What to do if the wife admitted that she changes?

Wife changes ... What if this is so? Divorce or forgive and live on?

How to survive this blow to feelings and vanity?

Calm down, let the first emotions settle down, analyze the situation.

Signs of treason

How does the behavior of his wife?

It would seem that everything in the family is good, life is adjusted, children have grown up, troubles happen, but no more than at all. but Wife's behavior is alarming.

Of course, you can talk about treason with 100% certainty when you find your wife red-handed or she herself confessed.

But there are some indirect signs that may prompt the husband that the second half is wrong. Pay attention to them:

Your wife, for no apparent reason, changed her appearance for the better. Has grown thin, has changed a hairdress, began to be brighter painted, puts on more sexual things.
You have noticed that the better half suddenly restricted access to their social networks and gadgets.
If you used to quietly use her computer and telephone as needed, and now there are passwords everywhere, this can be a disturbing bell.
Spouse often began to leave home under externally plausible excuses (meeting with a girlfriend, unscheduled work on weekends, shopping). And she tries to do without you, go out herself.
Cooling in intimate life. Sex has become rare, fast and obviously a burden for a woman, she refuses sex for contrived reasons.
There was indifference to you. The wife does not swear because of computer games, late arrivals from work, necessary absences on business. She obviously doesn't care.
Spouse tries contact you less and hides his eyes, avoids direct views.

If you notice all these signs for your wife, most likely it changes you. It's time to call your spouse for a conversation and demand an explanation.

Do you think she has anyone? How does a wife behave after treason? How to know for sure:

She has 5 reasons for this.

When it turned out that cheating - an accomplished fact, any man wants to know the reasons.

It should be understood here that if men do everything mostly at the physiological level, then women have the root of adultery to be found in the head, among moral and psychological attitudes.

However sarcastic it may sound, but most often cause of female treason - this is her husband in person.

The family boat ... no, it did not break about life, but it was thoroughly stuck in a household swamp. Monotonous homework, tired husband, who comes from work and lies on the sofa, the couple separately dine and dine, watch different films, are interested in different things. The husband does not pay attention to his wife, is not interested in how her days are going, what she is interested in, what problems she has at work and not only.
Wife feels his indifference. And when the one to whom she is interested is, the outcome is expected - she cheats on her husband.
Family problems. This may be lack of money, a crisis in relationships, illness of parents and so on. Waiting for support from her husband's wife despaired, he is always busy, or tired, confused by the same problems. Someone in such a situation is distracted by films and books, someone goes head to head into work, and someone, suddenly feeling like an attractive woman again, changes.
Jealousy. If the husband works in the women's team, or often communicates with attractive persons of the opposite sex, or gave another reason to doubt his loyalty, then ... My wife can build a picture where she will be deceived and offended.
Female betrayal of revenge - a fairly common case. A wife thus kills two birds with one stone: she answers her husband with a coin and raises her self-esteem. There is another side to the coin: it happens that a husband literally harasses his wife with unfounded jealousy. And she starts to change in reality.
Dissatisfaction with sexual relationships can also lead to treason. This happens when the spouses have different temperaments (more active wife and less active husband). Perhaps this is just a difficult stage in life that needs to be experienced. Or the husband, for example, often requires oral sex, and his wife is more interested in traditional, or vice versa. And a woman may well find satisfaction of her needs on the side.
Monotony and boredom. We will not take into account the candy-bouquet period at the dawn of a relationship. Remember at least the first months or even a year of living together. How you spent your time, how you sought to surprise and rejoice the second half. Over time, everything slips to the attendant signs of attention. March 8, the birthday of the New Year, at best, flowers and a certificate, at worst, "well, buy it yourself, what you need."
And if an attentive gentleman appears in a woman’s life, she is more likely to change her husband in search of new emotions.

What does a woman feel after adultery? Here are possible options: it may be a sense of guilt and remorse, an awareness of a mistake, a desire to change life.

About the causes of female adultery in this video:

Divorce and maiden name or "understand and forgive"?

News of partner cheating - this is a blow.

How to behave correctly?

The first thing to do is find out the reason female treason. And to answer in cold blood not to his wife, but to himself, whether this reason is really a problem.

For example, do you acknowledge that you were indifferent to your wife, that you began to perceive her as a thing. And is it really possible to fix the problem?

The second is understand what wife feels. Does she consider betrayal a mistake, a one-time action, whether she wants to save the family.

Now you are the injured party and have the right to make decisions about their future life together.

In addition to the emotional resentment, there are other factors. And it depends on them Does it make sense to live together further:

your age and your wives. The younger you are, the easier it will be to create new relationships;
how the husband behaved in the family, how the wife behaved. In other words, were there any betrayals before, was any of the spouses rude, did they show violence, did they have problems with drugs, alcohol, gambling addiction, etc .;
are there any children;
whether your spouse is a good mother;
was she a good wife (economic qualities, appearance, community of interests, mutual support, sexual compatibility);
exactly how the betrayal occurred, spontaneously or deliberately;
as you learned about treason (the wife herself admitted right away, the mutual friends reported, you learned by chance).

Treason may be different.

In one case, this is a random link. under the influence of alcohol a woman who had always been a great loving wife before.

In another, betrayal is done simply out of boredom.

In the third in the family, there were long ago disagreements, for example, quarrels over the fact that one partner wants a child, and the second does not.

In the first case, most men will forgive their wife and try to forget this experience. In the last discovered fact of betrayal is likely will push for divorce. In the second case described, the scales are staggering.

Is there life after betrayal?

Suppose you forgave the wrong half, decided to forget everything and live on. Experienced psychologists have identified several common problems faced by such families:

In the depths of the soul resentment will grow. Having forgiven in words, the husband may not cope with the situation, and will constantly reproach his wife, think of treason, harass either her or himself.
Sometimes it happens that a wife loses respect for her husband who has forgiven her, begins to consider him weak and spineless.
Confidence in his wife decreasesspouses move away from each other, creating only the appearance of family life. Mostly live together for the children. In the end, the husband will change himself.

How to learn to trust my wife after treason and live on?

When deciding to forgive adultery, you must clearly understand whether you can live as before, whether you can truly let go of the situation.

Are you sure of your spouse and her further loyalty, are you sure that the betrayal was accidental and the wife sincerely repent.

Trust and a happy family life are possible only when you know the causes and circumstances of infidelity and find them sufficient for forgiveness.

For example, the boss forced his subordinate to intimacy, something was mixed into alcohol at a meeting of classmates and similar cases. Or when you yourself are really guilty of inattention and coldness towards your wife.

Women's treason: Do you need to save the family? Find out from this video:

When to execute, it is impossible to pardon?

There are situations when a divorce will be the only correct way out, because to continue the relationship does not make sense, it is not your woman, and you are not her man.

When treason was planned and deliberate. The woman purposefully sought a lover, tuned in an intimate relationship with another man.
When a woman changes for a long time with one man or several times with different. And in fact, and in another case, your family is long gone. Perhaps the wife still lives with you for mercenary reasons.
When the wife does not consider betrayal a mistake or an accident. As an option, she fell in love with another man.

In all these cases, you should not forgive the betrayal of his wife. The sooner you cut the ropes, the better for both of you.

"Come back, I will forgive everything" and "Three hundred years ago"

In addition to treason, which happened quite recently, there may be more unusual cases. Psychologists suggest how to behave. Indeed, in such situations, men are lost much more, the effect of surprise works.

Ex-wife wants to come back

You divorced because of her adultery, began a separate life, and suddenly The former half are stunned by the desire to return everything.

First of all, tell me what you need to think, buy time. And during this time, prioritize and designate the pros and cons.

If you already have a new serious relationship in which everything suits, You should not stir up the past. If the new love is not yet, be pragmatic. It may be worth returning the family if you feel more comfortable.

Remember how you got divorced. Have you chopped off your shoulder?

If the ex-wife was a good housewife, an excellent mother, why not try to start over? Especially if you love a child / children and suffer from a lack of communication with the child.

Spouse admitted that she changed 10 years ago

It is unpleasant to feel deceived for such a long time, to realize that all these years he lived in the wrong woman. But look on the other hand: most likely it is a question of spontaneous treason, perhaps even against the will of a woman.

After all, otherwise she could not hide it for so many years. Here the most correct decision will be to forgive, provided that over the years gave no reason to doubt loyalty, has shown herself as a good and loving spouse.