How to get rid of heartache
It is human nature to experience in various life situations. However, sometimes, mental suffering becomes unbearable, and here it is already going on how to live further.
Mental pain is considered one of the strongest, sometimes it is put even above physical pain. Its feature and disadvantage is that this very pain can cause a different type of illness or malaise, and it can also very detrimentally affect the psychological state or nervous system. However, at such moments, a person does not care much about his physical condition. Therefore, it is very important to understand it and fight for your normal mental well-being.
The reasons
The soul does not begin to hurt just like that. Her most common cause is a breakdown in relationships or an event in life. The human brain has a kind of reality map. It varies with age or life experience. However, life is not as simple as it is. As a result, it is often difficult for a person to accept the truth, the life you imagined was suddenly destroyed. And this is not so easy to realize as it seems at first glance. Therefore, after such an event, a person goes through three stages, which, one way or another, are accompanied by heartache.
Denial or how to accept reality
The first is denial. How to come to terms with what is not at all the way you wanted? What seemed right and natural turned out to be a lie, an illusion of the beautiful life that you read about, and nothing more. How to accept this terrible truth, how to give up happiness? Even if this happiness is now out of reach, it is much easier to deny it simply to ignore the truth and live with past experiences and joys, but just not to believe in today's cruel truth.
Awareness does not come immediately. The fear of change makes the brain not accept what you are unable to digest this minute. This leads to the fact that initially a person does not take the situation seriously.
How to get rid of heartache, even if you do not accept the truth?
You need to do the following: get rid of everything that reminds of the past. If you have broken a relationship, then stop seeing this person for a while, get rid of all his things in your apartment. If another event happened in your life, you can change the situation, go to rest in another place, so that there, far from home, collect all the fragments of the past and present and realize what happened, accept it. For some, immersion in work or fun with friends helps in this situation. This is an effective method, but it must be controlled. You should have friends who will help and support you if necessary.
Hatred
The second is hate. You start to blame everyone or a particular person for what happened. This stage is dangerous because in an unstable psychological state you can make a lot of nonsense, which you will regret over time. Therefore, it is very important that at this time there should be a reliable friend who is able to protect you from rash acts.
Anger is useful at least in that you can not hold back emotions. This release can help you relieve tension, and even, to some extent, gain self-confidence.
The stage of hatred is a time when you want to become an egoist, to be happy in spite of a person who has offended or in spite of the whole world who has not given you the desire. The recipe for treatment in this case is quite simple, you need to be active, but close to your friends. Here are some simple ways to let off steam:
Sign up for the gym, where you can get enough of the punching bag for all the pain you have experienced.
Climbing wall will help to climb to the top of the world, above all your problems.
Fitness is also a great way to relieve tension and calm nerves.
However, activity is active, but this period of hatred can severely undermine your nervous system. Therefore, at night, brew yourself a soothing tea, take a relaxing bath and can even meditate.
Suffering
How to cope with heartache yourself? She has not gone away, and so much time has passed. When you begin to feel responsibility and pain, it means that the time of your third stage has come - pain and experiences. Sooner or later, a person begins to realize the share of his guilt in what happened, as well as regret and shame for his behavior. At this time, do not hold back pain or tears. You have suffered enough and deserve such a pleasure, especially since tears help to release emotional anxieties and sorrows.
Stock up on ice cream and napkins for the evening. After a hard day, do not cook anything, order a pizza or buy something tasty. When you come home, wrap yourself in your favorite warm bathrobe, turn on your favorite melodrama, after dinner sit on a cozy sofa alone or with a friend and eat ice cream. It is not just so loved by all, this product is uplifting. You need to open emotions, experience with your favorite actors, cry over broken hearts and unfulfilled hopes. It must be your evening, the evening of your tears.
A similar procedure is recommended even by experts. After all, the human body is not iron, it needs unloading, and your pain must find a way out. Then, after tears and consolations, you will feel relieved. It will give you a new day and joy, when spiritual torment finally gives way to peace and tranquility.
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