For many men, the question of how to impress a girl on a first date is very relevant. After all, the first acquaintance happens very quickly, at least it is recommended that it be so when you exchange some contacts or, even if you meet in a general company, usually the first acquaintance is unprepared. But the first date is the moment on which the girl will definitely come prepared, respectively, and you must properly prepare for this event.
Women attach great importance to the first date, because it can often show what the guy will be ready for in the future, in a possible relationship. Therefore, you should prepare yourself as carefully as possible to make the right impression.
How to please the girl - preparation.
What is the big plus of the first date, this is what you know in advance the place and time where it will take place, because you have already agreed on it. Accordingly, you can choose the right clothes for this event. Agree, it would be rather strange to go in shorts to a restaurant or in a business suit for a picnic. So, the first rule:
Need to look adequate.
This includes not only clothes that must be at least clean, but you also have to be clean and smell good. After all, girls attach great importance to the cleanliness of a man, and if they are willing to put up with her husband, who is walking in family homes, then only the most desperate women will begin to meet the guy who came untidy on the first date. This attitude is perceived primarily as disrespect for the one with whom you meet.
Choose the right place.
For the first meeting, you just need to find a place where you will feel confident, and more importantly, familiar. It is for each his own. And it is the feeling of self-confidence that you are in a familiar and familiar place that will be important in the process of the first date. Ideal would be a place where you yourself often go.
Prepare for the conversation.
This item is for those men who have a bad “tongue hanging”, and it is difficult to keep the conversation going about. And there are quite a few such men. And since the time to professionally develop a bredogenerator is unlikely to be, we restrict ourselves to a little preparation. After all, to come up with a few initial phrases is not so difficult, and it is this moment, the first few minutes, that are the most nervous. Imagine how you greet a girl, play a conversation a couple of minutes ahead, it will be very helpful during the meeting itself. In addition, you should pick up a dozen questions that you can ask a girl already at the very communication. As well as five topics that are interesting to you, and about which you can tell a girl. It can be like life stories that describe you on the positive side or just interesting events from the lives of those around you. But the important point is that you can embellish, of course, something, but you should not lie directly all the same. Since this can greatly complicate your life in the future.
Summing up the preparation, I would like to note that you will come to the first meeting prepared, cleanly dressed, in a familiar, familiar place, with ready-made conversation patterns for the first few minutes and several topics for further communication.
First date: make a good impression.
Even if you made mistakes when meeting, then this is the moment when you can fix it. The first few minutes of the meeting will have serious consequences in the future. We turn immediately to the recommendations
- Always smile. It must be admitted that this rule seems to be the simplest, but in reality this is far from the case. A large number of people do not smile or do it in a forced way, and therefore are not sincere and it can be seen. If you doubt your abilities, practice at home in front of a mirror. There is nothing strange in this, a beautiful smile is the same skill as writing or reading, and if it turns out bad, you just have to do it. Training will fix everything. After all, there is nothing more attractive than the open smile of a person.
- Eye contact. The girl must look into his eyes. Yes, it can be difficult, again, training can help keep eye contact. By the way, unlike the popular theories of a pickup truck, which claim that you must immediately show dominance over a girl, including the “piercing” look, and in no case can you look away first, in life everything can happen differently. Here I want to give advice to those who find it difficult to hold their eyes for a long time, you can take it, the main thing is not to do it down. Look up, or sideways, as if something had distracted your attention, and in a few moments return. This will in no way reduce your credibility, but at the same time it will be easier to keep a look. Although it should be noted that in most cases, the girls themselves look away.
- Breath. It is clear that the first date is an extremely exciting moment for most guys. But even so, you have to control your physics. First of all it concerns breathing. It should be deep, measured. This is where you will be well helped by the fact that you are in a familiar, familiar place and have prepared for the meeting in advance. After all, it is precisely the lack of confidence in one's forces, multiplied by the natural excitement of the moment - that knocks the breath, makes it intermittent, and this is noticeable. In addition, it affects your speech.
- Speech The main thing is the right conversation - not mumble. This is what can kill any impression. Speech should be confident, clear, slow, but not stretched. It is necessary to speak calmly, clearly pronouncing the words. After all, you trained in advance - you know what you say, so say it with confidence. The important point is also the voice. It would be nice to develop a so-called chest voice, but it takes time, from a simple one, just try to speak half a tone lower than usual. This can create the desired effect.
- Conversation. It is extremely undesirable to make long pauses, but there will not be any. After all, even if the girl gets not talkative, you have already prepared topics to which you can go. In addition, you should not throw a girl with questions in a row, even if she does not take the initiative and does not ask you about anything, start yourself talking about yourself. Although of course it should not be obvious bragging.
Impressed? Now it's time to wrap up.
Do not delay the first date. In order to please the girl enough to spend from 30 to 60 minutes. You should leave a good impression behind you, but leave much to be unsaid, open the tip of the iceberg, but also show that the iceberg itself is also there, and it will be interesting to find out.
Often the guys ask if they should give flowers on the first date, pay for the girl, take her home, to the car, public transport or leave the café immediately. There is no definitive solution to all these questions. The most correct thing is to do what you want. If you want to come with flowers, and you will feel confident in what you are doing right - do it, and if these flowers embarrass you, you will constantly worry that other people look at you because of them, then take the flowers not worth it. The same with the other questions. And most importantly - go on dates, the more often you do it, the easier and more interesting they will be, and when you meet HER, you will be 100% ready.
