Most girls dream of a reliable person nearby. Many are willing to make considerable sacrifices and difficult tricks to achieve this goal. And so it is a shame when young people, and, perhaps, the same dream guy, ignore. And every thought takes one question - why I don’t have a boyfriend and what can I do?
Look into yourself
To attract to yourself what you need, you must first understand what you want. So it means to slightly change the direction of thoughts: not why I do not have a boyfriend, but why I need him. Each ideal is different. It should be understood that there are mutually exclusive things, for example: "I want him to earn a lot and always be ready to spend time with me." If a person works hard, his half will have to come to terms with his employment. Of course, there are exceptions, but there are very few wealthy heirs, and they also have shortcomings.
It is necessary to determine for myself what I can accept and for what.
It is not enough to understand what you want, you also need to comply. And, therefore, to work on your qualities, to notice the moments when you do what you regret later. Loyalty, kindness and sincerity do not appear by themselves.
There is a saying - a good friend goes to someone who knows how to be a good friend. Similarly in a relationship.
Where to begin? It is worth analyzing your relationship with your relatives, for example, with your parents. The ability to resolve conflicts, to avoid sharp corners, when necessary - to defend the opinion without disputes, is useful everywhere, including in relationships. And to learn this better among loved ones.
Of course, the thought may come: “My boyfriend will not be like this, we will never quarrel, and everything will be perfect!” With this mindset, it’s better not to rush to build relationships in general - there are some disappointments ahead.
The right attitude
Recently, there was a wrong opinion about the relationship. It is believed that a guy is like an accessory: no matter if you are ready for a relationship, if there is a suitable candidate, if you don’t have a young man, you are a failure. But for relationships to bring joy to both, you need to avoid this attitude.
Some girls, disappointed, come to a simple conclusion: "I do not have a boyfriend, because they all ..." And there may be many options. Such thinking hurts the girl herself. First, she ascribes to herself the status of a victim, therefore, she does not intend to work on herself. Secondly, with such an attitude to the opposite sex to attract someone is impossible.
Another extremity should be avoided: some devote their whole lives to drawing attention. They are ready to jump from the bungee, rooting for the football team, digging into the engines, not because they are really interested, but to attract some young man. Such "demonstration performances" will not lead to long-term relationships - it will not take long to pretend.
What do men want
It is not uncommon for a girl to consider herself ideal, but to be lonely. Instead of thinking: “I’m good, I’m beautiful, but the guy isn’t, because they’re all…”, it’s worth understanding what they want to see in their chosen one. Of course, different men have different requirements and expectations, but there are two immutable concepts that unite them all.
The first is respect. Interestingly, more than 60% of young people, and more than 70% of adult men recognize that respect for them is even more important than love. It is difficult for women to understand this completely, so it’s better to just take a fact into account.
Respect does not mean to fall down and not have an opinion. It means not to criticize when something goes wrong. To respect means not to gossip about him with girlfriends and not to talk about his faults with others.
The second is the awareness of the need for their contribution to the relationship. The opinion that a man should bear everything on his shoulders is not quite right. Yes, they are willing to do a lot, but relationships are built through the efforts of two. This does not mean that a guy needs to call in and give flowers. This is the readiness to remain silent in the conflict, to abandon some kind of whim, to support in a difficult moment and also to show your love.
But one should not forget about the sense of humor, because the ability to easily treat problems and find positive in any difficult situation is the strength of the personality.
Thinking about why I don't have a boyfriend who would love me, I should ask myself: “What am I ready to invest in this relationship?”
Common mistakes
The easiest way to attract attention - combat makeup and defiant clothing. This opinion is imposed by shopkeepers, advertising, and some women. Of course, such a girl will definitely be noticed. But to see and want to build relationships are two different things. In this way, you can find a sexual partner, but not a loving man.
This does not mean that you do not need to look after yourself. Clean and well-groomed hair, neat makeup, beautiful clothes - all this shows that the girl respects herself. It attracts.
Another repulsive manner is constant control. Sometimes it happens that as soon as a guy shows interest to a girl, she starts to call and check all the time where he, with whom, the names of the girls present and his attitude towards them. It is clear that this is dictated by the fear of losing it, but this is the first step to parting. After all, it shows that she is not ready to trust him, and this is certainly not a show of respect.
So what if you don't have a boyfriend? Develop as a person. Avoid obsession, excessive inaccessibility and falsehood. If a girl has excellent qualities and her own interests, she can remain herself - this attracts.
