Perhaps, modesty and decorates a person, but in the modern world, where without the ability to stand up for yourself it is difficult to achieve significant results, it is increasingly losing its relevance. If you don’t want to live your whole life with an inconspicuous gray mouse, you will have to work hard. Every woman understands this, so the question of how to become more self-confident often comes to the bright heads of shy young ladies.
Is appearance important?
Appearance - the card of the person. It is not necessary to be a beautiful woman or to run with a cry for help to a plastic surgeon. It is enough to take a few simple steps to begin your transformation.
First, it is hair and hand care. A haircut that does not require long styling, the absence of split ends, neat manicure is not so difficult, but without this no girl can feel confident.
Do not forget about the body. If you feel insecure due to excess weight - it's time to diet and to the gym. If there is no money at the SPA centers, arrange evening care for yourself at home. A variety of treatments, including wraps and aromatherapy sessions, can also be carried out in your own bathroom.
At the same time, a truly confident woman feels great without makeup and fashionable clothes. It is important that the suit was sitting and it was comfortable for you, and you did not think about how to walk another 20 meters in the 15 cm stiletto shoes that caused delight to all the women around.
Speaking of gait: a flat back, a raised chin, a royal posture - something that you need to train yourself. If you are slouched all the time, and you subconsciously want to hide from everyone, how can you become more self-confident?
Main work on yourself
Self-confidence emanates from within. The external component is of great importance, but, for certain, you met women, whose appearance was not particularly attractive, but they, like a magnet, attracted people around.
Self-confident one who respects himself. This, of course, must be justified, so you should take a piece of paper and write a list of those qualities that you would like to possess, and the development of which will require special attention - for example, to achieve goals and not retreat before difficulties - a worthy character trait that goes parallel with self confidence.
First, you need to figure out in what situations your confidence disappears. Often people are lost when they can not keep up the conversation. In order not to embarrass yourself, broaden your horizons, read more, watch movies. Thanks to the information received, you will become an interesting conversationalist, people will want to spend time with you, and self-confidence will grow. Fiction will help expand vocabulary, and you don’t have to pick words when you want to express a thought.
Secondly, do not be afraid to share your opinions with others. You may be mistaken about something, but people who are never wrong simply do not exist. The more you communicate, the faster the insecurities and fears will disperse.
Develop for yourself living principles that you will adhere to. For example, you should learn to say “no” if you know in advance that you cannot fulfill someone’s request. Otherwise, the likelihood of situations in which you feel uncomfortable increases.
Optimism and experimentation go hand in hand with confidence. If you are in a good mood, you can always cheer yourself up. But to listen to those who want to convince you of future failures should not be.
Carefully look at your surroundings: let there be more people around who are ready to support you. But those who themselves whine infinitely, it is better to avoid - it is contagious.
Trying something new, discovering for yourself what was previously unknown, you also develop self-confidence. Trying a new cake in a cafe is certainly tempting, but you need other emotions: sign up for extreme driving courses, fly on a two-seater plane with an instructor - such a surge of adrenaline will help you look at yourself with different eyes.
Usually, the root of evil of all “adult” problems lurks deep in childhood. Highlight one evening, analyze what binds you and does not allow such a beautiful, intelligent, kind woman (you are such, and do not argue) to open your wings and boldly fly through this interesting and full of wonders of life.
Perhaps these are overly strict parents, who once instilled a long time ago that you will not be able to make the right decisions? Think about what they wanted for you the best or simply did not know how to raise a child properly. Tell them thanks for being there.
Or the cause of your uncertainty is old unhappy love? Everyone went through it, you should not spoil yourself 30-40-50 years of life due to the fact that once a young man did not appreciate you.
Very often, long-standing grievances last for years, it's time to end them and start a new life. Release all the negative and learn to see only the good in all unpleasant situations, mistakes, difficulties. There is not a single person who has lived a life without problems, the difference is in what conclusions people draw from them and how they react to them. The more you experience and wind yourself up, the longer unpleasant memories will affect your life.
Give people a good mood. Constant nagging repels, while words of support and elementary politeness (a rarity these days) will attract others. And a person who is needed by others simply does not have the right to be insecure - you will feel it.
Self-confidence, as well as luck - a capricious lady. Any person has situations when he is overcome with doubts - this is normal. Life is dynamic, circumstances change, to be always confident in yourself or in the success of any business is impossible. The main thing is to think about what you can do to win.
