Does your husband have depression? Does your friend have depression? Are your parents miserable? Do not despair.
Let's talk about what we can do to help or at least not aggravate.
1. Anyone can suffer from depression. This could be your neighbor, best friend, your child’s teacher, your spouse or partner. This person can be yourself. Even the most psychologically powerful person can fall into depression. It is reasonable to take it.
2. A person who is depressed may not seem so. No matter how positive, optimistic and friendly someone looks - he may suffer from depression. Your sociable, energetic friend who is always ready to have fun all night long may suffer from depression, but a melancholic, reticent fellow introvert does not.
3. Tips and phrases similar to: "It's all such nonsense, look at the sun outside the window!", "You need to be strong, life does not like whiners and weaklings" you speak out of good intentions to help - extremely badly perceived by a person in d
depression The feelings about which they speak (or more often they are silent) are absolutely real, real and very painful. The depreciation and denial of feelings on your part is a gross and, perhaps, irreparable mistake.
4. If you want to help a person in depression, do not tell him what to do, but ask how he feels. Never tell people that they should not experience these or other emotions. Do not argue with them about why they should feel this way and not otherwise. Acknowledge the feelings of a person, and express love for him. Just.
5. Express love in deeds, assisting in affairs that seem to people suffering from depression, unbearably heavy.
6. Those suffering from depression do not have the physical and emotional resources to lead a normal life, as before illness. They hardly find the strength to cope with everyday life, feeling exhausted and exhausted.
It is so difficult for a person to force himself to get out of bed and brush his teeth, that he feels completely overwhelmed by the need to do so.
Communicating with loved ones becomes an impossible task - without emotional resources, you cannot take care of someone, be sensitive and empathetic, just talk. Not everyone is able to endure months or years alongside a person who cannot invest in a relationship, who needs patience and care.
Sometimes people with depression are unable to even leave their home. They do not feel strong enough to ask for help, even if they want to do it and need support.
7. Do not take to heart if a loved one violates your plans or does not communicate with you as often as you would like. Remember that if you are greatly worried, the fact that a loved one is depressed and does not accept help is better to discuss it with your psychologist.
8. If your partner opens up to you and shares his feelings, realize how difficult it was for him to do so and go for a revelation. No one wants to be a burden or be called a "whiner." No one wants to feel what is being imposed, interfering with the happiness of another person. No one wants to upset others.
Calling for support is the most courageous and difficult thing that a depressed person can decide on.
Respect it.
Do not scornfully answer: "Well, let me know when it will be better for you, so that we can meet," "You just need to get it out of your head and that's it!" or "You have to learn to stand firmly on your feet."
Empathy, empathy and more empathy!
9. Guilt, shame and embarrassment people experience very painful. A person suffering from depression, it is difficult to allow others to see this part of their soul.
If they share their deepest feelings with you, let them know that there is nothing shameful or indecent about being depressed.
They have entrusted you with a very fragile and vulnerable part of themselves. Do not destroy this intimacy by devaluing their pain or by laughing at it. Mental illness is anything but ridiculous.
10. People suffering from depression feel like nonentities.
They may know that this is not true, but they still feel that way. Do not appeal to the logic or reason of a person, but begin with the most basic things - love, which is expressed in actions.
A person suffering from depression can hardly tell you what he needs. Pain and a feeling of isolation from the world and worthlessness accompany him constantly, and the person feels himself drowning in them.
You will not ask a person who is drowning, how can you help? Does your husband have depression? You should not hope him questions about what you can do for him.
Jump into the water. Save Do something.
But, remember that for some time you will not receive returns until a person begins to recover. This is a difficult path, because in reality, depression is a serious disease, with a threat to life. Only the soul suffers, not the body. And right now you need to show your patience and love. Imagine that normal human life for your man now is running, and he has both legs broken. And he will run, but time is needed.
