even a day or two. A visit to therapeutic trainings lasts a long time and often becomes an occasion for an individual visit to a psychoanalyst. This is the most time-consuming, but proven way.
Accurate classification is not so important because the main goal of the training is to change the quality of life of the participants. From the overall work, everyone makes their own experiences. And two identical results do not happen, as well as an identical set of genes.
How to choose a psychological training
On each topic of psychological training there is a skeptical article about why this does not work. To summarize everything is at least incorrect. The success of the training largely depends on the participant’s willingness to work on himself. To choose the format of the event for a beginner is difficult. But you should not be afraid, even unfamiliar terms mean quite earthly and vital problems of the majority.
Let's try to remove the mystery from professional terminology:
Role playing games. They are not related to acting as a profession. "The whole world is a theater ...". Subconsciously, we choose the role and act on behalf of the character. For our parents, we always remain children, and we conduct a dialogue with our offspring from the position of a Parent or Teacher. But sometimes the roles become inappropriate. So, for example, we constantly teach the spouse, and then we wonder why he stopped making responsible decisions. And the spouse simply joined the Parent-Child game and assumed the role of a nonsensible teenager.
Vital scripts. Situations that we surprisingly call “deja vu”, the universe sends, not for punishment, but for training. And until we understand what exactly we need to learn, the script will be repeated with enviable regularity. What will teach a long wait in traffic? Humility. And the conflict at work? The realization that you need to develop in the profession. Or find a new one.
These two topics are clearly described in the book by Eric Berne (psychologist and psychiatrist) "Games that people play."
Psychosomatics. The body is a very, very wise machine. Especially the brain that shows us the world as it sees fit. Psychological problems manifest themselves at the physiological level. For example: in a stressful situation, a lethal dose of adrenaline is thrown into the beds, which can only be burned by physical exertion. But we sit at the table, while adrenaline attacks the vessels and the heart. The result - a heart attack, sudden headaches. Our ancestors were wiser. The phrase "legs do not go" or "eyes would not see" - not abstract phrases, but the result of thoughtful observations.
A practicing psychotherapist, V. Sinelnikov, interestingly writes about the manifestations of psychosomatics. In the book Love Your Disease.
The choice of training is not a lottery. But also not a guarantee of the decision of all problems. Treat it as an experience. And experience is our personal baggage that cannot be lost or stolen.
Psychological trainings allow a person to meet face to face with his own "I". Live yourself yesterday and stop sweating about yourself tomorrow. Feel bodily clips, shout out anger and whisper about love. And also make sure that the problems that people considered personal concern every second participant. And only from this it becomes easier.
