Of the diversity of the states of the human psyche, one of the most dangerous and destructive is yearning.
This pressing feeling, gradually, gradually, as if corrosion corrodes the psyche of the individual. It is a whiff of a raw, dank drape overwhelming the muscles with a painful spasm, twisting the joints on a red-hot skewer. It is a poisonous mold, corrosive to the nervous system, sending poisoned impulses to all vital organs.
And if it is possible to somehow find points of contact with other psychological states of the soul and mind, use them for your own purposes, for your own benefit. Then with such a concept as yearning "conversation" should be as short and unambiguous. Compromises do not go. Take no prisoners.
What is longing.
The concept of "Tosca" has at least two definitions, two varieties.
- The states of anguish, caused and fed by characters, events, surroundings, are in the present space-time moment.
- Longing for those who remained in the past, who were lost forever. Longing for the socio - political system, the community, the territories irrevocably sunk into oblivion.
We yearn for here and now.
This is the most difficult, most difficult to eradicate option melancholy. This is a longing for a person who has rejected you or who has been rejected by you, who lives in the next house, in the next street, in the same city .... Yes, actually, what's the difference where he lives. The mere realization that it is, but is not available, squeezes the throat with a death grip, blocks the access of oxygen to the lungs, squeezes, and makes you stop and again, your heart beat furiously.
This is a longing for a lost, missed opportunity. She, this opportunity seems to be as it is. And somewhere, very close. But you already realize that she is lost once and for all. And again it pinched in the chest, disgustingly - painfully ached under the scapula.
Tosca can also paralyze, at the moment of understanding the hopelessness, hopelessness of being in general, or in a single country in particular, at the moment of realizing the futility of attempts to break out of the vicious circle, change the motion vector, the direction of development ...
What actions to take in the first option.
It is very important to clearly understand no compromises. No collaboration. Ruthless and merciless destruction of any manifestations of anguish in the above or similar variants.
Analyze the personality, the circumstances, the material components of the causes and effects that allowed the longing to take root and flourish in your mind.
You can not even get involved in impartiality. On the contrary, analyze with predilection. Actively lobby your interests. Yes, in the end, pour out a tub of dirt on the subject and cause of your longing.
Ask yourself a question. If you are attached to longing and despondency, will there be a change for the better? Will there be solutions to the problem? I think that you already know the answer. Not! Not! And no!
Therefore, erase your melancholy into powder. Visualize this process, imagine it in all its glory, with all the details. Rend it, incinerate and develop dust in the intergalactic space. Get mad at melancholy. Fall into a frenzy, into a frenzy. Destroy it in any way available to your imagination.
And remember again. No compromise!
Longing for the past - it will not return.
If a reason for longing - The loss of a person close to you, a close being, poke for a while, but see that this feeling does not become a depression. In this case, of course, you will not attribute the longing to a constructive feeling, but there is something light in it.
You need to understand that the longing for lost people, domestic animals, irretrievably gone times, you can not win completely, once and for all. This feeling will then diminish, subside, then flare up with fire with a new force. An unsurpassed understanding of the essence of such a process was embodied by the author of the "Bakhchisarai Fountain".
Just keep in mind only positive, bright features, moments, features. Let the recurring melancholy of a similar sense be akin to the peace experienced at the time of Golden Autumn. Sad but bright. Beautiful as the colors of autumn. Paints, symbolizing dying off and inevitable revival at the same time.
Do not blame yourself for anything. Firmly learn one truth known to everyone: "Time heals."
Conclusion
There are no universal recipes how to overcome melancholy. Everyone is destined to go through their own unique path.
However, I would like to once again remind you of several immutable rules that help at least to reduce or completely eliminate the negative impact of anguish on a person.
Do not be lazy - no compromise.
Full, clear awareness of the causes and futility of indulgence. The destructiveness of manifestations of passivity in regard to longing
Fight for your "I", for your cloudless world. The fight is ruthless and merciless.
Victory and only victory!
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