Sooner or later we come to the idea that in life you need to change something. On the one hand, we all understand to one degree or another how to start a New Life, but why then do so many people fail in this noble cause? How is it that even such a harmless decision to start breakfast, not coffee and a cigarette, but oatmeal with fruit in most cases ends in a fiasco. I will talk about 5 fatal mistakes of everyone who has ever started a new life and why, the beginning of a new life is postponed ... and again postponed, and I will give clear recommendations on how to avoid these mistakes.
Oh, yes, this day has come! Starting a new life.
You finally made this bold (or not) decision to start a new life. But regardless of what exactly you are investing in this concept - playing sports, taking care of your health, buying a pet, refusing meat, setting up new relationships or changing jobs - you come across the same obstacles and make similar mistakes.
And everything seems to be extremely simple. For example, I wanted to start running in the morning - go out and run. But as soon as it comes to business here, it begins ... although it probably does not begin.
Feat or Error # 1
When we decide for ourselves to start a new life, i.e. to act in a new way, not on a grooved rut, to do something that we have not done before, then we miss the most important enemy that we have to face - our own brain. I am not kidding. The main task of our brain is not to make us happy and rich, but to save us from death, to save lives. The established order of things the brain accepts as a known and, in a certain sense, safe environment. And everything new, our intentions and decisions to earn more and to be healthy and strong for the brain is an unknown and potentially dangerous territory. And if the task of our brain as long as possible to save our lives, then everything new is assigned the maximum level of danger.
Making the decision to start a new life It is important to set an ambitious or even daring goal, but its individual components, steps towards this goal should be as simple as possible to bypass the brain's security system.
For example, you decided to start running in the morning, but for the brain it is a disaster. Well this is now a lifetime to get up in the morning and run, and suddenly rain, snow, hurricane, pit, stone, and if some day does not work, then all the efforts on the smarka and a couple of tens of thousands of thoughts. But instead, you just say to yourself: "I just get dressed, go outside, and then we'll see. If I walk a few meters on the street. And I’ll go over to that tree." The smaller your steps and actions will be at the beginning of the path, the more chances you have to reach the cherished goal - to start a new life.
New life with SMART or Error №2
Very often, when we are going to start a new life, it seems to us that the decision itself is sufficient, and then everything will somehow work out for itself. Yes, making a decision is a very important step, but the result you get will depend on how you approach the implementation of your decision. It is not enough to say that tomorrow I will start a new life. It is also necessary to specifically formulate what your new life will be like.
A common mistake made by the majority on the path of conscious changes in their lives is the lack of a clear goal set for themselves and their future. For example, the decision to start earning more. It seems to you that everything in this decision is logical, understandable and concrete. But if we approach this task from the point of view of the coaching approach, then how do we know that our goal has been achieved? And here a wonderful SMART technique comes to our aid.
| Abbreviation | What question should I ask myself | An example of a possible answer. |
| S - specific | How much specifically we want to earn | $ 1,000 or $ 10,000 |
| M - measurable | What period? | Month, week, day |
| A - reachable | Can I start making $ 10,000 a day right now | If not, at this stage reduce the number |
| R - relevant | How does my goal fit in with my other desires? | I want to be famous, popular and at the same time live in solitude Spend more time on spiritual development vs earn more |
| T - time limited | When do I want to earn the desired amount? | In a week, in a month, in a year or 10 years |
The smaller in our decision specifics, the more difficult it is for our brain to understand it and to give options for sequential actions that will lead to the desired result. The next time when you make the next decision to start a new life, run it through the SMART technique and this time everything will be different.
Environment or Error number 3
Our environment can become both the biggest driving force and lead us to failure, especially in such a large-scale business as the beginning of a new life.
And here, too, was not without our main computer - the brain. Only now the brain of another person works against us. Imagine that you made a bold decision to eat healthy and wholesome food, whereas recently you and your friends did cash at McDonalds. Our decision about wholesome food suddenly confronts them with a choice - just give up junk food or continue to cheat on your body. And when we report our new decision to our old environment, which does not share our new views, their brain perceives the news as a potential danger. The consequence of which is a heightened caution to abandon us to a new venture, assumptions that nothing will come of it, and so on. After all, it is easier to convince us to surrender than to start changing.
That is why it is even more difficult to resist a group of people (parents, friends, colleagues) alone. In fact, it is practically unrealistic, because it will require so much spiritual strength, to have iron motivation and willpower ...
It is much easier to think in advance and join the appropriate community, create a support group of like-minded people who will console you when friends offer the next burger.
Why would you not want to start a new life, a professional life coach can be a powerful support for you. With it, you just will not stop.
Motivation or Error №4
Frequent rake, which are attacked by many. It’s not enough to decide once and understand why you need your new life. What will she give you and what will you do with her later?
When a person urgently needs to leave for permanent residence in another country, money and time and the ability to learn a foreign language are found, when a substantial increase in income depends on good physical training, that’s yes, it motivates. But even in the case of a strong motivation, it must be maintained in itself every day with additional nishtyachkami, gifts, treats, pleasant services. Try to make amenities equalize, and better outweigh the discomfort from the first difficult changes.
For example, if I run every day for 30 minutes, for 7 days, then at the end of the week I will allow myself to watch a series of my favorite series or go to the movies. If I hold on for a month - I'll go for a massage.
№5 Loudly announce your decision!
Usually, when we are going to start a new life, we are scared, suddenly it will not work out or it will turn out differently from what we expect. Therefore, many people are afraid to declare their daring decision to the World, friends or relatives, so that later they do not have to blush for the unfulfilled promise. And, as confirmation of your most terrible fears, we are unable to carry out our plans. We exhale with ease: "Well, at least no one knew that I was going to do it!"
But this is precisely the mistake! You should definitely declare your intentions loudly and confidently. So we inform not only the world, but also to ourselves about the seriousness of our intentions, we undertake obligations. We give our solution additional energy and gain additional strength to achieve success. The discomfort that we will experience before those who know about our decision will outweigh the discomfort from the first difficult steps in a new life.
Conclusion
If you really decided to start a new life, then you can not do without a solid preparation.
- Clearly state what you really want.
- Do not seek to accomplish the feat, make a simple first step towards the desired result.
- Secure yourself support, even if there is at least one person who will believe in you and support you in difficult moments.
- Create motivation for yourself for different periods (per day, week, month)
- Announce your decision to start a new life.
Be brash and courageous!
