The need for communication is one of the basic human needs.
That is why the lack of attention from others is experienced very acutely and painfully.
Especially hard put up with indifference and estrangement close person.
Causes of lack of attention
Why is the husband not paying attention to his wife?
If the husband does not pay attention to his wife, it means that there is discord or “calm” in the relationship. The cause of alienation can be quarrels and offenses.
In this case, the permissive indifference will pass immediately after the spouses talk and solve the problem. But inattention on the part of a man may also signal that in a relationship with his beloved, he became "cold".
Perhaps the woman has ceased to take care of herself, often leads conversations into negative, devalues the spouse's contribution to family life, or does not show tender feelings towards her partner. In response, the man closes, loses interest in communication.
Why did the wife stop paying attention to her husband? Women are stronger than men need tactile and emotional contact.
And if the wife has ceased to pay attention to her husband, then she is offended or disappointed. Perhaps, earlier, the spouse spoke harshly against his second half, ignored her requests and devalued feelings.
Understanding that interaction with a man does not bring pleasure and satisfaction, a woman stops paying attention to her chosen one.
Why don't guys pay attention to me? Do not blame the situation on the appearance of defects, because beauty is an individual concept.
Each individual man has his own view on female attractiveness.
Probably, the reason lies in the behavior of the girl and her attitude towards herselfand also in prejudice against men.
If a girl is unsure of herself, it immediately catches the eye. Sutul shoulders, dulled eyes, unfriendly facial expression and the desire to become "invisible" will not attract the representative of the opposite sex.
Unattractive for a guy there will be that girl who behaves rudely, swears, is rude or holds on too arrogantly.
And, of course, the total conviction that all men are goats will not become the trump card of the fair sex.
Why girls do not pay attention? The girls try to get around the side of the womanizer, the notorious boys and passive guys.
They simply do not want to become a toy in the hands of a boyfriend or to connect life with a man who plans to spend his whole life on the couch with a can of alcoholic beverage.
Well, they simply do not notice the overly modest and non-initiative guys, as they are waiting for the “first step” from the boyfriend and consider only active young men.
Why don't boys pay attention to me? In school years, girls are ahead in the development of boys.
Therefore, when younger coquettes fall in love with their friends and classmates, they often face indifference.
The problem in this situation lies not at all in the girl and her behavior. Just the object of sympathy is not yet mature enough to relationships and more interested in football, computer games, walking with friends and other entertainment.
And love and relationships at a young age equate to "nonsense." Peers may even make fun of boys who openly show interest in girls.
Psychology
Man by nature emotional and social. He needs the recognition of others and communication with people. Sometimes even negative attention is better than a social vacuum and lack of communication.
If a person does not receive a sufficient amount of attention, he feels unnecessary and unnecessary.
The social institute as though rejects it, leaving behind a board of life.
As a result man selects one of two available scenarios.
I am bad
The individual suffering from attention deficit starts blaming himself. Thoughts about one's own flawedness, stupidity, awkwardness, worthlessness and inability to build relationships come to the fore.
Over time, a person really loses the ability to establish communication with others.
Any expression of interest in his person is regarded as pity or the desire of the interlocutor to gain / mock / assert himself.
They are bad
Man with high self-esteem begins to devalue others, to somehow explain the lack of interest in his own person.
In this scenario, the individual believes that people do not go to the contact because of feelings of envy, anger, stupidity, or a lack of complexes.
Surrounding turn into enemies, and the person takes a defensive position, preferring to attack first, to look for shortcomings in people and to behave arrogantly.
Who needs it more?
Men and women need attention equally. At the same time, representatives of the stronger sex prefer to be admired or approved of actions / decisions.
They also want to be heard and feel the value of their own opinions when communicating with people.
For men it is necessary for the interlocutor to think in global categories and perceive the situation holistically, reacting to important things, not focusing on trifles.
But women not opposed to empathy and even pity (through the prism of concern), calmed and showered with complements. They are less painful to endure situations in which their opinion is “pushed” into the background, if at the same time the ladies receive enough admiration and worship.
Also, representatives of the beautiful half of humanity need to ensure that when they communicate, people pay attention to trifles and do not ignore any insignificant facts, comments and changes in appearance / behavior.
If a men like when others positively evaluate their character, achievements and material successes, then girls love to surprise people with their beauty, wisdom, femininity, etc.
Psychology tips
Girls and women
How to win and keep the attention of men? To win and keep the attention of a man, you need to become "useful" for him.
Those. when dealing with a man, the fair sex should cover any needs.
As a rule, every guy needs support, approval and admiration. If the companion gives him positive emotions, does not criticize trivially, supports and listens, the man will be interested in communication.
And the comfort of a woman in such a situation will come to the fore for him. After all, it will become valuable and necessary.
Not enough attention to her husband. Spouse stopped paying attention, as a woman.
To return the attention of her husband, it is necessary to bring novelty into the matrimonial life and stop perceiving the actions of a man as a given.
First of all, the spouse must refuse from faded gowns, comfortable, but ugly clothes, “homemade” hairstyles, constant complaints about life and work, invariably dissatisfied facial expressions.
A husband should see a housewife who is not tired of life, but a spouse loved and filled with feminine energy.
Also worth working on the relationship with spouse. It is necessary to praise the man, to notice and celebrate his efforts. For her husband, this will become a kind of stimulus and catalyst for action.
Having received praise or approval, the man will again and again perform beautiful acts, pay attention to his wife and try to please her.
The husband does not pay attention to the pregnant wife. How to make a husband draw attention to himself?
When a wife perceives pregnancy as a disease, tries to completely limit her own activity and the activity of her husband, talks exclusively on the subject of her “interesting position” and falls asleep to the man's whims, the representative of the stronger sex does not withstand emotional stress and tries to protect herself from her wife.
To return the attention of men, it is necessary to “loosen the grip” and not reduce family life to the current pregnancy.
It is important to have time to pay attention to her husband., to show your feelings to the father of the unborn child and to be attentive to his news, experiences and words.
The guy stopped paying attention. How to pay attention to the guy himself?
The guy tries to conquer the girl, surrounds her with special care and attention until she falls at the feet of her lover.
To keep the guy interested and constantly bathe in his attention and compliments, sometimes you need to show character, do not try to please to the detriment of their interests and find such an occupation / hobby / hobby that will allow you to live life to the fullest, rather than dissolve in a relationship
How to thank a man for your attention? To thank a man for his attention is better not with words, but with emotions.
When the representative of the stronger sex sees that the rendered signs of attention do not go unnoticed and receive a positive response from the chosen one, male ego is included.
But sometimes you can note the efforts of a loved one with words of gratitude. For example you can use the following wording:
- I am very pleased that you have paid attention to me;
- Thanks for listening, this is very important to me;
- you are very attentive, thank you for your support;
- without your support, I could not do it;
- talking to you helped me make the right decision;
- your compliments raise my spirits even in the saddest and most difficult moments of my life;
- I really appreciate your attention.
Men and boys
How to get the girl's attention? To achieve the attention of the girl, you must very skillfully use flattery.
Compliments attract women, as they give pleasure and cause "addiction".
But excessive worship will disappoint girls, because not every lady wants to see next to him a youngster blinded by love and tenderness.
Another important point is the genuine interest in the life of the girl, her experiences, problems and victories. Achieve attention from the weaker sex is possible only if you pay attention to the girl herself. Then, in response, she will certainly show interest.
What if the girl pays little attention? In this case, there are two possible options: limit activity or show initiative.
The girl spoiled by attention is better to "tease" a little, having shown indifference. But the lady in need of support and care, on the contrary, needs to be surrounded with heat.
And in the first and in the second case, the woman will reach out to the guy, wanting to win his sympathy. Lack of attention from a partner can be filled only if you go to a meeting and take the initiative.
A person needs to be attracted and interested, to raise its importance in his eyes. But insults and tantrums will not give the desired effect and, on the contrary, postpone the beloved / beloved.
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