Cynicism is always seen with negative point of view, as trampling the existing foundations in society.
But there is a similar position and its advantages.
Concept in simple words
Cynicism - frankly dismissive attitude to the moral principles and ideals accepted in society.
Denial of existing values and ideas.
Cynical behavior always defiantly, defiant.
People to whom it is inherent, strive to show their rejection of the norms acting in society. The main stimulus of activity for them is the achievement of their own interests, which are the only true ones.
Cynical man
Usually, neglect of social attitudes is characteristic of people who strive to prove their superiority, by any means to achieve the goals, to confront the injustice and hypocrisy of society.
That is, the reasons for encouraging a person to behave in this non-standard way may be different. The result is always the same - misunderstanding, irritation, rejection from other people.
Cynical behavior almost always becomes a source of conflict, since life position of its carrier does not meet the beliefs of the majority.
A person deliberately reduces the importance of things that are meaningful to other people, casts doubt on generally accepted authorities.
This can not cause irritation. Often irony slips into his behavior, mockery that only aggravates the situation.
Usually, individuals who neglect moral ideals are distinguished by their tough, secretive character. They are demanding, straightforward, perceptive.
Cynic is sure that everything in this world can be bought. He discards any idea of shame, morality, principles, morality. Everything, in his opinion, has rationale and material value.
Surrounding people are viewed from the perspective of utility. If someone stops responding to his requirements, he can always be replaced.
Psychology
People mocking public foundations perceived as aggressors. But from a psychological point of view, cynicism is not always a way to demonstrate dominant behavior.
Often this is a kind of defensive reaction of a person who is trying to hide his own feelings behind a mask of indifference.
In such cases, the cynic is soft and vulnerable individual who builds a wall in a similar way between himself and other people.
This allows him to protect his inner world from gross interference from outside and protect yourself from possible suffering.
Thus, a man who has survived the betrayal may further demonstrate disregard for all the fair sex for fear of being betrayed again.
If no internal psychological trauma for such a life attitude is not worth it, then we can talk about a conscious choice of this style of behavior.
Individuals with a rebellious temper of character choose him to express a negative attitude to the order of things in society.
How does it manifest itself?
Men and women have different psychological characteristics, so the manifestation of cynicism has their own nuances.
In men
For men always foreground success, career, money. A man is important to be realized in life. Accordingly, cynicism is often peculiar to those representatives of the stronger sex, who could not achieve great heights.
Behind the mask of contempt for society lies a feeling of discontent with oneself and lack of implementation in the professional sphere.
In the personal life of a man's cynicism can make excuses with injuries. Resentment against one woman can turn into aggression towards all women, which ultimately manifests itself in a mocking, dismissive attitude.
Women and girls are perceived as things that have a certain price.
Male cynicism may be caused by other reasons.
So, the desire for material wealth can gradually lead to a complete loss of spirituality, morality.
Habit of thinking rationally and seek profit everywhere transferred to all spheres of life: friendship, love, family.
Among women
Women mostly live feelings, emotions. For them, personal life is usually more important than career achievement. Accordingly, women become cynical when failing in a relationship, family.
Failures in their personal lives make them tough, aggressive, mistrustful. By relying only on herself, a woman ceases to trust others. All the principles imposed by society cause her irritation.
Female cynicism carries a greater danger than male. He is more evil, hard.
The fair sex created by nature for motherhood, family. This mission implies the presence of spiritual qualities: softness, affection, kindness. Accordingly, the cynical woman moving away from its nature and closer to the male essence.
Life examples
A prime example of modern cynicism is indifference and indifference to other people's problems.
So, a healthy and strong man passes by a woman with heavy bags and does not offer help, and the young guy does not give up his seat on the bus to an elderly man with a cane.
These people do not consider themselves obliged to help the weaker person, having all the opportunities for this. They are convinced that everyone solves his own problems. Nobody owes anything to anyone. - the popular motto of modern cynics.
Another direction of cynicism is pronounced maximalism, contrasting true values with banalities, often imposed by stereotypes. For example, the denial of Valentine's Day, ridicule the kisses of lovers on the street, contempt for any romantic public acts.
Contempt to such trends in the field of love relationships can be viewed as the cynicism of a dry, senseless person.
At the same time, his behavior may indicate the presence of his own understanding of relationships, going against the generally accepted ideas.
Cynic does not believe in selflessness actions of people. For example, the sincere desire of a friend to help sort out a difficult life situation will be viewed by a cynic with suspicion.
He will rest assured that behind friend's benevolence there is not a simple desire to help, but a search for benefits.
Good or bad?
Each person decides for himself whether to be a cynic himself and how he treats such people.
Such behavior has its advantages and disadvantages.
Pros of a cynical attitude to life:
- realistic perception of reality;
- the absence of "rose-colored glasses", which are the source of illusions;
- no risk of being disappointed in people (due to low expectations).
Cons of cynicism:
- problems with psychological, physical health;
- problems with entering into a relationship;
- communication problems;
- inability to cooperate with other people;
- emotional detachment from others;
- ignoring real experiences;
- pessimistic view of life.
There are more minuses of such behavior than advantages. And this is natural. Constant opposition to the majority can not make a person happy.
We all live in a society, therefore successful socialization is possible only if the behavior corresponds to the laws existing in society.
How to communicate with a cynic?
The cynic is constantly engaged depreciate of what matters to the people around them.
And they do it in a rude manner. Rough, tactless comments can greatly hurt people who communicate with such a person.
As a result, the interlocutors have a feeling emptiness. Values and ideals that are not susceptible to injury start to seem pathetic and meaningless.
Communication with cynics contraindicated romantic, gentle, insecure individuals. Such people will fall prey to a cynic who will easily break their value system and force them to reconsider existing views.
The two cynics who understand each other very well find a common language. Also, a confident partner with a strong attitude, who is not without a sense of humor, can cope with a difficult partner.
All dismissive statements of an opponent such a person can just ignore it and not take seriously. He remains true to his ideals and does not lose ground.
Defining Healthy Cynicism
Healthy cynicism - is the ability to show the necessary share of selfishness to protect their interests. Such a vital position is currently particularly popular.
Without healthy cynicism, a person will become an easy target for outsiders, often not acting in their interests.
For example, healthy cynicism can be called disregard of alms beggars based on confidence in their hypocrisy.
The same person who did not give alms, can help the grandmother to bring the bag to the entrance or pick up a kitten on the street.
It is important to recognize the difference between healthy cynicism and indifference, selfishness and indifference.
How to become?
To become a cynic, you need to do the following:
- Concentrate on your bad life experiences. Constant thinking about your own failures gives the necessary pessimistic mood.
- Convince yourself that negative experiences will surely repeat. Awareness of the possible repetition of negative events stimulates the development of a wary attitude towards people.
- Do not trust the people around you. Cynics believe only themselves. All the people around them do not inspire confidence in them, since they are aimed solely at obtaining benefits (in their opinion).
- To voice aloud all your thoughts without regard to the opinions and feelings of other people.. It is necessary to disregard other people, showing a certain egoism and indifference.
- Develop intelligence, sense of humor. Cynicism is quite complex in organization character trait, requiring a certain level of development of intelligence.
Sense of humor allows you to soften any comments, making them even more accurate.
Thus, the psychology of cynicism is quite multifaceted. Each person chooses a similar line of conduct for specific reasons. If you wish, you can develop healthy cynicismthat will help survive in modern society.
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