The pledge of strong reliable relationships between a man and a woman is not only in trust, but also in caring and joint pastime.
The girl, devoid of the attention of a partner, begins feel useless and abandoned.
The article gives advice on how to correct the situation, describes effective ways on how to pay attention to the girl.
Why does she lack attention?
If a girl complains that the guy doesn't pay attention - most likely the relationship does not last the first month.
At the initial stage, a couple in love spend all their free time together.
When feelings and emotions decline a little, men tend to go to work or a hobby. Sometimes - forgetting about the interests of the second half.
The main problem observed in a relationship is related to attention - no contact during the day. A loving girl can calmly relate to the workload of a man at work.
But if he didn’t even send an SMS within a day, didn’t spend five minutes on the social network with her, the girl feels abandoned. And sometimes he thinks of the reasons for such a dismissive attitude.
In addition to the lack of direct communication, the girl may notice the coldness in the behavior of the partner.
When at a joint pastime young man is closed emotionally, reluctantly or spontaneously answers questions, does not initiate topics for conversation, does not embrace or kiss his beloved.
Detachment of a nearby person suspicious, a woman can think out the reasons for such behavior, which does not correspond to the real state of affairs.
What if a girl demands it?
The first thing is to listen and look at your behavior.
Perhaps a man without himself noticing lost interest in the girl or became closed for talking, ceased to show feelings and care.
A man may stop showing love because of difficulties at work or in relationships with friends, parents.
After the girl expressed her concern over the situation, it is necessary to analyze the last month of the relationship. Do a search for reasonswhich led to a decrease in time spent together.
In other words - to understand yourself. There can be two main reasons:
- Time-consuming problems. This is an objective factor. In this case, it is worth telling the girl about them. If she truly loves a man, she will not only listen and motivate him to solve problems, but also offer her help.
And, of course, such a heart-to-heart talk eliminates incompleteness, since it will reveal the real reasons for a man’s employment.
- Missing interest in the girl. And “deeds” are just an excuse for not spending time together. In this case, the guy should decide - whether he wants to continue to meet or should stop the relationship. But first - to understand why the interest was gone and whether it is possible to return to the previous level, when the clock in the company of the second half flew by unnoticed.
After stating your position and calm explanation of the reasons, you need to follow the reaction of the girl.
If she understands the position of a man and treats him with sincere care, respects as a person - she will take part, at least - emotional.
At this stage, you can recognize the unpleasant type of girls with a selfish character. For such ladies, it is important not just attention, but daily presence nearby.
They do not want to hear about the difficulties and failures of their partner, treat it consumerly in every sense. Including - claim to its main irreplaceable resource - time.
If the girl responded knowingly, not making a scandal, then in the future it is necessary to correct the strategy of behavior with her. Namely - to show more interest and attention.
How to do this is described in the last section of the article.
What does it mean to pay attention?
Basically - it's about doing things demonstrating the importance of a loved one.
Compliments, going to the movies, traveling by car, even just spending time together on the couch are good ways to show continued interest in a partner.
But it is worth warning men of that category of girls who demand attention to themselves as main attribute of relationships.
In fact, on their part, this is not at all about rendered signs of disposition, but about attachment and dependence. The purpose of these ladies - to suppress the will of men and manage it.
Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to understand - does a girl really feel reduced male activity, fading feelings, or simply trying to manipulate and play on feelings of guilt.
Even when meeting with a normal adequate woman, it is necessary to remember the sense of proportion. Attention, too, should not be too much - otherwise you can spoil the relationship and get their stupidity, simultaneously forgetting about work, friends and important matters.
Therefore, it is not necessary to rush into the pool with the head and carry out with the second half 24 hours a day.
Ways
How to show attention to the girl?
There are lots of ways show a girl your love and location.
It is important to pay attention to the details - short correspondence, call, SMS.
The main thing - regularity. When rushing to work, it’s quite realistic to spend five minutes on a telephone conversation. It is better to talk for five minutes at the end of the day than not to call at all.
You can pay attention to several methods. For simplicity, they are broken down by classification:
- Temporary. Spending time together. Ways to mass - watching movies at home, walk in the fresh air. The main thing is to be near, to communicate, to exchange thoughts and ideas.
Not less important is non-verbal communication - touching, hugging, kissing.
- Verbal. In addition to active actions, you should not forget about words. The phrases “You are the smartest among me”, “I am proud of you”, “No one can ever cook better than you” - they single out a girl against the rest. It is most effective to notice its unique features that truly distinguish it from others. Compliments should be based on real actions, qualities of character. Otherwise, the words of a man can be perceived as irony, mockery or unfounded flattery.
If a girl has a hobby, hobbies in which reaches heights - do not forget to celebrate it, praise your beloved for small victories. By the way, do not compare your girlfriend with others in a negative light. This not only causes jealousy of your partner, but can also significantly affect her self-esteem. - Material. Gifts are one of the most effective methods to show your girlfriend that she is important. Flowers on March 8 and birthday are only twice a year and, naturally, not enough. You should not take this principle as a call to overwhelm your beloved with gifts every day. In sincere relationships, which are based on mutual love, and not on mercantile considerations, the price is not so important. The fact itself is important - the man is ready to please the girl with gifts.
Even a sudden bouquet of three roses, accompanied by a chocolate or a box of chocolates will please the partner.
- Entertaining. Joint trips to the cafe, theater, cinema. This also includes trips to nature, to the country, etc. It is important that the activity be interesting to both partners and equally fascinating to everyone. Joint actions make relationships stronger, because they open up new facets of the characters of partners, help to know a loved one better.
- Sex. If there are problems in the intimate sphere, the woman feels them very thinly and can react sharply. The coldness in the sexual life manifested by the man grieves the girl. Sometimes - leads to the thought of the appearance in the life of his beloved lover. Therefore, regularity and diversity in the sexual aspect of relationships is one of the central ones. This also includes flirting and flirting with simple communication. Sexual signs remind the representatives of the weaker sex that they are desired and important for a regular partner.
- Help in business. A man often gives a shoulder when his woman needs help and support. It can be expressed both in words and in real actions. Dealing with problems, giving good advice, becoming mentors in those issues in which the guy is competent is a great way to pay attention.
Moreover, such actions show reliability, responsibility and dedication in a man - qualities that are especially valued by the weaker sex.
- Attention to detail. Item related to the tips above. Gifts, compliments, words of approval and admiration should be personalized. Treat it to her. For example, the girl is engaged in the gym, and the guy comes from work before her.
Knowing that she will return home tired, he can take over the dinner. It is useful to record (remember - not work) memorable dates. For example, the date of the first date or a kiss, the first trip to the cinema or a walk, remembered by something special. Extraordinary cases that brought a lot of positive emotions. Women appreciate such moments and are very happy when a guy remembers this and arranges a surprise timed to the event.
If a girl has a hobby, hobbies in which reaches heights - do not forget to celebrate it, praise your beloved for small victories. By the way, do not compare your girlfriend with others in a negative light. This not only causes jealousy of your partner, but can also significantly affect her self-esteem.
Knowing that she will return home tired, he can take over the dinner. It is useful to record (remember - not work) memorable dates. For example, the date of the first date or a kiss, the first trip to the cinema or a walk, remembered by something special. Extraordinary cases that brought a lot of positive emotions. Women appreciate such moments and are very happy when a guy remembers this and arranges a surprise timed to the event.The methods described in the article really work and are capable of strengthen communication between loved ones.
In addition, it is important to maintain a balance and not go to extremes - a constant presence near is just as destructive for a relationship as the lack of proper attention to a loved one.
What if a woman manipulates and demands gifts? Anti-manipulation:
