One way or another, death is the logical ending of our life. Have you thought about what you will feel when your time comes? Perhaps you will regret things that you did not have time to do?
Some people probably have questions on this topic? I am going to clarify this situation, and I want to share with you suggestions that will help you not to feel regret for the life you have lived. Because we cannot change the past, but we can try to change our future. Start changing it right now and see how beautiful it can be.
1. I would like to have the courage to live the life that I like and not take into account the opinions of others
Do you live the life you have always dreamed of? or do you just live as others expect of you?
Unfortunately, in our time, many people live as expected of them. Many of my friends make decisions based on the desires of their parents. But is it good? Personally, I definitely think not! Making the decision independently, we learn to be responsible for own life.
All my childhood passed in a repressive manner. I trusted my parents 100%, really believed that they only wished me well (and this was true.) But I constantly felt depressed, because I tried to live in such a way as to meet their expectations.
Everything changed when I was twenty. I started making decisions on my own and it really made me happy, I felt it was time to do what I love. So at first it was not easy, because I had to strike out a few people from my life. I started my own business with complete determination (which is functioning successfully today.) Indeed, it was a turning point in my life and I am happy that it took place.
Believe in your own beliefs. Listen to the opinions of other people, but do not make decisions based on them. Trust your intuition, follow it and live on your own.
2. I regret working so hard.
People work 10-12 hours every day. Parents do not devote enough time to their children, young people build a career, and there is no time for personal relationships and for themselves. Do we really need the money, and is it really worth sacrificing all this for them?
Forget the expression "I don’t have enough time." There is always time, and it all depends on the ability to successfully prioritize your business. If you do not have enough time for your own relationship, this means that they are not a priority for you. We all spend the same amount of time every day and it all depends on the ability to effectively dispose of them. Make an informed choice, and waste time on what you truly love.
3. I would like to have the courage to express my own feelings.
Is there a person in your life that you like? Maybe you are afraid to open your heart to him? Have you ever had moments when you closed it through fear of the unknown?
You are not alone. I have a few friends who are not alone because of their own inferiority (in fact, they are very successful, and also quite attractive,) but they are closed to love. They do not want to meet new people and expand their social circles. When a person appears in front of them who attracts them, they do not get to know him better, but simply find a million excuses, and say that this is not the person they were looking for.
Better to do and regret than not to do at all. If you are really afraid to show your feelings, then ask yourself, "What am I to lose?" You should be honest with yourself, and trust your own heart. In the worst case, a person may reject your offer, but it does not matter, because then you realize that your feelings were wrong.
And, is this really the worst scenario development? In this case, you will know the truth and you can move on. But think for a moment about the fact that your sympathy can be mutual and then you will thank yourself for having the courage at the moment when you were unsure.
4.I wish I was not in contact with my friends
Sometimes friendship fades into the background, because you prefer: career, romantic relationships and financial goals. Why? Perhaps this is so because we are accustomed to believe that friendship will remain afloat even when we do not pay attention to it. Think how important friendship is for you?
Do not wait until your friends call and offer to meet, do it yourself. Be the initiator, take everything into your own hands. Friendship does not tolerate carelessness. It is like a flower, if you do not feed it from time to time, it will wither.
5.Why I didn’t allow myself to be happier
Are you really unhappy? Maybe you constantly complain about things that go wrong, how would you like it? Do you remember lost opportunities instead of appreciating what you already have?
Many unhappy people do not understand what it takes to be really happy. I have to agree with the words of John Galbraith "Despite the growth of the welfare of society, people are no longer happier, but on the contrary - unhappy." Why? Their discontent is NOT caused by the lack of material goods! They just can not understand what you need in order to feel happy. In pursuit of wealth, we lose the true essence of happiness.
Understand, happiness is a choice. Many people mistakenly believe that it depends on external factors. You can be happy now if you really want it.
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