Injuries received in childhood have very serious consequences in the future, and parental divorce is one of the most difficult situations that a child experiences with great difficulty.
What and how to tell a child about the divorce of parents is not an easy task, but of paramount importance, which should be approached with all seriousness and responsibility.
Communicate with the child openly 
The big mistake of adults is to hide from the child what is happening in the family. Many parents believe that small children do not understand anything. And that, without telling the child about what is happening, they thereby protect them.
This position is fundamentally wrong. Children see all your moods and feel the tension in your relationship more than you can imagine. For them, omissions are just a reason to think out the situation even worse than they really are. Children become isolated and begin to blame themselves, and this is unacceptable.
How to present the child the news?
Declare a temporary truce, call the kid and tell that mom and dad have stopped getting along with each other. Do not blame each other. Use the pronoun "we" instead of "he" or "she." Say that dad moves, but will come to visit as often as you want the baby.
Obligatory emphasis should be made on the fact that the child has nothing to do with this, that parents divorce not with him, but with each other. Talk to your child more often, repeat the same thing several times, calm down and continue to love with even greater force!
However, do not forget that the information you need to submit is dosed. Telling the child about your problems, do not pour out his soul and do not go into details. The true reasons for him to know absolutely not necessary, he still does not understand, simplify the situation and make it as clear as possible.
How can you not do?
Usually couples on the threshold of a divorce become more irritable and aggressive. It is very easy to bring a person out of himself in such a situation, but the child at the same time feels a lack of communication, he does not know such an atmosphere, and, as a rule, he carries all the experiences in himself. Do not scold him for minor missteps or delayed reactions to your requests. Absent-mindedness in such cases is the cause of strong emotional experiences.
Remember that because of deep shocks, children can get seriously ill. At these moments, they especially need affection and understanding, tenderness and attention.
It will be a good decision to give the child to a creative circle, where he will be able to express his feelings not directly, but through certain symbols. Communication with peers - this is what he is now very necessary.
Do not leave him alone for long. The thoughts of the little man, who has seen so little in his life, and now feels a heartache - destructive.
Do not drag the blanket over yourself, remain prudent for the sake of your child - reconcile yourself even after the divorce, be friends, have dinner together and sometimes smile at each other. People who have common children, can not be each other's enemies or aliens. Show your baby that you no longer live together, but continue to communicate and, most importantly, to love him!
Give your child an example of how to maintain relationships even after a lot of scrapes and it will surely pay off!
