Tips for guys: how to start a conversation with a girl first?

Young people have a question about how to start a conversation with a girl quite often.

Do not be afraid of their insecurity, everything comes with experience. Psychologists will tell you how find an approach to the opposite sex.

How can a guy start chatting with girls?

If you have not had a girlfriend, then doubts, and whether I like the natural sensations of a young man.

Understand that young girls are also worried about whether they like the guy, what impression they make, what to say and how to look the most profitable.

Any little things are important in communication:

how do you look. Pay attention to clothing, style, neatness;
as you say - features of speech, intonation, voice;
how much you know how to keep up the conversation, choose a suitable topic and avoid unpleasant questions;
self-confidence - girls do not need indecisive guys who doubt every word and action;
sense of humor - the ability to laugh and laugh at themselves.

Even status in a small social group can make a difference whether you are a leader by nature or your peers reject you.

In fact, we cheat more. We think about how other people will perceive us, and this causes unnatural behavior. It seems to us that we are not worthy of communication, therefore we are not in a hurry to make contact.

You may be embarrassed or scared by a very beautiful and popular girl.

Watching her and hesitating, you just can not meet, in the end, it makes someone else.

How to start chatting? A girl attracted your attention - smile to her, say “hello”. Usually it does not require much effort. The greeting should be benevolent and bold. Be prepared to continue the conversation.

Greeting - this is only a preliminary stage, then you need to continue the dialogue and make sure that the girl has a good impression from you. Surely you have topics that you understand.

But it is important to consider whether it will be interesting to the girl herself. To start a conversation, choose a neutral topic. It's easier to start a conversation when you have common themes, for example, you go to one pool, often meet in transport or near your house, you cross in a cafe.

Find out where the girl you like is, but do not turn into a too obvious pursuer so as not to frighten her.

note on more successful people in terms of communication. What are they doing. How to talk. Look at their facial expressions, body movements, the reaction of others.

Why is it so difficult to start a conversation for the first time?

Experience gained over time. No one becomes a cool communicator the first time.

As soon as you decide to start dating a girl, you begin to think how to do it right.

You have to cross the barrier of uncertainty, and this is normal. Every new person in your life - unique personalityrequiring a different approach.

We are afraid of failures. For insecure people, refusal is a blow to self-esteem, which is why it is so important to improve the qualities of your psyche, work on personality traitsstrengthen the nervous system.

Analyze failures, draw conclusions and change your behavior.

Psychological advice and practical recommendations

How to start communicating with a girl? Psychologists and coaches long ago developed wayshow best to start communication with the opposite sex.

Sometimes spontaneity - The best way to make contact. Like a girl - come here.

No need to show over arrogance - all should be in moderation.

But the timidity and uncertainty will immediately tell the young lady that you have little experience in communication.

How to start communication:

Eye contact is important. Do not hide your eyes, but do not look all the time hard in the eyes, so as not to frighten the girl. If you intersect periodically with the same person, for example, in transport, smile, look a couple of seconds in the eyes, showing your interest.
Do not delay too long the moment of dating, showing your indecision. The look should be confident, friendly.
Choose the right time. Not the best option when she is surrounded by her friends. This familiarity is suitable for experienced guys. Yes, and next to other girls acquaintance may not take place. You can talk to her when you go together in the same direction. Such dating is convenient to do in transport or in the store. Say that you are not the first time you meet her, offer to meet. It is not very convenient to try to start a conversation when she is late for work.
As one of the options to start dating - make a compliment. But do not overdo it - the girl should be nice, and at the same time you should not embarrass her.

Having become acquainted, continue the conversation.

Prepare in advance a few matching neutral phrases and topics.

The first acquaintance is usually short.

Do not forget contacts, profiles in social networks.

How to start a conversation?

This is very important since first impression - the brightest.

Greeting. Easy enough to “hello” or more formally “good afternoon”.
This is an elementary politeness and the opportunity not to frighten the young lady with a sharp pressure. Show your friendly attitude.
Ask a questionwhich she will not be able to give a definite answer yes or no. For example, you can ask about the breed of dog with which she walks. Or ask the store to help you in choosing the most delicious cheese.
Tell mewhat an interesting hair color she has, how a blouse goes to her, what an unusual look she has, how easily she moves on rollers.
Thank for help if you asked a girl about something, and then ask for a phone number.

Remember the sense of humor. If a woman laughs, she will already be more disposed towards the man. Laughter is credible, liberating.
Make a small gift, non-binding - donate a balloon, a flower from a flower bed, offer to be treated with a cup of coffee if you meet in a cafe.

Talking about myself don't brag - your task is to interest. Ask the girl a couple of questions about her, but you do not see the interrogation, do not immediately ask about the personal.

You can offer to exchange phone numbers or meet tomorrow at the same place.

How to meet on the street?

Many guys are afraid to go to the girl on the street - she can hurry, be out of mood or she already has someone. However, without attempting to meet, you never know if you had a chance.

Look at the girl - it is likely that she is also interested in you. Smile a little and notice her reaction.

How to talk? You can just come up and say:

- Hello, girl, can I meet you?

- Hello, my name is Roman, I saw you and decided to meet you.

Don't try to hug her right away, like some guys do thinking they are cool pick-ups. It will frighten the girl, and on this acquaintance will end.

If you are traveling together in transport, give her a hand at the exit, ask what kind of music she is listening to.

If a girl goes to contact, you can ask about the place of work or how she spends her free time - it is likely that you will find common interests, and this will be an occasion to meet again.

How to resume communication with the former girlfriend?

First you need to understand whether you really need it and why. Maybe you hope yourself to return the old relationship. But does the girl want it?

If you broke up, then there was a definite reason for this, and it is likely that the former partner is hostile to you.

Write to her in social networks, ask how are you, what has changed in her life, do you need any help. Sincerely interested, but do not be unnecessarily intrusive if she still does not want to communicate.

Most dangerous - go down again to clarify the relationship and find the reasons why you broke up. So you can not achieve friendship.

If you met her on the street, ask how are you, discuss mutual friends, ask does she need any help.

It is necessary to understand that in order to pass hostility and the girl did not test for you the former negative, time needs to pass.

Standard errors

Few people manage to avoid communication errors. But, knowing them, you can reduce the number of failures.

Major mistakes:

Too defiant behavior. The guy believes that he is irresistible, and all the girls should be crazy about him.
The guy is “too cute”. It seems that this should attract, but in fact for a permanent relationship, girls value masculinity and ability to protect more.
Attempt to "buy location". Gifts are loved by all the girls, but you have to understand that on the first date you should not try to appease the girl by showing your financial capabilities. This can lead to relationships for profit.
Don't immediately talk about feelings, even if you are in love with a girl for a long time.
This may scare her, because she does not yet know you. Relationships should develop gradually and naturally.
The guy gives the girl the opportunity to decide what to do.. Thus you show your indecision. Be active, offer leisure options. No need to unconditionally fulfill any women's requests - in fact, it does not have to itself, but causes only a consumer attitude and reduces the level of respect for a man.

Indecision. You want to kiss a girl, she understands it, but you are afraid to take the initiative, you are nervous, worried, you blush.
Too pushy - you immediately hug, kiss, offer from the first date to continue a more intimate acquaintance. There is a category of women who will agree to this. But a girl looking for a serious relationship will be scared, disappointed and will try to move away from you.