Any relationship begins with dating and the first conversation. Therefore, instead of seeing “that very one” with one look only, you need to step up and speak. But how to start a conversation with a girl, if at the mere mention of this language becomes numb, hands begin to tremble, and the last little bit clever idea instantly disappears from the mind?
It all starts with thoughts
It is not necessary to count on the fact that everything will turn out by itself, therefore it is necessary to make a conscious effort. The first thing to do is get rid of fear.
We need to understand for ourselves that girls, for all their unusualness, are the same people. They tend to just worry and worry.
You shouldn't wind yourself up with thoughts like: “what if she has a boyfriend?”, “What if she refuses me?”, “What if I behave strangely?”. This will take away the last self-confidence, and then most likely the behavior will be strange, the girl will refuse and meet with another. Get out of doubt!
Self-confidence depends on various factors. There are several possibilities to influence her. First, you need to avoid extremes in relation to their appearance. Secondly, it is necessary to hone good manners - it is captivating. Thirdly, you need to think in advance what to say.
If we talk about the latter, one magic phrase that will conquer any girl does not exist. There are two methods for making acquaintances, and both have their positive sides.
Direct approach
This method is appropriate in its own way and when dating on the street, and at work or a place of study. It can be used both at the first meeting, and with a person who is in sight every day.
The first step is eye contact. No need to look at the girl for too long and intently - this can confuse her. Best of all is to catch her gaze, meet your eyes and take them away. Shy guy is likely to turn red, but it's not scary, rather the opposite - such an unobtrusive display of sympathy can not leave indifferent.
Having met eyes, it is necessary to show that attention of the person is pleasant. This is evidenced by a smile. Smiling you can help yourself to cope with anxiety, show the girl that there is interest in her, and maybe even trigger a response.
If a girl does not smile back - this does not mean that you should not approach. Perhaps she was confused, or her rules simply do not include smiling at everyone she meets.
A good start to the conversation will be a compliment. He will show that the reason for dating - sympathy, not just curiosity.
Mere compliment is not enough to hold a conversation. The next item on the plan is to ask a point of view question. Its advantage is that it assumes a detailed answer. So it's easier to build a conversation.
Veiled approach
Another way of dating will please especially shy. He does not require a "start from the spot", the acquaintance occurs gradually. In addition, a direct approach can alert the girl. 
The way is to ask for help, or offer it. It can be anything: find out how much time, help carry a bag, open the door in front of it. After that, just as in the first method, you need to make eye contact and smile. Having found out the “working moment”, it is worthwhile to continue the conversation with an appropriate compliment.
How to continue the conversation
The worst thing is that after the first couple of phrases there will be an awkward pause that will confuse both. To avoid this, you must learn to ask questions correctly. They may relate to some event, event or any other non-personal area of life.
In order for the dialogue to take place, the question should not be one that can be answered in monosyllables. It is better to formulate it so that it prompts to speak. Instead of asking, “Do you have plans for the weekend?”, It’s better to find out exactly which girl’s plans are. This, at the same time, will help unobtrusively find out if she has a boyfriend.
It is equally important to listen carefully to what the interlocutor is responding to. Because of this, you can find out what interests her, and continue the conversation on the topic. It is pleasant to any person when he is listened to, and especially to a woman.
In conversation, you need to show that the girl is interesting as a person. To do this, you need not only to listen, but not to wander through the eyes of her body. Etiquette recommends looking into the eyes of the interlocutor, but not very intently.
Continuing the conversation, you can invite the girl to go along where she was going. And it should not look like a request, rather as a sentence. That is, the wording should not use the word "can". It would be better to ask by the way: “Are you going to the store? Let's go. ”And continue the conversation.
When the conversation comes to an end, you can offer to meet again. Again, exactly offer, and not ask. You can ask how often she is in these places, where she likes to go, and agree to meet in one of these places.
Finishing the conversation, you need to leave before the girl thinks about it. Long farewell ceremonies should be postponed until the following meetings.
And of course, you need to come to the next meeting, even if it seems that there is not much chance.
What can push away
Insufficient personal hygiene. If a young man has an unpleasant smell from his mouth, or he was not in the shower after a workout, it is very difficult to talk to him. Even if he is very kind.
It is better to avoid speech stamps - familiar phrases that have become part of everyday life. For example, the phrase “can I meet you?” Causes a steady desire to refuse.
Do not rush to tactile contact, although, of course, you always want to touch the object of sympathy. But if you look at the situation through the eyes of a girl, then when an outsider violates personal space, at the very least, thoughts of his nobility will come to mind.
Compliments should be appropriate. It is not necessary to comment on the figure or clothes - it is only allowed to close people. It is better to stay on the hair, eyes or some kind of ability, if they are obvious.
The first impression for a long time remains in memory. Rarely gets a chance to fix it. Therefore, it is better not to say too much.
Do not be afraid of girls. As a rule, to approach yourself is the only option to make acquaintance, girls rarely decide on the first step, even if they feel sympathy. But when a guy fits himself, if he is polite, attentive and interesting, a relationship can arise that will please both.
