Unusually sad when feelings end between two people who, once literally went crazy with love for each other. At this moment it seems to them that the world is collapsing, and nothing can be done. But is everything really happening? Does love really pass, or does it just enter another stage? It is very important to distinguish these moments. It is important to distinguish the transition of relations to another level, from their full completion. It will be useful to know that in a joint life there are certain crises. Each pair passes through them and you should not hope that they safely bypass just you.
Love is gone? Crisis first.
It is also called a crisis of one year. The courtship period is over, and life together begins. This is where disappointment often comes. You see in front of you another person who is different from the one with whom you went to a cafe, having fun at parties, walking in the park. You see his or her faults and think. Do you want to live alongside your whole life with such a person? Have you made the right choice? And so on and so forth. But every person has flaws. It seems that love has passed, but you just get to know each other closer. If the feelings are immature, at this stage the young couple often breaks up.
Another moment. Often, at the initial stage of living together, people take fading passion as a sign of outgoing love. Here you need to understand that a high level of passion can not last forever. Over time, it just becomes calmer. If two people remain attracted to each other, there is no cause for concern. Love did not pass. She just moved to another, calmer level.
The second crisis.
But the second crisis does not compare with the second crisis, which occurs after about seven years of marriage. The thing is that in seven years a person completely changes. This fact is scientifically proven. Even the ancient Greek philosophers measured human life for seven years. Modern science suggests that during this period of time the composition of the human body changes. But psychology claims that the worldview is changing. Man sees the world quite differently than seven years ago. And it seems to the partner that he is already a completely different person. Not the one with whom they started, once a life together. It should be noted that this is a rather serious crisis of family relations, and at this stage a large number of quite successful couples break up.
In addition to these two major crises, life together goes through many small ones. Who also feel the strength of the feelings of two people.
Does love pass?
This question cannot be answered unambiguously. It so happens that feelings persist for life. You just need to know that love is not the same. Stormy, with a hot feeling of jealousy in young years, she becomes calmer in adulthood and develops into a deep sense of mutual care - in the elderly. Love does not pass. It just transforms. Happy people who understood this and carried this multifaceted feeling of love through their lives.
Love test
Life tests our love for strength. The tests are serious and not very. A loved one can suddenly become seriously ill. Usually people drive away these thoughts from themselves, but it is worth considering whether you are ready to care for a sick loved one. Ask. And honestly answer the question. This will allow you to understand the depth of your feelings.
A serious test is the betrayal of one of the partners. Are you ready to forgive him or her? And, in general, are your mutual feelings so strong if there is a need to start other relationships?
But what if love is gone.
Unfortunately it happens that love passes completely. Burning feelings fade away and people understand it. Sometimes, they get upset incredibly. It seems to them that life is over and there will only be emptiness and loneliness. And maybe all this for the better?
I must say, if you meet such people suffering today in a few years, you will see that they live quite normally. From the past spiritual experiences there is no trace. And many of them have already met a new love and are quite happy in their new life.
It sometimes happens that a man suddenly meets a woman, or a woman meets that man whom she broke up with. And nothing even reminds of past feelings. They just happen to meet two people who once knew each other, but now absolutely nothing binds them. This feeling is familiar to many. Now remember your state at the very moment of separation. It is unlikely that it was so indifferent and calm. Most likely, it was a storm of indignation, bitterness and resentment. It seemed that there was no need to go on living unless a person was around.
But time, as you know, treats. And the treatment is very effective.
Brighten up the bitterness of parting.
So if love has passed, you should take it as calmly as possible. You need to understand that, perhaps, fate has prepared for you another party. More appropriate. But you need to leave so that there is no offense and claims. It is difficult to survive the separation. Sometimes it’s very difficult, but it’s worth striving for. We need to remember how you once had a good time together, and forgive each other.
After all, it is known that the insults of the subconscious that are seated in the depths of the offense can cause many diseases. Including very serious ones. Why do you need such a load?
Try to make peace with the object of your former love. You will feel much better.
How to understand that love passes?
You will understand it immediately. It will not be necessary to see this person every day, to talk to him on the phone. You will no longer be anxious to choose a birthday gift or some other holiday. You will no longer be indescribable delight if you could please your loved one.
But then life is preparing another surprise. Sometimes, as a sign that love has passed, the temporary cooling of relations is irrevocably accepted. This also happens. Then you can try to fall in love again.
To understand all this is far from easy. Not without reason, the theme of love - the most difficult of those. It is difficult to advise anything here. The only advice that can be given is to listen to yourself, analyze your inner state. It can be said with great confidence that the inner voice will tell you when the love has really gone.
You should always remember that life presents us with a huge variety of surprises. Including in the field of love.
