Life is not just existence, breathing or a heartbeat. This is what our days and thoughts are filled with. Everyone feels happy when his life brings him satisfaction. Of course, even the most cheerful person is sometimes sad or sad. But sometimes that which fills life greatly depresses from day to day. From those who have encountered this, one can hear: “I hate my life. I hate people, I have a terrible job, everything that happens in my life is bad. ”Such feelings can deprive you of peace for a long time. To understand how to get rid of them, you need to figure out what could lead to them.
The reasons
Hating your life is an unnatural state for a person. The more interesting reasons that can lead to this. Among them:
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fashion trends; - comparing yourself with others;
- obsession with the past;
- situations that cannot be changed;
- emotional illness.
fashion trends;Sometimes it is not easy to notice some of these causes in yourself. For clarity, below are the standard situations with fictional characters.
Fashion trends. Anya was a cheerful child. But then she noticed that her classmates love to make fun of her optimism, but cynical, bold and stinging teenagers are considered the elite of the class. She wants to show that she is no worse than them, and she thinks up witty and stinging answers to their jokes. In social networks, Anya found a lot of pages with humor, which makes fun of kindness, generosity and marital fidelity. Gradually, she adopted such a way of thinking, and everything that pleased her in life now causes only a cynical smile. But now they do not make fun of her.
Hatred, cynicism and audacity are now at the height of fashion. Even the villains in the movies are charming and witty. Such attract rather than repel.
Comparing yourself with others. Irina is a deeply unhappy person. She hates life because she does not have a husband like her sister Tanya. After all, happiness is precisely in such a life partner. Lena, Irina's girlfriend, also has no husband. But there is a car and a good job. Irina's appearance is not at all the same as those whom she considers beautiful. Everyone has something that makes them happy, and this is exactly what Ira doesn’t have.
Sometimes the habit of comparing yourself with others is drawn since childhood. Previously, my mother said: “Here, all your friends are excellent pupils, and again you brought a three-piece.”, And as a person grows up, he begins to put himself in a negative light, comparing himself with others.
Obsession with the past. Lyuba knows exactly why she has a terrible life. The fact is that she went to study not as a seamstress, as she wanted, but as an accountant, on the advice of her mother. If only she would have acted differently! Then she married more prudently, and certainly would not be left alone with the child. Looking back, Lyuba very much regrets that she made a mistake that ruined her life. She hates the mom who insisted on her then, and the life that is going awry because of it.
Situations that can not be changed. Svetlana is only 20, but she is disgusted with her life. After her uterus was removed due to a tumor, she does not see the point in waking up in the morning. She can never have children. Why then live? Why start a family, and who wants to marry her? Why build a career and make money if you leave it later there will be no one?
For Lyudmila every day is torture. All members of her family died in a car accident, and she is alive only because she felt bad that day. Why live, if not to return the laughter of children in their empty rooms? Her oppression feeling of guilt for not knowing, not stopping, not protecting. Luda is firmly convinced that she had to die, and they had to live. Thinking about suicide comes more often.
Emotional diseases. Natalia has a wonderful life. Beloved husband, work, healthy children. But at times she is covered with such a feeling of depression, that she feels physical pain. Natasha can not explain what's wrong with her, and even just pull yourself together. She always wants to cry, no appetite and sleep. The husband is upset, and his mother says: "You are angry with fat."
What if in one of these situations you got to know yourself? Does this mean that life will never bring joy again? It all depends on what to do next.
What can be done
First of all, it is worth firmly recognizing for yourself that fighting for joy in life is definitely worth it. Whether a person lives in vain or not depends on his mood. In response to this attitude, life will surely give something good. And despondency and pessimism are very bad for health.
If fashionable currents became the cause of such feelings, it is necessary to recognize that our thinking forms what we fill it with. This largely affects the quality of life. You should not sacrifice it for the sake of fashion, because happiness is much more important. No matter how charming the cynical and impudent people seem, the soul truly stretches to kind and happy people.
Great wealth - to be able to be content with what is. A sense of contentment protects against envy and sadness. To learn to notice the good, you can make a thank you diary - a notebook in which in the evenings you need to write down three reasons to say thanks to God, loved ones or even yourself.
In addition, it would be wise to admit with modesty that it is impossible to see everything from the outside. In every life there is something good and bad, but this is the business of those who live this life.
Past mistakes can really affect life. But, as a rule, this does not mean that absolutely nothing can be done. Obsession with the past is like a rearview mirror in a car. Sometimes it is useful to look at it in order to extract experience from past situations. But if you look at it constantly, it is impossible to make decisions, given what is happening in real time. It may take an effort of will to focus on what is happening now.
Unfortunately, not everything in this world can be influenced. Sometimes it can be difficult to recognize, and living on is even more difficult. In order to have strength, you need to find someone who needs care. A person becomes happier, giving someone some of their warmth.
The death of loved ones is the strongest shock that can happen to a person. Where to find the strength to live on? If necessary? Worth thinking, would like a man who died, so that those he loved, have lost the desire to live? Of course not. Letting go of the pain does not mean forgetting. You can store warm memories, the good that is left. And continue to live - the way those who love us would like. So, set goals, albeit small, and achieve them.
It is necessary to enlist the support of friends, so that they were there in difficult days, for example, on the anniversary of the wedding, if we are talking about the loss of a life partner.
The human nervous system is not adapted to a lifestyle that many consider normal. Every fourth inhabitant of the planet suffers from some emotional disorder, and life would be much easier if all these people promptly asked for help. It is not necessary that antidepressants be prescribed for the treatment of depression, which will turn a person into a vegetable, as many are afraid of. It is possible that the body simply lacks some vitamins, or hormonal failure has occurred, and maybe you just need someone to speak out who will not judge and be able to look at the situation from the outside.
Life is always what we see it. Sometimes loving her may not be easy, but it's a good way to live it better.
Larisa, Shuya
