The theme of love remains relevant for more than one hundred years. There are many interpretations of this concept, each of which has both adherents and opponents.
But what does it mean to love a person? What is the “process” of love itself?
After all, few people would argue with the fact that love is of great importance in the life of everyone, no matter what emotions it is associated with.
What is this feeling?
How to explain what is love?
Love is briefly defined as inherent in man. feeling of deep sympathy, attachment and desire for an object.
This feeling is purely intimate and selective in relation to the "subject" of love.
His presence in life is often perceived by man as a kind of "indicator of happiness."
Scientifically
Scientists who have studied the concept of love in terms of biology and chemistry have concluded that it is based on nothing more than common biochemical processes of the human body.
In particular, in the brain of a person in a state of love, phenylethylamine, a substance that gives a feeling of omnipotence and “grown wings”, and oxytocin, a hormone that affects male and female genitals (as well as milk production in a woman during lactation), are actively produced. .
Scientists and anthropologists have come to the conclusion that during the period of passionate love, active production of dopamine, a chemical substance that allows one to experience a feeling of the highest pleasure and satisfaction, begins.
In addition, dopamine beneficial effect on certain parts of the brain, minimizing the feeling of fear, anxiety, anxiety and suppressing negative emotions.
Evolutionary scientists view love as a survival tool. They believe that it is this feeling that contributes to maintaining long-term relationships, uniting and supporting each other in order to counter dangers and threats from outside.
According to Freud
The famous psychologist Sigmund Freud was convinced that the foundation of absolutely any human attachment is a single source - sexual attraction (libido).
He argued that the true core of so-called love is a feeling, the main purpose of which is only sexual intimacy, completely excluding the spiritual principle.
In all the works of Freud can be traced skeptical and ironic attitude to love and confirmation of thoughts that any form of feeling (friendly or love), as well as any attachment (to parents, to the homeland, to the profession, etc.) has the same source - sexual.
Meaning in life
The presence of love in life allows a person to experience the whole spectrum. the most tender, warm, exciting feelings and emotions.
Often, love becomes a powerful motivation for both external and internal changes: a man in love feels an incredible surge of strength, the ability to "move mountains" and "embrace the whole world."
Goes to the background irritability, aggressiveness and apathy, there is a "revaluation of values". Life becomes harmonious, rich, filled with warmth, kindness and joy.
Psychology
Psychology regards love as set of three components:
- passion, which manifests itself in sexual attraction;
- intimacy in the form of emotional intimacy, help, trust;
- obligations - mutual loyalty.
Also in psychology, the concepts of fruitful and unproductive love are distinguished:
- Fruitful (mature) love is a feeling based on mutual respect. It provides for the expression of care, sincere interest, mutual knowledge, inspiration, pleasure and self-development.
- Unproductive (immature, selfish) love is a destructive feeling, in which relationships overwhelm negative emotions associated with tight control of one person by another and an obsessive desire to possess them completely and completely.
Psychological criteria
Psychologists have concluded that true love always meets certain criteria:
- Appearance when meeting with an object or thinking about it positive emotions and feelings.
- Constant need for communication with the object.
- The presence of common (similar) views on life, interests, hobbies, ideals, aspirations, a similar worldview.
- Sincere mutual interest in different areas of each other’s life (professional, spiritual, social), habits, tastes, preferences, problems.
- The ability (and desire) to empathize and empathize in difficult life moments.
The emergence of jealousy, characterizing the closeness and desire of mutual possession of people loving each other.- Indisputable willingness to stay together despite any circumstances and sacrifice their own well-being for the object.
- Vision of the “ultimate goal” of relations in marriage and childbirth.
The emergence of jealousy, characterizing the closeness and desire of mutual possession of people loving each other.What is it like?
Love is divided into several types:
- love is passionwhich follows sexual instincts, completely giving itself to the object of love and dissolving in it without a trace;
It is rather short because, over time, it either develops into a different kind of love, or disappears altogether.
- Lovewhich basis is the spiritual component (mutual respect, common interests, values). Such a feeling arises between friends or relatives.
- love, based on tenderness, kindness, support and mutual understanding. This feeling unites spouses, parents and children, brothers and sisters;
- unselfish loveconsisting in complete self-sacrifice for the sake of a loved one;
- love of self expressed in understanding and accepting oneself, self-satisfaction. It is this kind of love that is fundamental to its other forms, since only those who are satisfied with themselves and experience inner harmony are able to have sincere feelings towards others;
- love based on sexual desire and flirting, aimed at getting pleasure;
- pragmatic love - a sense controlled by reason and based on the gain of profit and profit;
- love mania - a feeling closely associated with jealousy on the verge of obsession.
What is love?
Be in love - it means disinterestedly, with pleasure and joy to take care of a loved one, to be attentive to his moods, desires, events and incidents in his life.
To love "qualitatively" is an activity, it is a work that needs to be learned and constantly improved.
Ability to love - is it innate or acquired quality? In this matter there is no consensus. Some people are sure that the ability to love is an exclusively innate feeling, and each person, while taking the first breath, already knows how to love a priori.
Others argue that the ability to love is an experience gained through years of mental, mental and heart labor.
These opinions are united only in that temperament, upbringing, living conditions and a vivid example allows maximize and improve in a man this skill.
The concept of feelings between a man and a woman
Love for boyfriend / girlfriend - It is a combination of love and passion, leading to sexual satisfaction.
Over time, they tend to fade into the background, being replaced by devotion, compassion, support. Such love is also called romantic and is intended to create and maintain favorable conditions for the continuation of the race.
Love relationship is relationships of partners that go through five main stages:
Attraction. This is what attracts people, regardless of external data or intellectual abilities. Psychologists believe that the main role in this process is played by the smell of a person.- Uncertainty. The period when doubts, uncertainty and many questions seize both partners (“Should I continue to get acquainted?”, “Is this the person I need?”, “Why does he not call?”, Etc.).
- The desire to be the only object of love. This stage is similar to an advertising campaign in which each of the partners strives to demonstrate from the best and most advantageous side, as if proving that the other has made the right choice. Immediately there is a sense of possessiveness, often giving rise to jealousy.
- Intimacy. The time when partners have a truly trusting relationship: they open up to each other, accurately show the existing weaknesses and weaknesses.
- Betrothal. At this stage, the partners, reconciled with each other’s shortcomings and realizing the seriousness of their own choices, decide to enter the next stage - family life. Or leave, understanding that relations do not develop, and are deadlocked.
Attraction. This is what attracts people, regardless of external data or intellectual abilities. Psychologists believe that the main role in this process is played by the smell of a person.Psychologist about the types of love in the relationship between a man and a woman:
What is love?
Love is an emotion or a feeling?
Love is a strong feeling that has a positive color and is directed to the object.
At the same time, the consciousness of a man in love narrows so much that he can evaluate the object of his feeling exclusively with a plus sign, absolutely not seeing flaws in character and appearance without noticing disagreements and contradictions in relationships.
At the same time, any positive quality becomes especially significant and valuable.
Being in love is an unstable state that exists in the form of a certain phase: it can subside, be completed and reappear. Ending love can “transform” into a different feeling, for example - love.
Difference
The main difference of feelings of love and love is their emotional depth.
Love - superficial, based on external attractiveness, idealization of the object and the “pre-thought” of its positive qualities, which are not really present.
While love allows you to accept a person as he is (without embellishment), along with his strengths and weaknesses.
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True love
True love - This is the final stage of love (after falling in love, satiety, alienation, patience, unselfishness and friendship).
As a rule, it occurs after years lived together, when partners learned to respect each other, to overcome conflict situations, to give in and sacrifice their own interests for the sake of the family.
It is precisely with such stable and harmonious relationships that the spiritual intimacy between two people arises.
What does it mean to love truly?
First of all, it means:
- understand and accept each other for the sake of general peace;
- to realize that each one is a full-fledged person, while together it is one whole;
- be able to negotiate, even if there is disagreement;
- solve problems and come to a "common denominator" without demanding and dissatisfaction with each other.
What actions characterize it?
As you know love determined by actions, namely:
- manifestation of care (even then, the year did not ask for this);
- expression of sincere interest in all areas of life of a loved one;
- readiness to help and support at any time;
- respect for personal space and interests of the partner.
How is love born and dying? Symptoms of feelings and psychology:
Definitions
Love frustration - This is the state of a person in a relationship that brings only negative emotions and feelings (frustration, anger, pain).
Love addiction - it is a painful manifestation of love with fixation on another person, causing pain and suffering.
Love euphoria - it is a strong elation and a feeling of complete well-being, due to the manifestation of love;
Neurotic love - it is love without reciprocity, clouded by anxiety and the inability to openly express your feelings.
Unselfish love - this is the acceptance of a person in spite of everything (shortcomings, circumstances).
Manic love - feeling on the verge of loss of reason, in which a person is ready to do everything, if only the object of his love is not got to anyone but him
Physical love - this is the desire for physical intimacy (unity) with a loved one, involving not only sexual contact, but also the ability to see, hear and feel it.
Altruistic love - a high feeling that brings satisfaction simply because the love object exists, even if it does not reciprocate.
Latent love - this is a hidden love that a person cannot (or does not wish) to manifest.
Pathological love - uncontrolled and repetitive manifestation to the partner of attention and care, in which he feels the complete loss of his own freedom.
passionate love (or romantic) is a feeling of complete preoccupation of partners with each other, accompanied by superstrong experiences (joy, anxiety, tenderness, sexual attraction).
Love is:
Love is illusion depending on the person, in which only it seems that you love.
Love is a myth for those who have never experienced any of the stages of this feeling.
Love is passion, ardent desire, accompanied by strong emotions.
Love is attachment, closeness and devotion, based on sympathy for another person.
Love is a habit which over time becomes the basis of a stable and full-fledged feeling.
Love is care, attention and respect, caused by a sincere desire to protect a loved one, to help him, to make a pleasant act for him.
Disease
Some psychologists tend to equate love (namely, love) to painful condition with the following symptoms:
- constant and obsessive thoughts about the object;
- painful, acute need for reciprocal feelings;
- euphoria with reciprocity;
- over focus on the object, which leads to ignoring events and problems in their own lives;
- experiencing an object of strong sexual desire.
Mental disorder
American doctors define love (in particular - love) as acute mental disorder.
The reason for this was the examination of people in love, during which they had changes in the nervous system similar to those occurring in patients with a manic state.
At the same time, "patients" are often observed general disorders in the form of:
problems with appetite;- concentration disorders;
- heart attacks, sweating, tremors, chills, indigestion;
- insomnia, intermittent sleep, obsessive dreams;
- allergic reactions (on nerve soil);
- possible thoughts of suicide.
problems with appetite;As a rule, the acute stage of the “disease” lasts no more than six months, gradually turning either into a chronic sluggish form, or into a latent form of quiet waiting, or else spontaneous recovery.
Do I need to treat?
Is love a disease to be treated? If love, like a disease, brings to life only suffering, frustration and negative emotions, the only way out is to be treated. Moreover, it is quite difficult to do it yourself.
It is better to immediately contact a specialist - a psychologist or a psychotherapist who will help analyze feelings and heal the soul with the help of special techniques, psychoanalysis and even hypnosis.
Sick love - what is it?
The patient is called love-dependence, which brings only pain and suffering. First of all, it is characteristic of people with low self-esteem, who had received less parental warmth and attention in childhood.
Main feature A dependent person is the complete absence of love and respect for oneself, and suffering is defined as the only “evidence” of love for someone.
Love is a huge range of feelings, each of which is characteristic for a certain stage of relations between partners.
Constant companions of real, sincere love is joy, satisfaction, inner peace and confidence. Love implies caring, respecting each other’s interests and reaching a compromise in any situation.
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