If you married a man who has a child from his first marriage, then your task is to be able to build good relations with the child. In no case do not forbid the husband to communicate with his own child. Yes, he did not manage to save his family for the first time, now he has fallen in love with you, but children, as we know, are not former.
In addition, the child needs paternal support. And the fact that he, despite the bad relations with his ex-wife, continues to take part in the life of the baby, characterizes the man from the positive side. If you take the situation calmly, it will not affect your family happiness. Be wiser.
Giving advice about parenting, do not criticize, act softly. Otherwise, you risk hearing unpleasant phrases addressed to you, and your husband will no longer consult with you.
Do not say anything bad about your beloved's ex-wife, even if he himself sometimes allows himself to speak out rudely. This is his point of view, but in fact this woman may not be as bad as her husband described to you, who sees the situation, again, from her side. If she is opposed to you unfriendly or even hostile, then try in any case not to be like her behavior.
As for the husband’s own child from his first marriage, for him, probably, mom would be a “victim of circumstances”, and dad - the culprit of divorce. In any case, this is most often the case.
Accept the fact that your husband has a son or daughter for granted. Often there are situations that the irritating factor is not a baby at all, but a former spouse as an object for jealousy. When the husband goes to the child, in any case he has to communicate with his ex-wife. But you shouldn't be jealous, because at the moment he is next to you, and the other woman is in the past. Communicating with the baby, be friendly, but do not try to make friends. Children always feel an attitude, so you must choose the right course of action.
Alina, St. Petersburg
