My friend Lenka is still not married. And she is afraid to even think, not what to say - for 29 years already. No, I, who got married at 20 with a tail, do not see a problem in her situation, but she herself is terribly worried about this. She can hear the ugly voice behind her back: "He-hee, the old maid has gone."
Of course, no one thinks so, because our Lenka looks amazing - a young, well-groomed, fashionably dressed girl. But there is no confidence in the gaze, and even those who seek this gaze, examine and study, study each man they meet - what if it is he who is the one who calls for marriage!
Why is this happening? No, I'm not talking about why not get married beautiful, smart and successful. I am about why girls, being alone for a long time, begin to doubt their own originality, uniqueness and relevance? This self-doubt is literally imprinted on their face, and here already no tricks will help to attract the man you like.
So how not to despair, not to lose faith in yourself and in the possibility of an early meeting with those from whose eyes your legs will buckle, and your heart will start popping out of your chest?
First of allIt should be remembered that the age of a woman is a conditional indicator, and you are as old as you look. And how to look good, every woman knows, and every not lazy woman not only knows, but also applies it in practice, quite successfully in most cases.
SecondlyOne should not forget that every past year is a contribution to the treasury of worldly wisdom. If in the first years of my marriage I knew as much as I now know about the relationship between the sexes, about the psychology of men, and about the same cooking, sewing, then I would avoid many problems and quarrels.
AND, third, you need to believe, to believe in love, which inadvertently descends. Not to live in anticipation of this love, but to live with the knowledge that sooner or later everything will be. There will be a sneaky glance, the first smile addressed to you, the first date, a kiss, a crazy night in the warm embrace of a loved one, a declaration of love, veil and wedding dress, doves in their hands, two long-awaited strips on the litmus test and the first shocks of the child inside you.
All this will be. But how long this happiness will last depends on what, how and with whom you are doing now. Do not waste your time, but do not rush. Remember - then everything that happens now will become your Past. It will be filled with joyful expectation of a miracle or with an evil longing for lost time, you have to decide.
