Yesterday you were with the one without which you cannot imagine your future life. She has firmly taken place in your heart, and it is her that you see in the role of your wife and mother of your future children. But today the world seemed to collapse, she was gone.
Perhaps she was tired of such a relationship, she fell out of love with you, or another man won her heart. And it does not even matter what reason pushed her to this step, because the heartache that you are experiencing now will not disappear from this. And now you need to deal with the question of how to forget the girl you love, because, having stopped thinking about her, you can finally get out of the wreckage of the collapsed world and let positive thoughts into your life and, consequently, happiness.
So let's make a plan that will help you deal with the problem:
- analyze the situation;
- to divert your attention from your beloved;
- pay attention to other girls;
- wait patiently.
Analyze the situation
I understand what chaos you have going on right now in your head. They are tormenting the thoughts: "Why did she leave, what did I do wrong, how should I live?" You are trying to find answers to each question, but they are not. You begin to indulge yourself with empty hopes that she realizes her mistake, will return, but, alas, she made the final decision and does not intend to change it. You need to come to terms with her choice, and for this it is important to analyze the situation.
Do you think that if a girl truly loved you, would she leave? No, they do not leave their loved ones. And when problems arise in relationships, quarrels become more frequent, loving people try to fix it all. They begin to fight for relationships, and not to break them, leaving in this way from the difficulties. But your sweetheart is gone, so she believes that without you her life will be better, and another man will be able to completely replace you. It is not easy to realize this, but you have to tell the truth to yourself. She will not be with you, and therefore do not need to hope and indulge yourself with empty dreams that your destinies will once again be intertwined into one. You must begin a new life in which it will never be.
But there are situations when the culprit of separation may be you. Suppose you did not appreciate your beloved while she was near you, allowed yourself to flirt with other girls, refused to help her. And once they decided to leave her completely for the sake of freedom or a new partner. But later, realizing your mistake, you tried to bring everything back, but the girl refused to forgive you, or she had already started other relationships that suit her in everything.
It's a shame, but what to do? On the one hand, you are to blame, but on the other, who does not make mistakes? Try not to blame yourself for what happened, do not consider that you have missed your happiness. On the contrary, you made a mistake, which became a life lesson for you, and, looking at it, you at least do not repeat the mistake in the future. Consider that you sacrificed a relationship in order to meet your happiness in the future.
Divert your attention
No matter how hard it is, you should try to divert your thoughts from the one you love. Immerse yourself in your work, do what you are interested in, or even try something new. For example, you have long wanted to learn how to play the guitar, but constantly found some excuses for yourself not to do it. And now, perhaps, it is time to finally fulfill your desire.
But be prepared for the fact that the work and interesting activities do not completely oust your beloved girl from your thoughts. Periodically, you will still remember her, and you will again begin to attack the feeling of resentment and sadness. At such times you will want to know how she is doing now, whether she misses you, regrets her parting. But do not try to look for answers to these questions, because by finding a way to see her, or simply by viewing her information on social networks, you only disturb the unhealed wounds of your soul, and again immerse yourself in a state of depression. Fight with yourself, and do not let yourself think about the one you no longer need. And do not keep her things that remain, get rid of them, so as not to provoke memories of her in your memory.
Well, if you have good friends who will help you to distract from your thoughts. If possible, meet with them as often as possible, go outdoors, attend clubs or sporting events. The main thing that you do not remain alone, because it is loneliness that causes many to plunge into unpleasant memories.
But if life has turned out so that you have practically no friends, then look for communication on your own. You need it, because you can not withdraw into yourself, staying alone with yourself. Fortunately, the Internet is now available to everyone, so do not hesitate and meet girls in social networks. And perhaps on some site you will find a good friend with whom you have common interests. After all, communicating with other people - and it does not matter, in real life or virtual life - you are thus struggling with loneliness, and at the same time with thoughts of your beloved.
And, of course, the ideal way to forget your beloved girl is to distract yourself from sad thoughts - for example, to go somewhere to rest. Changing the situation will give you a lot of positive emotions, and next to it there will not be those people or even things that may inadvertently remind you of your former lover. Or maybe you will get new and interesting acquaintances or even meet your love.
Look around
You know, people always exaggerate, and therefore parting is compared with a certain tragedy and disaster. But you think, is this girl worth suffering in such a way? How is it different from the rest? Beautiful figure, good character, brilliant mind - do you think she is the only one in this world? In my opinion, there are millions of girls. And if it is she alone that is ideal, then why are you only suffering, and not all the men who are familiar with her?
In fact, there are plenty of girls around who will surpass your beloved in everything. You just closed in yourself, and do not want to be aware of this. You yourself are trying to prove that nobody is better than her. But you are mistaken.
Let's take a look at other people's relationships for example. Surely you have acquaintances, friends or even relatives, who also lost their favorite girls in due time. They, just like you, considered them the best and only, they could not imagine their future without them. But as we see, now much has changed, your friends already don’t remember those for whom they had suffered, now they have their own lives: they have wives, someone’s children, and they are happy. And if you ask your friend: "Would you like to return everything back, so that instead of your wife was the one you once loved?", Then you will hear the answer "No."
Therefore, in no case do not think that you will never again meet a girl you want to spend your whole life with. Still ahead, and the one that is gone from you - let it remain in the past. She is your test and your life experience, and not a reason for sadness.
In the meantime, allow yourself some fun with other girls. Do not be afraid to start a new relationship, even if you do not feel any love for your partner. At the very least, this will allow you to cope with the pain, and perhaps the current girl will eventually manage to fall in love with you.
Time cures
When we feel bad, we always perceive with the aggression the words: "Be patient, time will cure everything." After all, it is easy to say, but in reality, time seems to stand still, it does not move, and we do not feel that pain leaves the soul. One day is equivalent to a year, and thoughts that torment us turn into some kind of torture. And how to forget it, if the memory does not allow it, and time, as luck would have it, is in no hurry?
Yes, I understand you, it is very difficult for you, but you have to endure it. You should do your best to distract yourself from sad thoughts, and if you don’t do it, just wait. Let it be but slowly, but the days are still coming. You will be hurt, but over time this pain will begin to subside.
As time passes, you will realize that the girl you love is gradually forgotten by you. You will begin to catch yourself thinking that she is indifferent to you, and looking at her photos, you will no longer experience any emotions. And the most beautiful thing is that you will finally begin to pay attention to other girls, and one day you will meet the one you want to spend your whole life with.
Therefore, be strong, endure the pain, because time, albeit slowly, brings you closer to the acquaintance with the one you love, and which will truly love you. The main thing is not to do stupid things now because of a girl who does not deserve you. She chose a different path, so let it go. And your path paved for happiness and true love.
