We can produce the hormones of happiness ourselves, but for some reason we are waiting for it from others. We expect happiness in love from marriage and a spouse, recognition from partners, tenderness from children. And what if you create positive moments for the synthesis of your own joy? Do not wait until the world and the environment? Just start living beautiful, easy, bright? Just want to do it?
Wake up your own "Wishlist" will help 4 practices of visible desires. They will wake up the intuition, and intuition will tell you where to go next. For practitioners, prepare a pen and sheets of paper, you have to write a lot.
What does it mean to live beautifully
If we only dream of living beautifully, then we cannot afford it yet. As if we are waiting for permission from the outside. Why? Because we invent completely impossible conditions for happiness - it is not important whether they are strangers or others. According to psychologists, these 2 thoughts haunt customers most often.
- Thought 1: for a beautiful life you need a lot of money. Yachts, villas, islands, expensive cars, leopards in golden collars are still not available to us? And what, Bill Gates with a suitcase of money is not worth on the threshold of our house? Then we will wait.
- Thought 2: to live beautifully, you need to work not a lot, but a lot. Continuous self-improvement, new goals and achievements do not lead to "sombe dreams"? So, it is worth to postpone the joy for tomorrow, because today we have not deserved them yet.
All this stuff, really. After all, we have the right to choose. Want to live beautifully? Live. Just add a little happiness to your life no one forbids you.
What is live for today
We are constantly sorting through past events or experiencing the future. Today’s day is often overlooked. And tomorrow today will again be a regrettable past. But just to enjoy the moments of presence here-and-now uncomfortable thoughts interfere.
- Thought 1: to live for one day is to be a frivolous egoist. "Seize the day!" is the expression of Epicurus is often perceived as an invitation to endless excesses. But if you think about it, meaningless worries about the future only poison today.
- Thought 2: I'm too tired to get into life like this right now. Stress, overload, routine, chronic fatigue - this vicious circle can be broken independently. Problems will never end. And on the tombstone will be the words: "he worked and experienced a lot."
To live for today is to enjoy everyday life, to be able to get pleasure from simple everyday trifles, to live here and now, without waiting for the New Year.
How to live easy for yourself
Good news: you don’t have to fight right for all the good things in life. Sometimes good things just happen.
The first thing is to update your wardrobe.
Imagine opening your life like a wardrobe. Here is a dress hanging, I never wore it, it is not enough for me. But my husband once said that I need to lose weight. Lose weight - wear a dress. And there is a suitcase on the shelf - Dad wanted me to be an engineer. But ... Stop. It's time to get rid of it.
It's time to get rid of wardrobe leopard leggings and warm underpants. And fill the empty shelves with your life things.
The practice of getting rid of other people's desires. Take a sheet of paper, divide it into 3 columns. In the left write all the desires. EVERYTHING that comes to mind.
Re-read the first: I want to run in the morning. Is it yours? Not? Then whose? Oh yeah, my former boyfriend said (we note this in the second column) that running is the best sport. The guy is long gone on the horizon, and the desire burns somewhere inside. Refuse or leave - decide for yourself. Just do it from yourself.
Re-read the second: I want to have a dog. Is it yours? Yes. Then why not brought? Oh yeah, as a child, parents were frightened that a dog should be cared for. You live independently, but did not bring a puppy. Leave a wish? Yes. Even better - go to the dog shelter right away.
Council Cross out other people's desires with a thick black line. Then these solutions are fixed visually.
The second thing is to write your list of daring desires
We are embarrassed to take the most beautiful cake from the tray - because it is intended for someone more worthy. We are afraid to ask to change the radio wave, all of a sudden someone will not like our music. Still, after all the childhood we were told: DO NOT WANT, roll up your lip, do it through NOT want. And, savvy with this thought, all our life we tried not to be known as this selfish special person who constantly wants something.
It's time to charge yourself with a list of the most unrealistic desires. Perhaps your list will be read in the ministry of magic and decide to perform at least a couple.
Practice bold desires. Take a sheet of paper to write not just everything, but EVERYTHING you want. From a cup of coffee in a new cafe to a villa in Bali. From the bottle of martini to meeting with Leonardo DiCaprio (Jennifer Lopez). From the recipe of the Easter dough to a trip to the Formula 1 race. You can not do this at one time. Imagine how nice it is to rush to the cherished leaflet to write down another pleasant wish.
Council Do not number, do not check, do not show the list to anyone. Such training will spur intuition, and she will already tell you how to fulfill all these desires.
The third thing is to come up with a new motto for your life.
Think about how a person can live easily and happily with the motto: "life is like a staircase in a hen house. Short and full of shit." Or something like that. The slogan of his whole life, we broadcast in posture, conversations with relatives, in the office of the chief. We show it in actions, actions, and, most importantly - in thoughts. And thoughts, they are material.
It's time to come up with a new life motto with the help of a wish card.
The practice of becoming an aristocrat. Remember just one phrase that will change your life does not work? This will help the map of desires. Take a large sheet of paper (4 album sheets) and draw. Just draw all your childhood and adult dreams, forgotten desires, love, care, relatives. The images that we see are the strongest. Believe me, you will remember this card to the last detail even in a few years. And the process itself will help unleash fantasy and include associations.
Council Read about Mindmepping. A mind map is a whole science, not just a method of drawing notes.
The fourth thing is to forget that you are already 20+, 30+, 40+, 50+
At the age of 20 and 30 we feel young and immature, at 40 we already have time to grow old, and at 50 we are thinking about giving and a quiet pension. To live for yourself it is not necessary to start everything from scratch. Sometimes you need to allow yourself to relax and do what you want. Do not ask questions: how to live correctly, how to live is easier. And just live without regard to age. And remember that Mary Kay Ash opened the company at the age of 45, and Morgan Freeman only at the age of 50 got a worthwhile role.
Practice success beyond age. Take a piece of paper, write on it your age (do not show it to anyone). Subtract 10 from this number - this is you 10 years ago. Write on a piece of paper all that you would like to say to yourself. Do not forget to mention the things that turned out to be completely unimportant, although then they made you nervous.
Take another sheet. Add to the age of 10 years - you are in 10 years. Talk to yourself, today, in terms of future age.
Council At any age, it’s not too late to fill your life with meaning. Remove the number from the age, leave only the "+" - this will be your new attitude to life.
Board TOTAL. Think you are too busy for such nonsense? And you do not have time for children's games like a wish card? You are not alone. Writer Hal Elrod has written an entire book for the busy - "The Magic of Morning." He tells how in the 10 morning minutes to smile, cheer up, remember and visualize your desires, do exercises and read a page from a book on self-development.
It is also important that the list of practices can be shortened or supplemented at its discretion. It is possible to write, finish, delete, edit. But in the copybook it is not worth rewriting, suddenly life will make new adjustments. Living beautifully is easy if you know exactly what you want.
