A bright feeling of sadness, complemented by pleasant memories, always appears when communication with a loved one disappears or becomes less frequent.
This feeling in Russian is designated by the phrase “missing someone,” which can be found not only in everyday life, but also in films, books, TV shows.
Boys and girls seeking to learn how to make a person miss you, it is important to determine what conditions should be created for the emergence of this feeling.
Why do it: psychology
The feeling of sadness due to the lack of a dear person nearby is an integral part of the process of close communication.
We can miss parents, friends, loved one, old acquaintances, colleagues.
As a rule, the feeling of "bored" does not cause noticeable inconvenience, especially if the one with whom the sadness is connected should return soon.
When people miss someone, they often feel sad, sad, and immersed in memories: bright moments scroll in your memory, re-experiencing what they experienced before, and clearly realize that they want to return it.
The process of being bored is able to maintain a long time interest, love, sympathy of a person towards those who have temporarily or permanently disappeared from his life.
A feeling of light sadness may appear even in cases where communication did not stop, but only interrupted for a short time.
When the connection between loved ones is very strong and they tend to spend as much time together as possible, you can feel sadness even in those cases when an expensive person just went to the store or went to work.
The process of missing can be painful, accompanied by such negative emotions as irritation, chagrin, anger at yourself, fear.
It all depends on how harmonious were the relationships and how they broke off.
For example, a young man who was abandoned by a girl can miss her very much.
In such cases, the bored process becomes part of the crisis periodin which there is a person.
Many people want those whom they cherish, miss them during the breakup, write about it in letters, messages, talk on the phone, more often remind you how much they want to meet.
The realization that a loved one is bored always evokes warm feelings, increases sympathy, love for him.
The main reasons why people want to be loved by them are:
- The desire to feel dear, important. This is the most common reason.
The realization that someone from the family is bored can warm almost any person, because at that moment he feels he has value, he understands more clearly how much he is loved.
This reinforces his desire to quickly return to embrace those whom he sincerely values, and to spend as much time with them as possible.
- The desire to feel that you are “yours” for someone. The desire to feel that you are “your own” and you are either a part of something important is also widespread, but more often it concerns not too close relationships. For example, a person who has graduated from a university will be pleased to learn that his classmates still remember him with warmth. Also, an example is the relationship between colleagues, acquaintances, classmates, members of any associations.
- The desire to feel the power. This reason is closely related to the topic of the issue, manipulation, but it is much less common than the previous two. Abusers who use manipulation as a means to achieve their goals tend to make the victim miss them. To do this, for example, they can intentionally disappear from her field of view and come back again, forcing them to experience and be sad.
This is one of the forms of emotional swing, which ultimately leads to the emergence of a steady dependence of the victim.
- The desire for revenge is closely associated with anger, frustration. For example, a woman who has parted company with a partner may wish him to miss her painfully and blame herself.
Despite the name, the feeling of “missing someone” associated with sadness, not boredom.
It is sadness that is the key feeling, boredom can be present as a side effect, for example, in cases where a person who is alone does not know what to do, as he is used to having fun in the company of loved ones.
How to make a person bored?
Man
How to make a man think about me and miss? Key recommendations:
- Maintain a friendly and harmonious relationship with a man. Without this condition, there is no point in hoping that he will be bored. If you have not become meaningful to him or your relationship is cracking at the seams, he is unlikely to be sad; rather, on the contrary, it will be glad that you have disappeared from his field of vision. Avoid quarrels, scandals, and discuss all the problems in a quiet conversation.
- Avoid being imposed. It is difficult to miss someone if this someone constantly looms somewhere nearby and even at a departure is constantly writing SMS messages or messages in social networks.
- Demonstrate your own personality, do not become a person who thoughtlessly honors his partner. Grow, dive into your own hobbies, learn new things, try to be a person with whom it is interesting to talk and without which life will be much more boring. Do not become an enthusiastic fan of men, do not hesitate to express an opinion about what is happening.
You should also avoid manipulation and violence.
This recommendation is partly connected with the first one: if there is a place in your relationship for manipulation, cruelty, violence, regular scandals the size of the Universe, you shouldn’t hope that he will be bored.
Husband
Key recommendations:
- Make sure your relationship is harmonious. Do you often quarrel with her husband? How do you solve problems? Do you feel that marriage does not look strong for a long time? If the relationship is too bad, you should not hope that he will be bored. If possible, try to find a solution before departure to those questions that have long been bothering you and your husband.
- If you are leaving for a long time, try to make the last weeks of your stay at home enjoyable. Do not be scandalous, do not quarrel, try to discuss problems during a constructive dialogue, often say pleasant things that you say infrequently, remind your husband that you love him. Offer him to arrange something interesting: for example, you can arrange a meeting with close friends, go to the cinema, restaurant, sit on a park bench, looking at the clouds.
- If everything is in order in your relationship, they are strong, durable and reliable, then just relax. He will miss you anyway. It is inevitable if people are really close and love each other.
Before leaving, be sure to invite your husband to discuss his troubling questions: he is probably worried about something, but may not decide to say.
Ex boyfriend
Make him bored or someone else. is impossible.
But in previous cases you could influence this, create conditions that will increase the chances, because you regularly contact with a man.
If communication with the former is missing or far from close, there is no sense in “making” him bored: First, you hardly know that he is bored, and secondly, you cannot influence it.
If you know that he is following your life, you can try to evoke certain feelings in him: for example, with the help of photographs, posts on social networks. But remember that sloppy hints may be more likely make fun of youand not cause the necessary reactions.
Ask yourself why do you want him to miss? Want to return to him, to restore the relationship? If not, is there any sense in this striving?
It only shows that you are still dependent on it and have not fully experienced the gap. Refer to a psychologist: he will help you feel better.
How to make a man miss you:
A girl
Key recommendations:
- Maintain relationships, strengthen them. When a girl loves you sincerely, and your relationship is strong and harmonious, she will definitely miss you if you are not around.
- Avoid being imposed. Excessive amount of attention in this regard is harmful: when a person is too much in life, it is difficult to miss him. Do not forget to devote time to your own life.
- Remind her how important she is to you. Gender socialization significantly influences the way women and men look at relationships. As a rule, women value their sensual side a little more; therefore, one should more often talk with a girl about love, say compliments, especially in the first months of a relationship.
- Show that your feelings and feelings are important to you. Women, as a rule, have a developed empathy and prefer to draw closer to people who are also empathic. If it is important to you, then you should genuinely support it.
It is also important to eliminate any manifestations of violence in relationships, trust each other, avoid scandals and discuss problems in a relaxed atmosphere.
Ex-wife
As discussed above, it is impossible to make anyone feel any feelings, only really create suitable conditions and hope that will be enough.
If you do not communicate with your ex-wife, you will not be able to create the necessary conditions for good reason.
And if your relationship was extremely disharmonious, you can hardly hope that she can squeeze out at least some positive feelings for you.
If your desire is in no way connected with a sincere desire to restore good relations with it, it is better to give it up, because it is unrealizable anyway. It is better to contact a psychologist and consult with him.
If you want to return relationship, then try to gently start communicating with her.
It is important to avoid imposing, especially if your relationship was painful. And keep in mind that she has every right to refuse any contact with you.
What methods should not be used?
Some inept attempts to cause the right feelings can cause a quarrel, spoil relationships, make them toxic. If you want your partner to miss you, in no case should you:
- use manipulations, especially such as attempts from time to time to suddenly disappear and return;
- constantly remind about yourself, endlessly write, call and impose by any other means;
- demand to have certain feelings and regularly talk about them, put it on duty, reproach, get angry if the partner says that he does not feel it.
If the relationship is healthy and strong, there is a place for love and tranquility in them, it makes no sense to try to “force” someone to experience something.
If one of the partners is forced to leave, the other sure to be boredbecause it is an invariable element of sustained attachment.
