Tired of everything: what to do and where to get strength

"I am not happy about anything, everything seems gray and dull. I already forgot when I last dreamed about something. It seems that I have become an old woman — a decrepit, frail, eternally unhappy. Tired of everything. What should I do?"

Similar thoughts arise for everyone. At a certain point, a person gets tired of his work, daily duties, and those around him. Even from myself. Why it happens? How to start living in a new way, and most importantly, where to get strength for this?

What is happening to me?

The truth is, we all get tired. Sometimes a person is exhausted by a series of troubles and problems that have to be constantly solved. But most often this sensation arises without any apparent reason. Every day, apathy grows and at a certain point comes the understanding that something needs to be done. But what? Not understanding the reasons for this condition, any actions will resemble the struggle with windmills. Therefore, first of all, you need to sit down and understand yourself a little.

What can cause all-consuming fatigue?

Many problems. The need to constantly solve problems is very exhausting. A person does nothing but seeks a way to salvation. Without even noticing, he is in constant tension. His heart beats faster, the muscles of his back and neck literally fetters, and adrenaline is strenuously thrown into the blood. If this condition lasts too long, then the body is depleted, there is great fatigue from everything.
Lack of rest. Rest is not only full sleep. In addition to restoring physical strength, a person needs emotional relaxation or reboot. Some help rest in a comfortable, quiet environment, others get rid of stress with extreme sports, noisy company, dancing, etc.
Misunderstanding of loved ones. Conflicts in the family, at work, with friends make you feel unnecessary. A person has to defend his opinion, to defend himself, while he wants to bathe in love and care.
Lying. Prolonged concealment of the truth compels one to wear a certain mask. But very soon, someone else's role is starting up. You have to constantly control yourself in order not to accidentally blurt out unnecessary things.
Difficult financial situation. Lack of funds greatly reduces the quality of life. A person cannot realize most of his desires, he has to be content with little. Try not to get tired when you're worried about whether there will be a piece of bread for breakfast tomorrow.
Disease. The state of the organism greatly influences the mood and self-awareness of a person. Even a simple ARVI can knock out for a while. Not to mention the more serious diseases for which chronic fatigue is a prominent symptom (pathology of the heart, thyroid gland, etc.). By the way, depression is also a disease.

What to do?

So, what to do if you are tired of problems and everything that happens? You need to approach the problem in a comprehensive manner. It is equally important to put in order both the physical and the emotional state. It is necessary to fully sleep, eat right, move more. At the same time, one should learn to distract from joyless thoughts. You need to be able to tune in to the positive.

History of the author. "At one time it seemed to me that I was very tired of what was happening. I just wanted to lie down and do nothing. I don’t know how it would all end if one day the puppy didn’t come to the house. At first I just fed him up and then As a result, I have increased. It was necessary to walk with the Ray every day (as I called the puppy), to feed him, to clean. It would seem that I had increased, but with him I became interested in life. The ray met me from work and merrily wagged his tail, kissed my hands, bathed with me and slept. s very attached to each other. And then I met a guy who was walking your pet, too, and a couple of weeks we started dating.

And that's what I want to say. When you are very tired, you especially need love. You just need to put it in your heart. It is not necessary to have an animal. You can just help someone. To visit a lonely grandmother-neighbor. Feed the homeless or the animals in the zoo. Give some things to the orphanage. Love and kindness to others - the best healer. If you learn to give it for free, then fatigue will remove as a hand "

Where to get strength?

When it seems that there is absolutely no strength, it's time to start organizing your day. To physically feel good, it is useful to listen to the following tips:

Go to bed no later than 23:00. The fact is that at night the body rests best. The necessary hormones are produced that are responsible for youth, beauty, and good mood.
Sleep at least 8 hours. That is how much time the body needs to make you feel rested and full of energy.
Start the day with a small charge. Just 10 minutes of simple exercises will give a charge of vitality for the whole day. By the way, in the end you can take a douche, it will invigorate even more.
Delicious breakfast. People who miss the morning meal feel tired during the day. Therefore, to feel full of energy, you need a good meal in the morning.
Enter foods rich in magnesium and B vitamins (nuts, beans, spinach, seafood, meat, liver) in your diet. They are responsible for emotional balance. Another option - drink vitamins.
Give up bad habits. Try to limit the use of coffee, alcoholic beverages. Stop smoking. Such addictions greatly loosen the human psyche.

How to return the joy of life?

Positive emotions are very important. But how to get them? Do not expect someone to come and get you out of dull thoughts. Start acting yourself:

Come up with a new hobby. Grow flowers, learn to sew, bake beautiful cakes, begin to embroider with beads or ribbons.
Invite friends to visit. Merry company will help to switch to a positive mood.
Go to the exhibition, to the cinema, to the concert. Do not sit at home in the four walls, it is very depressing.
Listen to fun music. Sometimes only she is uplifting.
Watch funny shows and movies. Laughter prolongs life. And he helps to relieve excess stress.
Permute. Psychologists are advised to rearrange the furniture every six months. If you are tired of everything, then it's time to do it.
Change your hairstyle or style of clothes. They say that for a woman is the best way to attract new impressions.

In conclusion, I would like to add that the thoughts “how am I tired” are just thoughts. They become a problem only if you get hung up. So would it not be better to spend this time on something more pleasant and useful?

Irina, Rostov-on-Don

(The comment of the psychologist on this article is not yet available.)