Certainly, many of us often ask the question "why does the world around me so easily deprive me of happiness?". Indeed, our inner state of mind is very dependent on external factors, circumstances, meetings, words and even views. Someone did not give way at a crossroads, someone got nasty in a queue, lost keys, ran out of gas, the partner did not sign the contract. All these moments sadden us and leave an imprint not only on our mood, but also on our work, relations with family and friends.
If we are not just witnesses, but participants or even the culprits of unpleasant situations, then the mood that has fallen in this case is at least explicable.
And it so happens that someone unfamiliar wanted to just throw their negatives on us, and we accepted him with open arms. Unconscious and even stupid act - to clean up other people's energy shells. There are several reasons for the negatives occurring in our life.
Laziness is a source of negative emotions.
Not only that laziness prevents us from living, which drives us to the sofa and slips the remote control from the TV, but the one that lulls our soul, emotions, dulls the feelings and responsibility. Any circumstance that happens in life requires a definite reaction from us, and the emotional state and mood depend on the quality of this reaction.
If we don’t want to control our feelings, avoid mental activity, pass over troubles, then this is the most common laziness of the soul. It is much easier to get upset, upset, hide, than to do something, change the situation, think over words that help smooth the conflict or avoid it altogether.
Getting out of a depressive state, solving a problem, finding an answer to a sensitive question - all this requires spiritual effort and work from us. We must meet with someone, do something, ask for help, pray, talk heart to heart, sign up for a psychologist. Only as a result of actions the problem will move, the consciousness will clear and good mood will return to us.
Peace and solitude, and together with them inactivity are useful in order to come to terms with the loss and accept the inevitable and irreparable changes in life, but this state should not last long. Depression does not sleep. You need to control your feelings, analyze, make volitional decisions. In short, it is necessary to work the soul.
Harm and benefits of installations from childhood
In adulthood, we bring from childhood firmly established, "mature" installation. The behavior of our parents imperceptibly becomes our behavior, their beliefs influence our way of life, their moral guides our actions. But where is the evidence that this suits us? Indeed, in most cases, their installation - it is restrictions, doubts, indecision, excessive care, comparison with other children.
For many of us, parents did not even explain that there is no good without bad things, that failures and falls are a natural part of life. Without difficulties, not to reach heights, not to become a happy, self-sufficient person.
Only by discarding all installations, and having developed a personal life plan for yourself, you can find your place in the world, choose your own way.
If you feel that parental programming interferes, restricts your life, give it up and follow only personal beliefs.
We owe much to our families and friends, as they serve as our support, support and source of inspiration. They teach us to love, be friends, share, win, choose, match. This is the best and take with you on the road!
Public opinion: what is it eaten with?
Imposes a mark on our emotional behavior and opinion of "society". What is accepted in society is reproduced, as a rule, by us. We are sad, like everyone else, because of failure; become prickly with those who criticize; With caution, we accept everything new. Such a reaction does not surprise anyone; on the contrary, they sympathize with us and provide support.
But you can react differently! Not to cling to the understanding and sympathy of others, but to get out of the general system and work out an individual program to respond to any negative situations. We must learn to see the good in everything, accept events and move forward. To welcome criticism and to find in it a constructive grain, allowing to grow and develop. Be bold and more often think about risk and champagne.
Own firm positive attitude will always be in emotional balance. Great mood is an integral companion of optimists.
My life is in my hands
The less we are looking for the perpetrators of our troubles, the more stable and stable our good mood. It's all about responsibility, which will not allow you to go with the flow and passively observe the events.
Our mood, our thoughts, actions, our whole life - this is only a personal responsibility and no one else. Without blaming anyone, not expecting other changes in our fate, we will be able to keep the feeling of inner happiness under any external circumstances.
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