Many girls are sure that a man is obliged to take the initiative in a relationship, but some still risk being the first to take the first step. Here is important literacy actions ladies. After all, you can easily frighten away the representative of the stronger sex with your head. How to invite a guy to meet, to achieve its location and not seem too accessible?
Learning to take the first step correctly
Psychologists always advise girls to act slowly, without rushing into the pool with their heads. Having noticed a handsome and intelligent guy, it is necessary for some time to watch him from the side, to find out what the young man loves. The next step is getting closer. Here the representative of the weaker sex should show some kind of hidden activity, appearing in the same places where her potential lover spends time.
Each such meeting should become an event and cause a storm of emotions in a man. If the young man still does not show activity, the girl should take the initiative. How to offer a potential lover to meet?
- This event should not be a complete surprise for men. It is worthwhile to suggest starting a relationship after a walk or a kiss, when the status of the relationship seems understandable.
- A great way would be correspondence in social networks or by SMS. A girl should start by saying that she likes a man for a long time. If he answers the same, then you can offer to meet.
- If someone offends a girl, she can ask her lover to intercede for her. After that, it is necessary to emphasize how daring and strong a man is, and that the girl wants to see just such a partner nearby.
- A similar proposal can be made in a joking manner. For example. A girl can ask a potential lover to fix the computer. When he finishes, the lady should say: "Now I have to start dating you." If a man answers that he does not mind, you can kiss and fix the new status of the relationship.
Psychologists are advised not to worry in the process, since the girl’s anxiety will be transmitted to her second half. If a girl speaks confusedly, worries a lot and cannot look the guy in the eye, the risk of failure increases. If a woman is confident in herself and is not shy of her feelings, a man probably will not be able to resist.
How not to suggest a guy to meet
The fact that the man himself forges his happiness is true, but sometimes women act so unpredictably and strangely that they deprive themselves of any opportunity to find happiness. Psychologists usually give the following tips to help avoid the unpleasant refusal of a lover:
- it is not necessary to offer to meet a man until the girl is convinced of the reciprocity of feelings;
- it is necessary to prepare a speech in advance in order to look more confident and not to speak for the excitement of nonsense;
- it is recommended to look perfect at the moment of the offer so that the man doesn’t even have a thought of rejection;
- if the lover is already in a relationship, you should not even try to beat him, offering a new union;
- should not offer a relationship to an unfamiliar guy, as the risk of failure in this case increases.
Of course, it all depends on the girl, her charm and personal qualities. If we are talking about a successful and beautiful woman, then the probability of failure is extremely small. If the lady does not know how to properly file herself and impress a man, then before taking such an initiative, you should first deal with your own problems.
Another important advice that psychologists give is not to try to drag a man into a long-running relationship through sex. Some ladies are sure that if they made love to a guy, they automatically began dating.
However, such accessibility, coupled with the initiative in terms of starting a relationship, is bound to cause rejection in the man. Despite the fact that the girl herself offers to meet, she should not look overly accessible to her partner. If the lady remains mysterious, the man will definitely want to know what hides her character.
It is also important to understand the reason why a man does not take the initiative. If he is humble by nature and cannot overcome this peculiarity of character, activity on the part of the girl is permissible. However, if a man does not want to enter into a relationship and therefore does not offer them, you should not contact him. Such representatives of the stronger sex are not reliable, and they are usually interested in fleeting connections without commitment.
The girl can really become the initiator of the relationship, showing no activity peculiar to the weaker sex. However, you need to rehearse your speech competently, choosing the right moment to offer to meet. Usually, men fail to hide their feelings for a long time, so the lady’s offer becomes only a formality for the start of a beautiful and romantic love story.
