Most couples, entering into marriage, expect to live together happily ever after. Treason is disrespectful to a partner and can destroy a family. However, there are cases (if you ask a question and study the forums, they are not so rare) when the husband deliberately pushes his half to sex on the side. Scientifically, this is called a syndrome of provoked treason. The reasons for this behavior may be several.
- Diffidence
As a rule, men who insist on betraying a wife with another partner are not sure of their own sexual viability and ability to satisfy their woman. Often such cases are found in families where the husband is significantly older than the wife. He is afraid that a woman lacks his masculine strength and therefore voluntarily “gives up” her, so that she stays with him. At the same time, a man does not always want a woman to cheat, he “secures himself” so that in case of problems in bed, she knows that she can make a lover quite legally without destroying the family.
- Psychological complexes
Men who suffer from a kind of psychological masochism provoke treason. The basis of this are the complexes that have arisen in deep childhood. Most likely, such a person did not receive enough maternal love, or even grew up without a mother. Thus, in the present, he loses the situation of the possible loss of his beloved (namely, beloved) woman, after which he becomes easier.
- Lack of diversity in family life
If the partners have lived together for many years, the passion and desire have passed, then the man may include fantasy. His imagination draws incredible scenes in which his wife plays the main role, and this stirs interest, having a positive effect on sexual activity. In this case, it is not necessary that the betrayal were real. It's easier to play along with your partner, periodically writing new stories about the next partner.
How does it all start?
Not always a man can directly declare his desire - because it really looks quite strange. And if a husband who is afraid of adultery, tries to make his wife spend less time outside the house, especially in the evenings and “spree” with friends, our hero will in every way contribute to this pastime. Then he can begin to insist that his wife met with the guys, and then told him everything. Well, the culmination of the moment - the husband directly tells the woman that he wants her to cheat on him.
In some cases, it can reach the point that the husband asks to record everything that happens on the video, then to watch.
What to do in this situation?
If you are worried about relationships and do not want to change your beloved man, then you should start talking. If your husband is afraid of breaking and for this reason gives you a freedom that you don’t really need - tell him about it. Try to spend more time together outside the home, convince him how important he is to you and that you are not interested in any other respects. Feeling self-confident, your man can refuse such hints.
If this is more serious, then you have to play along. If a man requires you to document the treason - ask him to issue his request in writing. This will either cool him off, or you will have a paper confirming the "legality" of the incident. In any case, such a move will not be superfluous.
Of course, in the presence of such features, it is better to contact a specialist who can examine the deep causes of such behavior and give the necessary recommendations.
