Very often, a beautiful love story turns into a cold relationship and the husband leaves the family.
When marrying, many women sometimes do not admit even the thought that someday this happy time might end. Both a woman and a man sooner or later encounter all the realities of living together and, unfortunately, sometimes there is no room for romance in everyday life, and the feelings of partners cannot always be static, so feelings either flare up or fade away ...
Why a man leaves the family.
Incompatibility of characters.
“They didn’t agree on characters” - one of the most common reasons for leaving men from the family hearth. Different views on life, temperaments, bad habits, with which, alas, not everyone can accept, lack of mutual understanding and mutual respect inevitably lead to a rupture of relations.
Untidy spouse.
Many married women are convinced that a man is ready to love his wife in any guise, but they forget that men are visuals. They love the eyes, they are attracted to beautiful, well-groomed, self-sufficient women.
Trampled slippers, old dressing gowns, dull look - such external disharmony for many men is simply unbearable.
Sexual dissatisfaction.
Sexual dissatisfaction of a man is a strong factor that can also provoke a break in relations. Not always a man can directly tell his wife about his erotic fantasies, desires. It is sexual dissatisfaction that provokes men to commit adultery.
Insidious separation.
No woman is immune from such a turn of events. Anyone can fall in love with another woman unconsciously and so much that even children and years spent in marriage are fading into the background.
Women whose husbands go to their mistresses can “delve into themselves” as much as they want, but it also happens that the problem is not in them - just the husband fell in love with another woman. There are also cases when husbands go to other women not even from great love, but simply in search of a sense of novelty.
Cheating wife.
It is believed that wives are much less likely to change their husbands, but, unfortunately, there are also such cases.
Not every man is able to forgive betrayal, due to the fact that many of them are proprietors by nature and treachery - a blow to male pride, therefore, as a result, the husband leaves his wife.
Routine.
Stability and regularity of family life quite often lose their attractiveness, turning into annoying rituals and habits. The daily fulfillment of mutual obligations is at the same time something without which living together is impossible, and the one that causes bright emotions in family life to fade. Not all men can bravely pull the strap of monotonous family relationships and prefer them to "free hunt."
Divorce for the sake of individual freedom.
Control and guidance over the life of a man is a common mistake of many women. Of course, when entering into family relationships, a man must accept certain changes in his life, but some women come to the delight when they think that they are “ohomutali muzhik” and now they can be easily turned to the right and left.
Such wives believe that the husband is their integral application, which should always be near or “on a short leash”, constantly bored with phone calls and sincerely think that the husband needs their close care and comprehensive control. This is a fundamentally wrong belief that brings bitter rewards.
Men are freedom-loving people! For the sake of a sense of freedom, husbands leave home more often than from adultery, easily compromising both home comforts and established habits.
Why husbands come back.
Although the overwhelming majority of men who left their families create new "social cells" or even prefer loneliness, but according to statistics, 30% of those who "slammed the door" return to their former wives.
Consider some reasons explaining why the departed husbands return to the family:
Traction to the usual.
For example, if a wife drove her husband out of the house due to any of his misconduct or incorrect behavior, from her point of view, then everything is clear - the man realized his guilt or became so attached to his chosen one that he could not imagine his existence without her
Not for nothing they say that the habit is second nature. Many men leave the family for another woman in the hope of a completely new stage of life - bright, unconstrained, filled with new colors, but practice shows the opposite - a person’s memory can idealize everything that happened in the past, thereby “drawing” the best and happy moments that prevent you from starting a new life with another.
It would seem that in a new relationship, the former husband begins to slowly tune in to the new chosen one, both in everyday life and in various nuances of everyday life, but memory cannot be eradicated. Therefore, a man often begins to remember his past, more established, familiar life, figuratively speaking: his wife learned to cook exactly what he loves, knows by heart that in the morning it is necessary to add three spoons of sugar without milk in the morning, and vice versa in the evening.
After all, even a simple viewing of a television program may bring memories of how he and his ex-wife sat in the evenings watching TV, which they acquired with such difficulty ...
Change of world view.
Some men are able to get away from women in order to rid themselves of any problems: material, domestic. And go in such cases usually where? To mom and her for joy.
At first, yes, he feels comfortable, but over time he begins to feel like a child next to his mother, while he is already more accustomed to be the head of the family and feel like an adult. Not many men like this way of life, and therefore they more and more often begin to think about their return to the bosom of the family.
Reconciliation.
Sometimes the return of the ex-husband is legitimate, so in fact he did not plan to leave for good, but wanted, so to speak, to teach his irrepressible spouse, to let her suffer, suffer and understand how badly she would be without him ... you can finally make up and enter into new relationships. In such cases, it is imperative for men to think about the consequences - and will his wife take it back?
All of the above can not fully cover all situations, problems and nuances that occur in family life. Nevertheless, these facts allow us to draw certain conclusions.
It is necessary to protect family relationships, not allowing bad temper, unrestrained temper and domestic turmoil to darken the family firmament.
Take care and love your spouse to go through life hand in hand, supporting each other to the end.
