It will not be a secret for anyone that all women love to listen to tender words, but few people know that even the representatives of the stronger sex rarely refuse such praise. To some extent, men are even more than girls need it in affectionate words. One of my good friends talked about the reasons for parting with a girl and said: “You know, she was very good. I gave a lot of practical advice, but in such an instructive tone that I could not stand it. I felt like I was in school again. ”
After talking with this guy, I began to pay attention to how girls talk with their loved ones. To be honest, I was in some way shocked that most of the day we speak rudely, carelessly, sharply, persistently, offended - in one word for everyone, but not at all affectionate. But this is our beloved and close people. So why is this happening?
Maybe the reason is that we simply do not control our intonation? Work, study, home, everyday problems - all this makes to some extent forget about femininity and tenderness. However, we ourselves constantly complain that we should abstract ourselves from external problems for the sake of love and a loved one.
I discussed this issue with one friend, who in real life is a real “iron lady”, but once her husband calls her, the voice becomes unrecognizable: tender and caring, even if at that moment she is standing in line with her hands, it is pouring rain on the street. And the point is not that she protects her husband so much from her own bad mood. The fact is that, in her opinion, if he is not to blame for what is happening, there is no need to pour out his anger on the dearest person. As strange as it may seem, but due to this attitude on the part of the spouse, the husband of my friend treats her very carefully. He subtly notes all the mood swings, catching them in the gentle voice of his wife. Of course, many in his place just started to take advantage of the situation and allow themselves to be superfluous, but not all men are like that, and even loving even more so.
Nice words for your favorite guy - is it necessary?
In order to stop behaving in this way, first of all it is necessary to understand why it is strong and self-sufficient men who so badly need pleasant words.
First of alldespite all the external strength of the spirit, men are much weaker in spiritual terms. This in no way means that women are stronger. No, in ordinary life, men cope better with stress or depression, but in terms of emotions, it is easier for a woman to survive difficulties.
Any guy wants to be praised, would be called the best and most-most. You should not, of course, praise him for what he is a complete "zero." But there are no guys who would not deserve at least a couple of pleasant words all day.
How to understand when to “praise” a guy? Pay attention when a young person’s attention is more focused on you. It is unlikely that this happens in a car, standing in traffic, while working, when a guy calls to find out how you are doing. Everyone has free hours. So, the guys made it in his spare time, the most valuable, as he had the opportunity to spend the cherished couple of hours for himself or friends, but he dedicated them to his beloved - that is, to you. If you appreciate it and want the guy to understand about it, then communicate your emotions with the help of kind words.
Secondly, guys like feminine girls, and gentle words, gentle and caring look - this is nothing more than one of the indicators of femininity. Like it or not, many men, even well-established in life and work, need the support of their mother. If there is no such support from his own parent, but the man will look for her in his partner. And if in the future many people can refuse a wife-mistress, a wife-friend or a wife-wife, then not all will lose their wife-mom.
How not to say gentle words to your loved one?
Lovely girls, from the face of guys and men (although I am also a representative of the weaker sex, but so many complaints were heard from men that I take the right to celebrate it), please do not confuse tenderness and some kind of childishness. For example, I myself am not very clear about how a 150-kilogram creature can be called a rabbit, which, with all its appearance, says that it would not mind being tasted by this bunny. What kind of words we do not call our men: the sun, fish, bear cub, rabbits and the like. Such a sugary-sweet dish, many men simply can not digest.
What do men want, believe me, your husband or boyfriend will be much more pleased to respond to the simple “Beloved, dear, my soul.” In short, it is advisable not to involve in the human relations the permanent residents of the zoological park, if even for the first time such expressions are suitable, then after five to ten years of marriage they will cause a clear disgust of your husband.
What does it mean to gently refer to a guy?
Nice words are not just a set of letters expressing the whole range of your feelings. Affectionate words suggest the presence of the appropriate voice, appearance. However, you should not, standing in front of a mirror, train how to say gentle words to your loved one. So it will be a complicated and simple performance, which is absolutely not relevant in a relationship. If you want your partner to be truly happy with your words and believe in them, then do it sincerely.
If the guy does not reciprocate?
Despite the fact that men need gentle words, they can not always respond to tenderness. That is, we, their second half, in our hearts understand that they show every care and concern for our lives, but still want to hear it. What if you support your beloved in every way, including not forgetting gentle words, and he doesn't answer back or not? I can advise only one thing - do not despair. Many men just do not understand exactly how to show feelings. But this does not mean that they do not love you. Appreciate their emotions in trifles: in the corrected blanket, in the fact that he came to pick you up on a rainy day ... all this is the answer to your kind words.
