How to return a loved one?

Let's be frank, not all love stories end with a happy ending. It often happens that one of the partners decides to end the relationship. If the relationship began to deteriorate long enough, then this final could be guessed. But sometimes it is like a bolt from the blue. Resentment, the desire to be together, frustration, anger at themselves and the whole world merge into one emotion, and the most important thing seems to be only one question - how to return a loved one.

What to do?

In fact, it is up to you to decide whether it is worth taking any steps at all - because the person has left your life of his own accord. Should I now chase the ghost of love? In most cases, to restore such relationships that were before, it does not work. Psychologists recommend to pause and “digest” what happened. This will help to take a different look at the relationship, which is useful, regardless of whether the previous partner returns or a new one appears.

When something really wants to stay is difficult. However, hot emotions are not what you need right now. Cold head and accurate calculation - this should be guided on the way to your goal.

Firstly, it’s still worth taking a pause. Do not remind yourself at least 3 weeks. The first few days are the most difficult, but you need to hold out. Do not think that you are losing time - in fact, you are standing up for your strategy and are preparing for an “attack”. During this time you have a lot to do.

Returning a loved one is not an easy task. And you need to understand that the result may not be what you want. In any case, your main goal is to preserve dignity, give a person time to cool down and think about everything and give him a chance to return. No persuasion, tears, tantrums, promises that you should not be changed.

Never ask a person to return, the maximum that you can count on is pity. In the worst case - complete rejection. You do not need either. It is necessary either to ensure that the person himself wishes to be there, or to proudly make his decision.

How to act?

Now you have a whole month to change everything. Get started:

1. 1 week may well go on to how to cry out. But if you wish, this item can be omitted. It is best to do sports - active physical activity is very effective in combating depression.
2. Analysis of the situation. You need to understand why your partner decided to end the relationship. Did you really make any mistakes or have character flaws that could lead to a break. In this place it is necessary to distinguish the objective from the subjective. You can not like everyone absolutely. Similarly, it should be understood that what is flawed for someone, dignity for another person. Are you ready to change yourself, do you want this? Will you be better? Or maybe the person just came up with some reason to part? Did you feel good about this relationship? Maybe a lot did not suit? There are a lot of questions - scatter everything on the shelves, so it will be much easier to figure it out.
3. Regardless of the results that you came to in the previous paragraph, you need to make sure that you do not have time to suffer. Try to fill your life to the maximum - any hobbies, books, movies - everything will do. Implement something that is not enough time, do what is interesting, learn something new every day. You need to understand that your happiness does not depend on the presence in life of a certain person. Happiness is within you, and you just do not want to let it out. Learn to truly rejoice. Like always attracts like.
4. Well, if a former partner has the opportunity to monitor your activity. He must understand that you do not suffer and do not suffer, but live fully and enjoy life. Well, if this is true. But even if one cannot enjoy life, no one should guess about it. Girls often express their mood through social networks with the help of statuses and thematic pictures. It is quite possible to use this, but only choose something life-affirming and positive, but at the same time no aggression or disappointment about the former relationship. Better to avoid this topic. Rest assured, men are no less curious than women. Your partner will definitely look - what is happening with you. Do not disappoint him! Shine up!
5. If in your relationship you have forgotten a little about yourself, it's time to fix it. Update wardrobe, hairstyle - be well-groomed and attractive girl.
6. Now you can write or call your former partner. The topic should be distracted - you can ask for some service, for example. Conversation should be smooth and calm, with no complaints or excessive tenderness. Do not ask about your personal life - this does not concern you, don’t think about your relationship - you only call on business, do not forget about it. If your former partner inquires about your personal life, pause and get away from the answer. For example, you can say "This is now no matter ...". Add a little intrigue. You used to think, now let him think.
7. Well, if your call goes to a meeting. Your request for help should be exactly that. At the meeting, avoid meaningful glances, behave calmly, kindly and smile.

Be sure that if a person has feelings, he will definitely show them. If they are not there, you cannot force anyone to love. You have become better, smarter, more confident - lift your head higher, keep your back straight and go towards your dreams. And a person who can respond with love to your love will definitely find you.

Irina, Minsk

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