5 efficient systems to control life

5 positive attitudes to establish 100% control over your own life

In real life, people are accustomed to blaming everyone for their troubles except themselves. There is an interesting story about this. It was late evening when a man named N. was returning home. He saw the picture of how his longtime comrade V. was searching for lost keys on an apartment under the lamp of a flashlight. He offered him help. After two unsuccessful hours of searching, N. inquired whether V. had lost the keys here. The answer struck him: "no, just look here for the light."

This fictional story emphasizes the attitude of most people to the difficulties of life, which "prevent" to achieve true success. In order to become a winner, and not a victim of external factors, first of all it is necessary to realize that the result of everything that happens depends on only one person. And this wizard is you. Once this step is done, you must fully take responsibility for your own destiny.
Full responsibility presupposes a person’s readiness for everything that happens in life to be carried out through his fault. You are the magnet of all victories and defeats, which predetermines the consequences of what happened.
This life position resembles a concrete foundation that allows you to build a victorious skyscraper of life happiness. Without such a philosophy it is impossible to achieve anything. Consider five psychological attitudes that help successful people to take responsibility for their own lives.
1. Justification = death penalty
Forget about the negative past. Let all past failures become for you an empty sound. A strong person always acts, changes, tolerates and achieves the desired goal. But he never justifies himself full of past bumps.
A good way to get rid of the fear of possible defeat is to ask the right questions:

How did it happen?
What was not done?
Is the plan good and did I follow it clearly?
What needs to be changed next time to achieve the desired effect? Etc.

Questions open the door. The clearer and more specific they are, the faster progress will be.
2. Change life components
Situation (C) + Action (D) = Result (P)
This simple equation characterizes everything that happens in our lives. If something does not suit, then a dilemma of choice arises:
? Blame in own failure (P) the situation (C) or forced action (D). This is tantamount to a complaint about the weather, the environment, politics, health, the economy, etc. Naturally, no one is immune from unforeseen situations, but if they were fundamental, no one would have achieved anything grand. Remember! There are thousands of people in the world who have found the cherished loophole of success in the most unsightly circumstances.
? Change your actions (D) to the situation (C) and make adjustments until the desired result (P) is achieved. The problem is that a person is a complex of conserved habits, which is more convenient for many years to endure and suffer than to acquire new skills and do your favorite business. To overcome this circle, it is advisable to think daily, act and speak clearly in accordance with its core values.
? When you do not like the result (P), you need to urgently make adjustments to your actions (D). Suppose one lucky winner won $ 10,000,000. Two situations automatically arise with the opposite result:
1) Situation - $ 10,000,000 of random income;
Action - 5 years of carefree life;
The result - the emptying of the account and return to everyday life.
2) Situation - $ 10,000,000 of random income;
The action - the study of financial literacy for 3-5 years;
The result is a comfortable existence for the rest of your life.
Everyone knows the phrase that the same actions lead to the same results. So why are so few people really starting to change something.
3. Taboo on complaints and insults
A person always complains only about what he can change by his own efforts, but for some reason does not do this. This statement is easy to prove. Everyone knows the power of attraction from school. Why does nobody complain about it? After all, if it did not exist, then many troubles could be forgotten forever. However, it can not be changed, so stupid to complain. Human problems are much simpler. You can always find another job, make more money, build happier relationships, etc. Changes are real, but rarely possible. After all, for the result you need to take risks and make awkward decisions. Only the one who is fully focused on the result can dare to take such a step. Successful people learn to perform actions and make requests to other people to achieve the desired effect. Only this recipe works.
4. Listen for warning signals
All events take place have their meaning. The problem is that because of his passivity and the ferocity of not wanting to do something and change, a person is not able to decipher the warning signals of fate in time. They can manifest themselves in everything (suspicions, hints, feelings, feedback, etc.). Timely diagnosis of signals is necessary to change the terms of the life equation. Without them, a person simply goes with the flow of events and loses control over what is happening.
Signal: low income -> adjustment of life equation
Ordinary work (C) + stable schedule (D) = Low earnings (P) ->
Ordinary work (C) + stable schedule + part-time job (D) = substantial capital gains (P)
5. Just achieve the result.
Success in any field is easier than it seems. However, simply does not mean easy. Between these concepts lies a huge chasm called the process. For example:
The goal (to reduce the total body weight by 30 kg) -> Process (6 months of strict sports and nutritional regime) -> Result (the body will lose 30 kg in 6 months).
Everything is clear and simple, however, only people with a serious attitude and a store of patience can do it.
Successful people use a simple formula - they do more of what is efficient and less than what ruins a person’s potential. They assess their life control according to current conditions and do not forget to make adjustments if necessary. Realize that you are the creator of your happiness. Accept it and never let someone else do it for you. Successes!
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