Some parents may be worried that their child is an introvert.
In fact, this is a feature of temperament, and you just need to find a baby or a teenager the right approach.
Characteristics and features
Introvert directed more into your inner world, from there he also draws energy.
He may have problems making contacts. An introvert is not so much in need of other people, as its opposite - an extrovert.
Such a child prefer more solitary activities, playing alone. He has his own special world, so other children may consider him closed, despite the fact that the introvert also needs to communicate.
The inability to be the first to make contact can become a real problem when there is a need for communication, but the child does not know how to implement it.
Introverts are more tired of social contacts than their sociable peers.
For example, after visiting holidays, contacts with a large number of people, they need time to recover and need to be alone.
The nature of their discreet. Thoughts, emotions they keep in themselves. If the introverted child is worried about something, the parents may not know about it, because he simply will not tell them.
In social interaction, such children prefer small groups or one on one contact. Surrounded by a large number of people, especially if there are many strangers there, they feel uncomfortable, prefer to behave imperceptibly.
They feel more comfortable with someone they know well.
Then introvert can open, to make philosophical conversations, to share thoughts and emotions.
But he will most likely not be revealed to others or to those he does not like.
How to identify: signs
Before attributing a child to a certain temperament, it is advisable for parents to study their signs.
The fact is that there are pure introverts or extroverts, and it happens that, more often, mixing these types, shifting more in one direction or the other.
Baby introvert:
- Avoid eye contact.. This is especially pronounced with strangers. They do not particularly like new contacts, so they subconsciously try to isolate themselves from this. So they are protected from fears, evaluations of other people themselves, the need to say something.
- If the introverted child is very tired, then he is able to throw a tantrum. This happens not because of a capricious temper, but because the nervous system cannot cope with the load.
- The child is quietprefers to communicate with toys, himself. He does not run around the store, does not attract attention, and quietly stands next to adults.
- He has a developed fantasyso he is not bored playing alone.
- The introverted child has few friends, but they are all proven, those whom he trusts.
- Refuse to try something new. Changes scare them, especially those associated with interactions with other people.
- On the children's matinee such children prefer to be in the crowd, and not to speak in public.
- Weakly express their emotions outside or do not express them at all. A child may seem indifferent, although in reality it is experiencing very strongly within itself.
Teenagers with the character of the introvert, similar signs are observed as in small children.
Usually they are more closed, have a rich inner world. There may be a thirst for knowledge more than to communicate.
Rarely are members small social groups, they have one or two friends. These teenagers do not like to attend parties, and if they go, they keep aloof.
Strongly expressed introverts peers may not understand, considering the closed, fearful, strange.
They very sensitive. The world around is filled with smells, sounds, colors.
These teens notice a lot of small details. Among them, there are often creative people and people inclined to science.
Non-standard thinking, able to find an original solution - this should be used in school and for self-development.
Emotional response events may be delayed, that is, the child reacts much later than when something happened.
Already in adolescence, such children perfectly know how to listen to the interlocutor, understand emotions, and know how to evaluate non-verbal signals.
Despite the fact that they have few close friends, introverts know how to be friends and value friendship. They are very upset if for some reason they lose confidence in another person.
What difficulties may arise?
The first thing that parents and caregivers need to do is to try to understand the child.
Insularity and fear prevent the expansion of social contacts.
Children can afraid to speak in front of the whole classthat causes certain problems.
When applying punishments, it is important to bear in mind that an introvert child will swallow a grudge and leave emotions inside.
It may seem to you that he did not learn the lesson, but in fact the confidence in his parents was undermined, and the next time when something happens, the son or daughter simply will not tell about it, fearing judgment.
Such children are often silent, it is difficult to get an answer or a story about their experiences from them.
How to communicate with him and how to educate?
Tips for Introvert Education:
- It seems that he does not like to communicate, but in fact it is not. Even an introvert needs social contacts and can suffer if they are not enough. The child should try to adapt to society, to teach to be in the team. However, do not force if he does not want, but try to arouse interest.
- Introvert fear causes new situations.therefore, the child should be introduced to them gradually. If he is sent to the garden or he is going to school, try to explain what is interesting and safe there.
- Take into account the pace of activity. If the child is slow, do not rush him.
- Give the opportunity to relax aloneso it recovers energy.
The introvert child needs to find an occupation that will be help its development. If he is interested in design or creativity, he must be given such an opportunity.
However, it should be noted that it is very important to develop social skills as well, so he will have to live and work in society.
Be sure to give him a place where he can practice and play alone.
How to adapt a child to kindergarten and school?
Of particular concern to the parents of a baby introvert is the need to send the child to kindergarten, and then to the educational institution.
If the extrovert easily converges with the team and goes to school with pleasure, then its opposite there are problems with it.
Before preparing for kindergarten, be sure to tell the kid what this place is, why he goes there.
First, bring the baby for 2-3 hours, let him get used to the setting, will get acquainted with children, will become interested in toys.
Introverts do not immediately get used to a new place, they need time to adapt.
Some parents, seeing the uncommunicity of their child, leave him to school at home. This is a good option if the child is taken to developmental classes, where he can learn how to communicate and will be able to develop various skills.
If his social circle is limited only to close relatives, it will become a problem when he starts school and meets with his peers.
After staying in the group, ask the child what he did there, with whom he met, that he learned interesting things.
If he wants to be alone, give him that opportunity, let him take a break from social contacts.
Pay special attention to the choice of educators. Introverts do not tolerate rough, negligent treatment. Such an attitude contributes to increased stress and internal stress.
And as we remember, the introvert keeps his emotions to himself, and parents may not even guess what is really happening and how the situation affects the child’s psyche.
Preparation for school - another crucial moment. By this time, the child should have self-service skills, be comfortable with new situations, be able to communicate within their capabilities. School and peers should not come as a surprise to him.
How to prepare:
- tell the child that he has now matured and will soon go to school;
- find out if he has any fears about this, discuss it, reassure;
- In no case do not scare teachers, lessons, difficulties, otherwise the very first day at school will be associated with stress;
- get ready with the child - go to the store, let him choose a backpack, get stationery, uniform;
- choose the right school - ideally, in an educational institution should take into account the individuality of children, and not work with all on the same principle;
- develop talents.
Explain the characteristics of your child to the teacher., let him help him to get acquainted with his classmates, since an introverted child is very rarely the first to make contact.
When he answers at the blackboard, you don’t need to rush him, it’s better to give a little hint if he is confused.
Remember that introverts do not tolerate well, when they shoutThey are forced to do something quickly, if they cannot, they are unreasonably criticized.
Introvert - this is just a feature of temperament. If parents and teachers will try find the right approachthen the child will grow up active, with a healthy psyche and fully capable of living in society.
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