The man is not in the spirit confuses the female mind no less than the announcement of crazy discounts on fishing gear.
It seems that there is a chance to make a pleasant husband without any special efforts, only from which side to approach the matter - the devil knows.
What if my husband or boyfriend is not in the mood?
Do not immediately go with a bunch of questions.
First of all, a man of any age, provided that he is certainly not a scamp in a certain sense of the word or not a papa, who believes that everyone is obliged to him around the coffin of life, does not at all wait for him to cheer up.
If you have managed to connect life with the first or second option, then the solution to the problem of sour mines and leaf fall in the soul should be sought somewhere else. For example, a psychologist. And you.
Secondly, The absence of a smile on the face and gleam in the eyes can be a consequence of banal fatigue, so all that a person wants in this case is an hour of complete silence and, perhaps, some kind of life-giving drink with a little snack. The algorithm of your further actions is clear.
Thirdly, people are not robots, they can instantly change the image only with remarkable acting talent.
That is, if at work a guy or a man is not a worker in the field of art, but a “beast”, from whom it is required to ensure iron discipline in an enterprise, then you don’t need to wait that by entering the house he will transform into cat-pus.
He is a normal homo sapiens, he needs time to adapt and understand that he is already at home, where there is no need to go "with a grin."
therefore there's no need to do something right awayif a man returned from a campaign for a prospective piece of mammothy with a slight sadness on his brow.
It is enough to peck him on the cheek, ask about the desire to have a snack in the near future and continue to act on the situation.
After all, you do not want your soul compared with klushygenerating a lot of noise into space because of the little things?
What cheers men up?
If you pin even the most impudent and self-confident of the men against the wall, promising him solemnly that for any gingerbread his name will not shine before the other inhabitants of the planet, then he frankly confesses that loves simple human joys more than anything else type of recreation, interesting entertainment and sex.
And, of course, without the possibility of filling the stomach in a timely manner, it is also difficult to live happily. Therefore, if a man is sad, take action on the principle of "acting on the contrary":
- Tired at work - offer a light massage, arrange a weekend getaway in the countryside or provide an opportunity to sleep in a well-ventilated room and without a rich dinner before bedtime.
Only the duration of sleep should be increased not at the expense of the hours of the next day - make your hero lie a couple of hours earlier than usual.
Because of this, he will fully sleep even if he gets up in the morning at the usual time.
- Froze - Indulge with hot tea, coffee, arrange a relaxing bath or throw a blanket over your shoulders and put a huge mug of fresh hot cocoa in your hand.
- Broke the car - bless on the trip to the garage and a couple of sandwiches do not forget to wrap as a brake. In this case, the option of attracting SRT workers is generally ideal - the amount spent on repairs will be a payment for the opportunity to rest on your own and with your family.
- Sat at home - Throw the idea of fishing with friends for him and get-togethers with girlfriends or in the spa salon - for yourself.
- Bored without sex - here already consider your mood. There is a desire, so why not cheer up both with the help of a five-minute discharge and your greater activity in the process.
Just keep in mind: after a hard day of work, most men still need a period to restore their general physical strength.
Well, then the soil for the development of an inferiority complex was not formed.
Things that can improve the mood of men, but which you could forget:
- Opportunity to be, and not to appear for his “flock”, a breadwinner and protector. If no one has praised him for a long time, but really there is something for it, then it's time to entertain his self-esteem a little and say that he is the best. Otherwise, driven by emotional hunger, he may begin to look around in search of the one that can whisper in his ear of tenderness and generate delighted exclamations not only in bed.
- From the delicious homemade food, none of the men refused. It perfectly treats light bouts of melancholy. Apparently the stomach has not yet been studied by science due to the location of the eyelids - the harder it is, the more with great interest the man gazes at the world. There is an assumption that they rise higher, carried away by invisible threads stretching to the stomach. Only here the measure must be known, otherwise the tension will be reflected in the lower eyelids, causing the man to fall asleep with a blissful smile on his lips. Although this will also be an indicator of the success of your actions.
- A toy. Here the specifics are possible only taking into account the peculiarities of your man. Greatly large scattering desires and preferences. Judge for yourself, some boys are able to start whining with delight from a huge chocolate or pizza, handed without a reason, and from a new kind of beer, solemnly taken out of the refrigerator and diligently “sweating” in your hands. Others will be sausage from a new gadget or trinkets to a car, a rare badge, a cool bracelet.
Instead of a conclusion on this topic: they are the same people as the girls. Only seemingly more severe. And even then not always.
How to cheer up?
Boyfriend
Raise the mood of a guy with the advice of psychologists:
- Long-term forced physical passivity is able to hit the mood bar hard. Therefore, pulling a young man for a walk in the park, and even better to the pond, should help dispel minor in the shower.
- The reason for a bad mood is very tired? A warm bath to help. And bother with aromatic oils, candles and rose petals is not necessary. The calmer the entourage, the better for an irritated male psyche. Water and comfortable temperature will relax the muscles, “stretch out” aggression and apathy.
- Conflict with parents, bosses friends, people experience in different ways. Someone needs to speak out on high tones, actively pinged. For some, the best option is to sit quietly for two hours, staring blankly at one point. The first behavior is typical for extroverts, the second - for introverts.
How to determine the type, I think, you know. Your further behavior stems from the result of a “scientific” analysis.
Husband
All that is suitable for raising the mood of a guy with a husband works even better. Because you are already a certain number of years in marriage, already battered by life and often filonite in the processes of providing each other with attention.
Therefore, when the husband realizes that now he is again being courted purely as the male you are interested in, then only this cheers up.
Seeing the desired result, do not try to prodinamit and say something like: "Honey, and now dial yourself a bath yourself."
If you do not have the strength to care for your gentleman, just hug-kiss-touch.
But just do not do like the uncle that showed the child a candy wrapper without candy inside.
Intention must be active action preamblerather than simulating activity and false care.
What to write to him?
Variations of the sea: compliments, fresh jokes, poems-pies of his own composition on the topical for both of you theme, motivating wishes.
Only beaten phrases that, allegedly, were overheard by the greats of this world, should not be given out. Moments it looks gone and out of topic.
How to cheer up the guy by correspondence - examples:
- If you have the talent to write with humor, you can briefly talk about your recent blunders or joke on a burning topic. Only not evil and not gone - rudeness and vulgarity are sometimes appropriate, but it is such a "seasoning" with which it is very easy to spoil any correspondence at a distance, if you do not have a sense of proportion.
- Compose a short cool story using emoticons and other virtual images.
- Send your pictureprocessed in any application.
- Send macho file with musical composition, which has previously saved in such situations - sound anchors are firmly held in our memory, so they always work "with a bang."
How to cheer up a guy by SMS:
- confess that you are preparing a culinary surprise for his arrival;
- invite to hang out with good general friends;
- report how you do not have enough subscriber presence now;
- communicate your feelings in three words, and not necessarily in the classic format;
- pass on the good news;
- to buy cups and send the list closer to the end of the training day. It is not recommended to do this in the morning. After all, it is possible to provoke a stomach ulcer - saliva will begin to be produced more actively than usual.
Only a limited number of today's young people love poems.
Therefore, it is better to correspond in this form with your own works - in the presence of talent, or to quote your favorite creators, but only to lovers.
What should he say?
How to cheer up a man with words?
With a sufficient level of empathy, it’s just catch joy from the people around them.
Therefore, if a man is in himself a responsive person, you sometimes see in him manifestations of romantic nature, then you can try to fight for his good mood with the help of his joy.
Just with enthusiasm tell him something goodwhat happened to you today or describe an amusing scene that was randomly peeped on the street or even developed especially in your head.
So more likely to cheer up than with questions from which a person may simply close in himself, if he has not yet decided whether to tell you about the reason for his sadness.
How to cheer a man with tender words? Kitty, masik, lyubchik, my tiger, my lion, my sun, lapulya, bunny, pus and thousands of other nicknames - any of them is perceived by an adequate man as affectionate appeal and causes a normal response.
Only one condition: such communication is appropriate without witnesses. This is a conversation format for a solitary pair. Otherwise, you will be taken as two, you know, who are showing off their supposedly tender feelings to others.
Giving something like that to outsiders risk causing righteous anger both from the side of his man and his environment. And if there is a business partner or boss nearby ... “Put out the lights”.
How to cheer up a man who works a lot?
If he spends a lot of energy, time to provide for his family, create a comfortable home environment.
Whether you like it or not, a man needs to organize adequate sleep and a good diet.
All the other buns in the form of entertainment add only after joint discussion the process of their implementation.
Otherwise, there is a risk that it will turn out “I tried, and you did not appreciate it,” and he really simply does not have the opportunity to even break out for an event for an hour. And who needs a scandal on level ground or secret resentment about anything?
Raising someone's mood is as difficult as correcting physical defects surgically or preparing a new dish from unknown products.
One thing only pleases less catastrophic consequences - The chance of maintaining a high relationship, the process may like both. Especially if the “patient” has everything in order with humor, and he just temporarily cheated.
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