Everything will be fine. I'm strong. Tired, but it needs to endure. For others, the situation is even worse than mine. If I do not think about the bad, then it will disappear.
Stop! Will not help. On the contrary, such thoughts will attract weakness, longing, and depression. Maybe it is better to accept the fact that everything is elementary enough, and the forces are already at zero? It takes courage, but meeting face-to-face is the only way to eliminate it forever. Fatigue - where does it come from and how to overcome it?
“I'm so tired” - why does this happen
The true causes of the problem are often large-scale, lie deep inside. One noisy boss or not in time torn tights are unlikely to cause a breakdown, mood for a long time. If fatigue falls on too often, there is a feeling of being cornered, then the cup of patience is already full. Here are seven main reasons that in most cases threaten with overwork:
- The difficulty of making or adopting change.
- Constant stress, frequent feelings, anxiety, excitement.
- A waste of time for an unloved activity that does not make sense for the person himself. The complete lack of self-realization in the area of interest. Routine.
- Intense physical or mental work in large volumes. Too fast pace of life.
- The pressure of a society or a particular group of people. As a rule, it is a spouse, children or parents, but it also happens that the working team or simple acquaintances drive into a frame worse than others.
- Physiological or psychological problems. Ignoring fatigue is also a major obstacle to recovery.
- Lack of support. Loneliness.
The real solution will be to work with the first reason, because the rest are, by and large, its results, which noticeably aggravate the situation. Most human problems disappear along with change. Fatigue is no exception. If the desire to return happiness and vigor is, then it's time to act. But how exactly?
What to do if tired of everything
Relax
Everything is logical: if a person is tired, then it is better for him to rest, take a breath. However, the question is what kind of fatigue manifested itself. Accordingly, the ways to deal with poor well-being will be different.
Physical exhaustion. Sleepless nights, poor diet, large loads on the body - how can you feel happy in such conditions? Fortunately, this is solved though not simple, but quite accessible actions:
- make a schedule of the day (including sleep, optimal distribution of time between work and leisure), follow it clearly;
- spend time in a sanatorium, closer to nature - sea, mountain air work wonders;
- pay attention to the daily diet: get rid of coffee, replacing it with cocoa or hot chocolate; Start taking vitamins, the doses and types of which are best discussed individually with your doctor;
- Sign up for a massage or other relaxing procedure;
- learn more about reflexology - the method of exposure to sensitive points.
Moral fatigue. Scandals at home, conflicts at work, a lot of responsibilities, for which even “thank you” not everyone will say - all this can lead to severe depression. To avoid unpleasant consequences, you can:
- periodically arrange “days of rest” for themselves - the grandmother can sit with the child once a week, and the husband is fully capable of doing at least partial cleaning;
- devote more time to their appearance. Beautiful = confident;
- meet more often with good friends in your favorite place;
- Do not forget about your interests, hobbies.
Intellectual fatigue. The brain works constantly, even during sleep. If the loads become overwhelming, there are headaches, weakness, drowsiness, all reactions noticeably decrease. Instead of trying to force the brain all the time, trying to “launch” it again, it’s better:
- to alternate between mental and physical activity. A 10-minute walk through the fresh air will refresh the mind, activates the imagination;
- Provide the “main analyzer” wholesome and tasty. Dried fruits, yogurts, nuts increase efficiency and productivity;
- get enough sleep;
- periodically change the type of thought processes - reading, counting, analysis, memorization, etc.
Spiritual. Sometimes there is a feeling of inner exhaustion, although it would seem there is no reason for it. Health is in order, stress has not happened lately, and there is no fatigue as such. What to do in such specific cases? Some tips:
- sign up for yoga in centers where she is taught not just as a “set of physical exercises for weight loss”, but also as a spiritual practice;
- learn the art of meditation, purification of thoughts;
- believers can visit a church, talk with a priest or with parishioners, confess;
- as far as possible to distance themselves from the negative - bad news from the media, political turmoil, neighborhood gossip.
Perhaps fatigue is provoked precisely by the weight of something negative. And this is better to give a way out. How else can this be done?
Eliminate the “energy vampires”
“I’m listening to her - and I myself have the feeling that all the forces are going away” - surrounded by a pair of such “bloodsuckers”. These are people who always talk about the bad, every good news is wrapped in doubts, everywhere they are looking for danger, negative.
“Husband lingered at work only once a year? So it changes! ”They say. And it does not matter that the spouse actually chose a gift for his wife, running around half the town to find her favorite blue roses. The ones that the omnipresent neighbor has already called “atonement for some kind of sin”.
And it happens that the faithful himself turns out to be the one who drinks all the juices: “Tired back from work, she returned with heavy food packages. Because no one wanted to meet - football on TV. I washed the dishes, cooked / warmed up dinner, checked the child’s lessons, cleaned the tray for the cat, repaired the shelf. At the same time she asked for help three times, each time receiving nothing but the lazy “Well, schA.” Lying on her feet, she fell on the bed, and here she was still offended for the unfulfilled marital duty. Tired! ”
If boiling, so why suffer? Garbage is thrown out without regrets. It is better to surround yourself with worthy people who value good attitude and deeds.
To leave
And how is work? Where are the children ?! With a cat, what to do?
Vacation Husband and grandmother. Same way. In addition, it is not necessary to go on the run and fly to distant islands. Moving to another city or area with the same children, spouses, mothers, jobs, cats, too, will do. The whole point - to change the situation. If this is not enough, you can relax in the country, go to visit, arrange a meeting of classmates or arrange a romantic rendezvous. It is advisable to at least a couple of hours a week to go somewhere outside the workplace or stove.
Quit
Half of the women in the world suffer from fatigue due to work alone. The boss broke due to domestic problems, a new colleague marks to someone else's place, responsibilities are added, and deadlines for the delivery of projects burn like the love of teenagers in the spring. And all right, if even this dream business was, and so ...
Statement at will - and forward to conquer the top. To the question “What to live?” Did not bother, it’s better to get somewhere half-time or find a place where there will be less stress. Salary is likely to decrease - this is a fact. But more importantly: peace of mind, enjoying life or money? Although the problem with material means, if desired, can also be solved. How?
With the help of ... a hobby. Any passion with sufficient persistence can be turned into a source of profit. Open a business, sell cakes, paintings or knitted things, remake the garage as a studio and advertise for recruiting dance courses. Gradually, but persistently - and now the reins of managing their own lives are returned to their hands.
Visit the specialist's office
It's simple. Therapist - if fatigue is expressed in chronic physical discomfort. Psychologist - if you have something to say, something to cry. The psychotherapist - if the situation is so twisted that the output is no longer visible.
Fear of going to the doctors is so deeply rooted in the mind that it seems that it has reached the genetic level and is inherited. However, it is unfounded. Doctors are people who want to help others. For other reasons, it is simply impossible to sit out for 5–9 years at lecture desks. These professionals offer help, and sometimes it is essential.
Become acquainted
The first question is “With whom?”. The unequivocal answer is with a positive person who can appreciate friendship and relationships. The optimists have a wonderful feature - they themselves are always at the peak of a good mood, and they pull others along. Perhaps a new acquaintance will help discover something new in yourself or the world around you. Sometimes a stranger gives one piece of advice, but more valuable than all the recommendations of loved ones. If you find new friends on the street is scary, then here are some great places to meet:
- courses, groups gathering like-minded people;
- parks for walking pets, if any;
- dating sites, social networks;
- speed dating - quick dates;
- discussion clubs;
- group therapy by a psychotherapist;
- bookstores, galleries, other places of cultural education.
To decide on what we are silent
Declaration of love, organize a public meeting, jump with a parachute, buy a horse farm, change the sex, in the end!
Keeping secrets for years, suppressing real desires is insanely tiring. It is exhausting, it makes you live someone else’s life, lose your own time. Unfortunately, the world is not a fairy tale. There will not appear a fairy godmother with a magic wand that fulfills all desires. This means that you need to act independently, armed only with sincere desire and a group of loved ones, supporters.
If you are tired of everything for a long time, life is not a joy, this is no reason to give up. But this is a great excuse to rethink everything, to start fighting for what you really want. And let it be lucky!
