Many girls believe that the initiative in a love relationship should come from a guy, and does not show their sympathy. Adhering to such a position, you can either remain alone, or you can connect your fate not with the one who causes you romantic feelings. Obsession and straightforwardness in showing sympathy is also a bad helper. How to behave? How to flirt with a guy?
Art of seduction
In fact, easy flirting does not commit you or a boyfriend to anything. This is just a play of words and gestures that can cause interest and mutual sympathy. By adhering to the following tips, you will gradually learn the art of flirting:
- Feel confident and at ease.
Shyness and modesty in the 21st century are no longer among the merits. On the contrary, excessive constraint will alienate the guy from you. So get rid of the complexes and do not be afraid to get into an awkward position. Keep yourself relaxed. If a guy feels your inner grip, he will be uncomfortable with you, and the attempt to arouse sympathy will end in failure.
Some girls behave too relaxed. Feel the middle ground between confident and challenging behavior. Do not be too frank to declare your sympathy. Remember that intrusive flirting will either alienate the guy from you, or create the reputation of a girl of easy virtue.
- Feel free to show interest and be the first to start a conversation.
Guys don't have extrasensory abilities. No guy will guess your sympathy for him if you don't hint to him about it. Show interest to him, start a conversation first, smile. Show him that you distinguish him from other young people.
If you like a fellow student or colleague, please contact him with various minor requests related to your overall activity. Offer to work together on a project, or to explain an incomprehensible topic, to buy something from office supplies, to bring it to the office / university. There are many ways to take initiative and draw attention to yourself.
- Play with words.
In order to interest the guy, you should not talk with him about the meaning of life, high matters or the political situation in the world. Talk about sports, fashion, new movies. But it does not need to be a walking encyclopedia. The conversation should be easy, relaxed. Joke, hint, play with words. Well, if sometimes in your phrases will be viewed sexual overtones.
Do not overdo it! Remember that too outspoken jokes are unacceptable. But barely noticeable hints, ambiguous phrases and other female "things" - are welcome!
- Use body language.
The art of flirting is the ability, not to mention it bluntly, to tell about your sympathy and evoke response feelings. Learn to speak your body language. Watch your posture, movements should be smooth. Speak softly, look straight into the eyes, a mysterious, alluring half-smile should play on your face (think of the famous painting by Leonardo da Vinci "Mona Lisa").
During a conversation, it is as if you accidentally touch the hand or shoulder of the other person. Use sign language, straighten clothes in places you want to draw attention to. For example, correct the button on the shirt in the neck or skirt on the hips, touch the hair.
At the same time avoid sudden movements. Your behavior should be calm and natural. Watch the cats move gracefully. Learn from them!
- Let him feel his advantage.
Men, by nature, always tend to dominate. Let the guy feel his superiority, and you will win his sympathy. Let him feel that he is smarter or stronger.
Be defenseless. The strength of a woman is in her weakness, remember this. Feel free to ask for advice or help from a guy, for him this will be the best compliment.
- Be feminine.
Do you think men like when untidy, unsympathetic girls show sympathy for them? The answer is obvious - of course not! You need to look good always. Comfortable jeans and sweatshirts leave for home get-togethers with friends. Choose clothes that emphasize the dignity of your figure - waist, hips, chest. At the same time, avoid mini-skirts and blouses with an open neckline. Leave the opportunity to a man to show imagination!
Train yourself every day to look as if you are going on a date. Visit the beautician, hairdresser and manicurist in time. Do not be lazy to apply makeup in the morning and make styling.
What to avoid while flirting?
The following mistakes can spoil the impression of you and reduce all your efforts to "no":
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talk about personal life, failed relationships; - challenging behavior with overt sexual overtones;
- the desire to please the guy at any cost, obsession;
- stiffness, compulsion;
- displeased gloomy expression;
- complaints about life;
- unattractive appearance.
talk about personal life, failed relationships;Guys love fun, cheerful girls. Do not talk about serious things, touch on personal topics. Flirt should be easy and relaxed.
After the conversation between you should remain a sense of understatement, incomplete action. It is this feeling that is of interest to the opposite sex and the desire to meet again. Your task is to leave the impression of a riddle that you want to solve.
Flirt in social networks
Modern girls are easier to show their interest in the opposite sex, thanks to new technologies. It is easier to overcome shyness when a nice guy is on the other side of the monitor. Social networks are the perfect place to flirt. But here there are some rules:
- in correspondence with the guy avoid abbreviations and slang: "lol", "ATP", etc .;
- do not use obscene language;
- do not communicate on intimate topics;
- do not speak openly about your sympathy;
- Do not send in your personal photos or videos of an intimate nature. First, you leave the impression of a girl of easy virtue, even if the guy asked about it himself. And, secondly, you do not know for what purposes he can use these photos. Cases of hacking pages on social networks - a frequent phenomenon. You do not want the photos in which you are naked, appeared over time on some dubious site?
If you do not know how to start a conversation, send a link to an interesting article, picture or audio recording. Studying the page of the guy in the social network, you can gather for yourself valuable information. For example, to find out with whom he communicates, what music he is listening to, what is interested in. This will help you find a suitable topic for conversation.
Cold hot
Men - hunters, conquerors. There is no interest in mining, if it itself "goes into the hands." You can tease a guy. For example, a week you smile at him, flirt, and then - indifferently communicate, as well as with others. Or you correspond with him in social networks, actively communicate, show sympathy, and in person meet you as if nothing is happening between you.
Become the coveted trophy for the guy he wants to win. Use tactics of behavior in which you show sympathy, but at the same time keep it at a distance. Such tactics are of interest, the instinct of the conqueror awakens. Isn't that what you expect from flirting?
