Thousands of people visited the psychologists' offices with one question: “I don’t want to live, what to do about it?”. Since many, after meeting with specialists, they still began to live in a new way, then there is a way out. And it is simple: just try on a few different meanings of life. It is one thing to think about what can be a good incentive, and another to try it out through your own experience. What exactly are the goals of people and what can be done to gain their own life benchmark?
Look at family values
Procreation and the care of the offspring for the majority becomes the law. However, is everyone happy about this role? And is everyone aware of their true attitude to this topic? For those who are looking for their vocation, you can try for a day or two to feel these questions. What can be done to feel if a family is suitable for the place of the main goal in life:
- spend the day in the orphanage, play with the kids, bring them small gifts;
- get a nanny, a tutor, a teacher or a tutor. In some cases, you will need not so much education as desire and knowledge in some topic;
- to visit a friendly family;
- to get a dog or a cat - taking care of a living creature, the understanding of responsibility can lead to a more serious decision - the birth of a child;
- visit parents, brothers, sisters, nephews, grandmothers, grandfathers, and other close relatives;
- take part in a family event or attend classes to strengthen family ties.
However, this category includes not only parenting, waiting for grandchildren. Love is also included. And sometimes this feeling is only enough for two. It is not necessary to give birth to a son or daughter in order to live happily with your partner. There are couples who have been in a civil marriage for dozens of years, do not plan a child enjoying each other’s company. To understand whether this sense fits, you can:
- spend time, strength to find a loved one;
- spend more time with your half;
- make each other surprises, cause a smile;
- learn life together;
- dream of a shared future;
- discuss personal values to avoid misunderstandings.
Learn to earn
This item also includes two subcategories - career and wealth. For an understanding of the first goal, it is better to try:
- apply for a job where there are many competitors;
- try yourself in different professions;
- get the first serious promotion;
- achieve praise, encouragement from the authorities;
- make a tangible contribution to the development of your company, the company (win the competition, propose an original idea, an unconventional approach, etc.);
- open your own business, work on yourself.
Career race develops good excitement. So that it does not subside, you will need another trump incentive - money. But in this case there is one nuance: the desire to get an extra dollar can turn into greed. To eliminate this risk, it is better to immediately think of the use of every penny. For example, to earn the amount of new clothes, vacation abroad, building a house, helping parents, etc.
The same goes for power, popularity. They can turn the head, cause harm. Therefore, these aspirations are better encouraged in oneself only if there is a sincere desire to lead people along with them, to help them, to improve their lives.
Remember self-realization
How many people have lost their craving for life simply because they once abandoned their favorite work. The reasons are different:
- bad income;
- conviction, pressure from relatives or acquaintances;
- failure on the way to the goal, many obstacles;
- fear of failure;
- the race for false prestige;
- self-sacrifice for the sake of the family, dear man.
Looking back, such people often regret their decision, but do nothing with the situation. They do not take even the slightest step, because they consider the moment lost, the age is old, the abilities are small. However, this is another excuse. If an activity that once inspired you liked to turn in your head, you liked it, why not try it now?
I want to be a dancer - you can record in the dance studio. There is a dream to become an artist - there are so many art schools in the world. In childhood, there was a desire to travel a lot - it is never too late to think about such a matter. The main thing is decisiveness and understanding that no money, barriers or condemnations can be compared with the true happiness gained from your favorite activity.
Give the world good
Caring for others, nature gives inspiration, lightness, warmth. That is why doing good deeds is a no less important goal in life than family or career. How to understand your predisposition to good:
- sign up for volunteers;
- organize a charity event or even establish a foundation;
- do small good deeds daily;
- periodically donate money;
- take an animal from a shelter, help an orphan to find a new home;
- pay someone's purchases at the checkout in the market;
- smile sad fellow traveler;
- to join the ranks of the medical staff;
- free to throw someone in the car;
- unexpectedly play a romantic melody for a couple in love;
- draw and present a picture for no reason;
- collect garbage in a public park;
- become a blood donor.
There are so many ways to help that for a lifetime. The list does not even show a millionth of all the possibilities. The smallest good is already changing the world, if not the earth, then someone's inner. The realization that their own decisions make someone smile, and even save lives, is very warm for the soul.
To master the pleasure
Hedonism is a system of ethical values that puts pleasure above all. Hedonists prefer to see joy in the moment that they live. They know how to appreciate every second of pleasure, they see in it the highest goal. How to come to this worldview? Learn to enjoy:
- tasty food;
- high works of art - paintings, music, theatrical or choreographic productions, cinema, etc .;
- beauty in nature, man, work, in everything from the style of clothing to the structure of the aircraft;
- any kind of recreation;
- freedom, independence;
- feelings, short-term emotions, physical sensations;
- successes, achievements.
And these are just a few examples. Despite the slightly exaggerated concept, it can be well developed. Psychotherapists are taught to see good things in life and can help in this area.
Become a fighter
Fighting is another causative agent of excitement. Competitions in martial arts also fall into this category, but more refers to the life fights. Overcoming difficulties, upholding ideas, deep analysis of topics - all this can carry on for decades. How can you devote yourself to such a struggle:
- start a business from scratch, establish, develop it from the very beginning;
- to confide in the beloved work, despite the obstacles;
- attend the rally, become part of it;
- defend their point of view;
- learn something difficult that others seem impossible;
- surprise loved ones with their own success;
- to break a stereotype by example;
- find the original way out of a difficult situation;
- invent a crown movement, a psychological method, an original way to solve any problem;
- overcome your fear or even phobia.
Some individuals see meaning in encountered difficulties. They are not interested in what comes easily. Struggle for them - the meaning of all existence.
If the thought is spinning in my head “I do not want to live, what to do in order to regain meaning and happiness?”, Then there is hope for recovery. Even reading this article already proves that the desire for the best is preserved. Attempts to lift the veil, learn how to act in such a situation - the first step towards joy, well-being. The main thing - do not give up, act, try, because happiness loves perseverant. And then all the problems will disappear by themselves. Good luck!
