Life consists of joys and sorrows, successes and failures, luck and difficulties. There must be a balance in everything. You must admit that the joy of victory is felt by every cell after numerous failures, the happiness that a loved one is near, can only be truly appreciated by those who have suffered from loneliness before. But sometimes it seems that the black stripe has been delayed, failures follow one after another, hands are falling and the thought appears that you do not want to live.
Where do you get strength from?
Let's try to figure out what to do when such really scary thoughts arise in your head. Let us be frank, in most cases they do not speak about the desire to die, but testify that the person has run out of strength to fight the difficulties of life. You do not want to live. You do not like the life that you have. If so, you need to find something that will awaken your energy in you. But first you need to calm down and accept the situation as it is. Unfortunately or fortunately (no one knows what event for what is happening in our life in fact), we cannot influence everything that happens to us. Therefore, learning to accept as is - the vital need of a person who wants to feel harmony.
Take a break. If you have been struggling and tired for a long time, then you must have made a lot of unnecessary and, as it now seems, stupid actions. This is understandable and normal. Forgive yourself your mistakes. Take a break from the hustle and bustle that surrounded you. If it turns out - take a vacation and just do nothing. Allowing the nervous system to unload is the best thing you can do now. Every person is valuable and important. And you came to this world for a reason. Even if at the moment the situation with friends or relatives has developed not the best way, just believe, someone is looking for you, someone wants to listen to you and talk to you, hug, present support and ask for help. You are a good person who knows how to feel (insensitive people don’t think that they don’t want to live), which means to love, rejoice, wait. It's priceless. Do not take away from this beautiful world.
What to do?
Now it's time to think. What caused you to die? Give up the beautiful sunrises and sunsets, long emotional conversations with loved ones, give up the million chances that life gives every day? A person, deciding on such a step, wants to destroy not himself, but the situation in which he was. And in fact, there are 2 solutions - you or you can change something - then change, take yourself in hand, get up and move on to your goal. How else?
Miracles happen extremely rarely and no one will bring anything on a silver platter. Go to your goals you need to go stubbornly, bravely, with pressure. Look at the problem from the other side, perhaps there are solutions that you have not seen. But maybe you spent all that time on something you really didn’t need, didn’t go there? Thank your destiny for stopping you in time, decide on a new route and go again! There are never hopeless situations - there are solutions that do not suit us.
If there is no strength to go further
Sometimes people really face problems that are difficult to find a way out of. As a rule, these are health-related situations - of your own or close people. Here everything is more complicated, because we cannot influence them. Sometimes a person has too many obligations, and he simply does not stand. It happens that a person who needs to feed children loses his job. And in a period of despair, thoughts of suicide arise. But will the situation be solved with your death? If there is someone who depends on you - you have no right to leave.
There are people who are greatly hampered by problems with appearance or violation of communication skills. Such people want to recommend a consultation with a psychologist. If an external defect cannot be corrected, then you will have to come to terms with its presence and with the fact that the views of others around you periodically linger on you. And yet, modern medicine can work wonders - try to find out all the options that it can offer you.
Problems with communication can be caused by fears from childhood or some kind of situation that a person has experienced in adulthood. One way or another, the need to communicate with other people causes panic. It is best in such a situation to consult a specialist and find out the cause of discomfort in communication, to find out what steps the psychotherapist recommends in your particular case. If your work is connected with a large number of people and therefore it furiously annoys you - try changing jobs. Surely, you have repeatedly thought about it, but something did not work out. But you understand that a lot of people are constantly looking for work, and surprisingly, they find it.
Is it worth it to rush that itself will come?
Your care will not change anything. If you want to leave after a loved one, then someone may follow you. Look into your soul. We need to find the answer to a difficult question: what is the meaning of your life? Most people rarely think about it, they just go to work and come back from it, ensuring their existence.
If you feel that something is wrong with your life, you cannot realize yourself, then you are on your way to a response. Those who understand the meaning, say only one thing - you have to give.
You can give in different variations, but in each of them you give a piece of yourself, kind and warm, to another person. Only by giving a person becomes stronger and freer. You can always find someone who needs help. Think about the fact that sooner or later, life will end and no one will ask you about whether you are ready for this. Imagine that it will be the day after tomorrow. And you have one day. One day to help loved ones, to say that you love, to do something good, to be remembered, to give someone joy. Do you have time? Live like this week, month, year - as much as you need.
It's a shame that people are ready to part with life because of stupid things. Because of unrequited love (are you sure that this is your man, that you would be happy and not bend every minute just so that you would not be abandoned?) Or because the promotion was given to a work colleague (perhaps It is necessary to temper pride, adequately assess the ability or find a job where you will appreciate). As a rule, people faced with real difficulties (parents of sick children) do not think that they can die. They have meaning and purpose. Often, people who have lost their physical health, too, get out of the most difficult situations, holding out only on their desire to live.
I want to finish with a rather well-known phrase: “When it is difficult for me, I remind myself that if I give up, it will not become easier”. Do not give up, the black stripe can not be eternal, and shorten it - in your power.
