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What you can talk: universal tips

What can you talk about with your friends when all topics are finished? And what to discuss with unfamiliar people to avoid awkward pauses? We offer 10 thematic blocks with which the conversation can continue indefinitely, regardless of whether it is a meeting of classmates, a first date or a joint train journey.

10 topics for an interesting conversation

Hobby

You can talk endlessly about your hobbies, but is it always interesting for others to listen about them? Telling about the collected collection of stamps or the ability to fence properly with a rapier, you should avoid professional vocabulary, arrogance, and also not go into details. Hobbies - this is what you can talk with new friends, demonstrating their interest in their lives.

What do you do in your free time?

How did you discover this occupation for yourself?

For me, tourism (another hobby) is ...

Home work

These topics are not considered neutral because many do not want to talk about themselves. To questions about how things are at work or something new, in such cases they are answered with common phrases or sayings. This does not mean that the person does not trust or has a bad attitude towards the interlocutor. Most likely, at this moment he is not ready to say "clean". Especially often this happens when there are unresolved problems. For example, the boss is dissatisfied with the results of labor or at home the flooded neighbors are determined, determined to find out the circumstances of the incident. In a word, it is necessary to open this block carefully and carefully in order not to stumble upon a pitfall.

Art

Literature, cinema, music - this is what you can talk with real connoisseurs of the beautiful. Talking about art is especially important when you need to get to know a person better. After all, preferences (favorite genre, hero, author) sometimes tell about a person’s character more than his words.

There are films that have watched everything, or at least heard about them. For example, everyone is familiar with the Titanic or the Caucasian Captive, so why not share associations and emotions? To make the discussion interesting, you can prepare in advance for learning about the unusual details of filming, about the fate of the cast members, and so on.

Tourism, culture

It is always interesting to listen to impressive places, the number of which can not be considered. Probably, therefore, the transfer of the type "Around the World" are still very popular. Living stories of eyewitnesses about dishes that are set to be cooked in other regions, about quaint traditions, rituals, improvement of cities are funny and emotional topics. It is especially fascinating to listen not about facts, but about personal impressions.

If the question “What can I talk about to relieve stress?” Arises, you can safely begin the story with the replicas:

In such and such a region I saw that the inhabitants reacted in a completely different way to such situations.

I happened to somehow ...

In this block, it is appropriate to use the technique of storytelling, when an interesting story, mesmerizing the plot, conveys the necessary information. For example, about yourself, if it is a pickup.

Weather

Frank Hubbard once said: "Do not scold the weather. If it were not changeable, nine out of ten people would not be able to start a single conversation."

In his ironic statement there is a grain of truth, since the weather has always been considered a neutral-universal topic for communication. It is with her that the dialogue can begin. For example:

I remember that year at the same time we went without caps.

Amazing climate! So I grew up in a region where ...

Did not hear what weather forecasters promise for tomorrow?

Incredible

There are topics that tickle your nerves. These include stories about poltergeists, UFOs, chupacabars and other phenomena that do not have official confirmation. Probably, the love of such stories passed to us from childhood, when, having covered ourselves with a blanket, we listened attentively about the dark-dark room. It is interesting that every adult has a true story with a mystical story in the reserve, where he is the main character. One has only to touch on the subject, as many hypotheses and attempts to explain what has happened will appear.

Flora and fauna

The living world around us is just a storehouse of topics for conversation both to old friends and strangers. Do not think about what you can talk? So, it's time to remember the stories of four-legged domestic friends who surprised by their behavior and unexpected encounters with mice, spiders, snakes. This thematic block is so many-sided that, having touched it, it is possible to cause both laughter and tears.

An example of what a story might look like:

My acquaintance, being a teenager, wanted to make fun of her classmates, who were very frightened by the sudden appearance of the centipede. He boldly took the insect by one foot and raised it above his face. The guy defiantly stated that he was ready to eat it and opened his mouth. But suddenly the centipede fell out of his hands and hit him right in the mouth. Everyone laughed except the main character.

Relationship

This is the most multifaceted block of topics that, one way or another, absolutely everything is discussed. Relations between parents and children (the difference of generations), friends, loved ones, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, mother-in-law have always been the basis of literary works and the subject of gossip. The story of someone's fate, an event in the life of neighbors or personal experience can be the number one story in the dialogue.

Here are some examples of what you can talk about:

Who should be the head of the family? Is equality possible?

How to gently hint grandmothers, no matter what they interfere in raising children?

Self-knowledge

It is unlikely that someone will miss the opportunity to get to know yourself or to hear how it happened to others. To strengthen the conversation, it’s good enough to navigate one topic. For example, astrology, palmistry or fortune telling on the coffee grounds. In addition, it is always possible to attract attention with a psychological test or another interesting technique aimed at knowing oneself.

Eternal

There are special topics for conversation. Often they are raised only by soul mates. Love, fast-moving youth, true friendship, human destiny, life and death are an incomplete list of what you can talk to "your" people.

Do we run Fatum or do we forge our own happiness?

Are all ages submissive to love or are there limitations?

How to distinguish love and love?

How to become a good conversationalist

If the interlocutors have something to talk about - this is great. But for communication to be pleasant and effective, choosing one topic is not enough. Should follow the rules of conversation:

  • Do not fall asleep with questions. The next question can be asked after the person completely answers the previous one.
  • Do not interrupt, even if you want to express your appreciation.
  • Do not use abusive words, vulgarism. Avoid parasitic words, slang and dialects.
  • Watch for facial expressions, gestures and other manifestations of non-verbal speech.
  • Avoid ambiguity.
  • Before touching on the topic, think about what you can talk in this society, and what is better not to touch.
  • To show respect for the interlocutor and his opinion, even if the views do not coincide.
  • To give free rein to positive emotions. Whining, resentment, insults only repel.
  • Starting a dialogue, do not use the monosyllabic answers "yes", "no", "I do not know." If people ask a question, then they want to get a detailed answer to it, to hear a comment.
  • Do not enter the interlocutor's territory. That is, do not touch it, do not nudge and so on.
  • Be sincere. People are always slyness and honesty.

By adopting several topics we have proposed, you can confidently control the course of the conversation, support the conversation during the feast, and also avoid awkward pauses in the dialogue with unfamiliar people. Keep yourself an article so that the tips are always at hand!

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