Many young people, and not only, have a phobia called fear of loneliness. On the one hand, this is a usual thing, but on the other hand, it does not mean that it is not necessary to fight it. Get rid of this fear will help experts psychotherapeutic bias, but many people do not want to resort to this. You can try to get rid of this phobia yourself.
If a person is lonely, it does not mean that this punishment is from above. It’s just not time yet, or so fate decides. There are people who are not alone, who have families, but for some reason feel lonely. Understand yourself, perhaps not everything is as scary as you imagined. It is important to understand this, otherwise this fear will not let you live in peace.
In principle, it would be strange if many people were not afraid of loneliness: otherwise all of us would not need close people. What is called “rest from all”, to be alone, it does not mean that you want to be lonely. As you can see, there are many such people. The main thing to understand, what is your fear of loneliness? Verbal or real?
Verbal - this loneliness, invented by you. You just have no mood, maybe depression, you don't want to see anyone.
The real is when a person really feels lonely. He does not have his own half, no close friends or relatives.
How to deal with the fear of loneliness?
Well, to begin with, we can say that this fear is a part of our life, but we need to somehow diversify it. Do fitness, get a pet, go out more often in the evenings with friends in a cafe, that is, occupy yourself with a useful activity more so as not to feel lonely. Do something beautiful for your soul, for example, visit an art gallery.
To a person who lacks his own half: do not turn sour, do not complain, but begin to act. First, do not draw your ideal, as there are no ideal people, otherwise you will be disappointed. Your future is in your hands. So rely only on yourself. Of course, you can resort to the help of a professional matchmaker in this matter or ask your close friends to help, but otherwise it will be only your merit. The main thing - to go purposefully to your goal.
In order to achieve success in your personal life and please your partner, make sure that you can expect serious criticism. Also take care of your appearance, do not be too closed, otherwise your half might think that you are arrogant.
Training exercises
You can offer to play with your destiny in the opposite. That is, you live in the same world, but constantly feel insecure and different. For example, today you feel alone - it means attract attention to yourself. It's very simple, ask a passerby or friend to help you with something, and you will see that you will not be so lonely. And since you will respond to your request, it means that you are no longer completely alone.
Once a week, go out to the people. Make this way out for yourself to the maximum, so that is enough for the whole coming week.
Every evening, sit down in your warm corner, listen to your favorite music or an interesting film, think about the people that are dear to you.
