How to manipulate a man: important tips

Men and women are very different from each other, not only in physical indicators, but also in their emotional perception of the world. Because of this, a situation often arises when it seems to a woman that a man does not understand very direct hints, but it seems to him that she complicates everything and does not know what she wants. In order to have fewer such stories, a woman needs to know how to manipulate a man correctly in order to achieve her own way, without going into long explanations, and at the same time maintain a healthy atmosphere in a relationship.

There is no universal way, the approach to each representative of the stronger sex in a particular situation is different. But the principle remains the same: to know what is important for a man physically and emotionally. The more you know about his needs, the lower the chance of a mistake.

Common methods of exposure

The most popular method is to cry. The idea that men do not endure female tears is as old as the world, and at times it really works. At the same time, it is important to clearly define the emotion: the man should have a desire to console. It is to console, not calm the raging hysterical. And it is better to use it not for mercantile purposes, but when you want attention. This will allow him to feel truly loved.

When it comes to some kind of purchase is better to look for a common denominator. The basis of the idea is “you also need this”. For example: the boots get wet, so as not to have to spend money on my treatment, new ones are required. Such care about the family budget can not leave indifferent. In this case, everything is logical and simple, there is nothing to complain about.

Another no less popular way is exchange. In everyday life this can happen almost daily: “I cook dinner, and you wash the dishes”, “we will buy me a ring, and you - a watch”. This method works through the beloved justice of all. Mutually beneficial way out encourages to quickly agree to the proposed conditions. But this technique is best avoided when someone from the pair wants attention. The realization that emotional needs will only be taken care of when a condition is met is repulsive.

We must not allow such a relationship to escalate into blackmail. When a speech revolution begins with the phrase: “until you do it the way I want ...”, the situation becomes critical. If it did happen, it would be wise to give in until the relationship reached a dead end. Whatever the matter, the peace in the family is more important. A wise husband will appreciate this flexibility.

The myth that the strong sex does not want tenderness was thought up by those who do not know it well. Many of them since childhood have been deprived of this important manifestation of love. Therefore, affection is not just an opportunity to show tender feelings, but also a means to induce a loved one to please in return.

If you know that a person has low self-esteem, you can try to influence him with the help of elevating words. For this, it is enough to tell a person how amazing, delightful, just incredible he is, and for him, of course, such trifle is worthless. The main thing - to refrain from irony. Such a kick of pride will be remembered for a long time.

Common mistakes

The female half of humanity is endowed with the ability to feel the mood. Often a girlfriend, after the first word or look, intuitively understands what happened. For girls, this is natural - for them the mood just hovers in the air, thanks to this, many mothers quickly understand why a baby is crying.

Whatever seems incredible, it is important to understand that the guys are deprived of this ability almost completely. Therefore, before you achieve the desired, you need to make sure that he is aware of what we are talking about. For him, the torture to see that a girlfriend climbs out of her skin, wants something, and at the same time does not know exactly what. And on a timid question to hear the charge of misunderstanding. So you can get a coffee maker as a gift instead of the desired trip to the restaurant. He does not scoff, he simply may not really understand the connection between his dreams of delicious coffee expressed aloud and going for this coffee to a restaurant. A similar chain between what the girl said and what she had in mind can be very long.

The best way to hint to a young man about the subject of desire is to say it directly.

Another common misconception - everyone wants only one thing. In fact, in order to induce someone to act, you need to know well what interests the person. Otherwise there is a risk of getting into a very awkward situation.

You should not use the same method, even if it is very effective. For example, if you offer an exchange each time, it will become a habit and the relationship will cease to be disinterested. In another situation, constantly applying affection to get what you want, you can come to the conclusion that the manifestation of tenderness will always be perceived as an attempt to manipulate, even if it was a manifestation of love. This is very disappointing. Therefore, it is necessary to better know the interests of the partner, and to introduce diversity into the methods of manipulation.

Selfishness is another trap. It is almost impossible to hide it, but you don’t want to do something for someone who only thinks about himself at all. We need to genuinely care about the interests of the partner. This is not a psychological device, but a state of mind. It happens that you need to train yourself to think about someone, but it's worth it.

One of the manifestations of selfishness concluded in the opinion that a man must fulfill desires. As long as a woman is sure that she is obliged to indulge, she will be unhappy.

Influence without side effects

In order that the process of manipulation does not lead to trouble, it is worth remembering a few simple thoughts:

We must clearly understand what you really want, and what the consequences may be. If the girl herself does not know what she needs, or if she has not thought about how this may end, she will receive either what she does not need or problems that she has not expected.
Thanks. Requests should not be a bottomless barrel, in which you only need to invest. Otherwise, the interest will quickly disappear. A barrel is boring.
Flexibility. A woman is easier to calculate when a man begins to manipulate. If the question is not a matter of principle - it is worth giving in, he will be pleased.