Many have to deal with rude, arrogant people. How to behave in this situation - everyone decides for himself. Someone can not take to heart, and do not pay attention. Others may think about how to humiliate a person and get revenge by safeguarding themselves from attacks. Where to begin?
The first thing to do is to identify your own strengths and not doubt them. To humiliate someone, you need to have confidence in yourself. Otherwise, it will look like self-affirmation at the expense of others. Who will look humiliated at the same time is understandable without comment.
The next step is to determine what is a person’s pride. Professional qualities, reputation, financial well-being - all this can be used. At the same time, it is necessary to determine what it is really good for and not comment on it. Otherwise, there is a risk of being envious. It is equally important to tell only the truth. Lies or exaggeration does not affect pride.
Humiliation in response to aggression
Most often, the desire to humiliate arises as a response to an insult. One of the ways is demonstrative ignoring.
This will require a certain excerpt. Show a person that he means nothing, and his opinion is worth nothing. Especially clearly this can happen at the moment when he says a long, derogatory tirade, for about five minutes, and in response he hears a calm one: “Did you say something?”. Even if he had enough fuse to repeat, which in itself is unlikely, there is an equally calm answer to this: “I knew that there was nothing meaningful.”
Sometimes you can put a humiliating statement as a rhetorical question, for example: “I won’t attach myself, and why do you behave like crazy?” The criticism seems to refer not to the person himself, but to his behavior. There is nothing to argue, it is only possible to prove the opposite. If a person dares to clarify what is wrong with his behavior, there are two ways: to try to build a constructive dialogue or leave, having hopelessly sigh.
Another way is irony. Here a lot depends not only on the selection of words, but also on intonation. It will take insight to really hurt a person. So, if he tries to impress others, you can say: “You try to be so witty. It doesn't seem to help you that much. ”
Hidden aggression
Not everyone can lead an open conflict. Therefore, it is sometimes better to use ways that are not so obvious.
These include regular criticism in a benevolent envelope. For example, the phrases: “I thought, you know ...”, “I didn’t know that you can ...”, incidentally show that in the eyes of the speaker, this person does not know and cannot.
This also includes tips that are not needed by a specialist. This refers to the sphere of activity in which a person considers himself to be a professional, or a sphere of life where he is doing well. “Try to cut it smoothly.” - such a phrase would humiliate a professional hairdresser, as well as the words: “Do not look at girls.” - a person who considers himself an exemplary family man.
If the one who wants to humiliate is endowed with great power, and it is very dangerous to conflict with him, then one of the types of irony will do - hopeless agreement. This is a situation where the words “well, of course” sound with the intonation of a person who has no other choice.
The advantage of a hidden way to humiliate is that it is difficult to respond to it correctly. If a person starts shouting, swearing, or doing retaliatory attacks, it only means that the words really touched him.
What to remember
You should not humiliate a person with a cry. This will only show the incontinence of the speaker, no more. Words that are spoken calmly, without unnecessary emotions, have much greater power.
Self-control shows that a person is self-confident and humiliates not in order to assert himself.
In addition, long speeches are more likely to tire than humiliate. The wording should be clear and short.
Do not abuse the humiliation. They are more effective when such words from a person’s mouth are really rare. They get used to the spiteful critics and simply do not pay attention to them. In addition, you can not understand hurt the feelings of someone who does not deserve it.
Do not forget about eye contact. When a person feels aggression in his address, he will most likely raise his eyes. And if the speaker is unable to withstand this look, turns away or averts his eyes, it will betray his self-doubt.
Do not memorize supposedly witty phrases that are often published on social networks. You can hear the offensive: "Your mind did not have enough to come up with, you are quoting the public?" This can knock the ground out from under your feet. Only what is produced by your own mind in relation to a particular person will be original and will not become obsolete.
The ability to keep yourself in hand will allow you to wisely decide when you really need to lower someone to the ground.
