Tips for women: how to understand that you like a married man?

Being in love is not a rational feeling, so it may well arise in relation to absolutely any person, for example, the one with have a regular partner.

If a woman likes a married man, it is important for her to weigh the pros and cons and don't allow yourself to go light on the feelings.

Causes of female sympathy

Why do you like a married man? A married man is able to please a woman for exactly the same reasons that might appeal to a single man.

People cannot radically influence their feelings and preferences and can only determine your further actions: whether they go on about their desires (often short-term) or not.

Therefore, any woman can one day fall in love with a man who has a permanent partner and is unlikely to decide to part with him.

Most women, faced with a similar feeling, feel shame, confusion, do not understand what to do next.

Some may try to become the mistress of a married man in the hope that one day he part with his wife. Others will wait patiently for the feeling to end.

The main reasons for falling in love with a married man:

Attractive character. Every girl has her own ideas about an attractive male character. Some people like soft, benevolent, sensitive men, someone like decisive, tough, low-emotional. The more appropriate the character of the guy, the higher the chances that the girl will feel interest in him and fall in love.

Mind. If there is something to talk about with a man, he is fully developed and knows how to express himself interestingly, is able to use intelligence to achieve goals, he will always attract attention, especially if the girl herself is not stupid.
Helpfulness. If a man is kind and open, has a lot of useful skills and is ready to help people in need of help, many women will find it attractive. In addition, such men often seek to care for the people around them: they give up their place in transport, help to put on a coat, stretch their arms so that it is more convenient for a woman or a poorly walking man to come down, open the door for a person who carries heavy things.
Some women who have noticed the desire of such a man to help them may mistakenly assume that this is a kind of romantic courtship.
Developed empathy, the ability to put yourself in the place of someone. Empathy is rarely peculiar to men, and some of them truly reveal this ability when they begin to actively communicate with women and get married. If a guy is able to put himself in the shoes of others and understand their difficulties, is able and willing to support, shows a willingness to listen, for women it will be attractive.
Appearance. The idea that attractiveness is not the most important thing in a man is widespread in society. However, a handsome guy who is able to take care of himself and watch over hygiene will always be attractive to the opposite sex: women know how to appreciate beauty.
No one will like to meet with an untidy, infrequently occurring in the bathroom and an ugly man who begins to broadcast any claim about appearance that the real man does not need beauty. And married men often look tidy and dress well.
Beautiful courtship, the presence of primary love. Some married men can either purposefully seek out a mistress or fall in love spontaneously with an interesting and attractive woman and want to have a relationship with her. If a young and inexperienced girl begins to be looked after by a handsome and worthy gentleman who knows well how to please her, she can eventually realize that she is in love with him.
Some of these men take off the rings to create the impression that they have no wife.
The unpleasant truth is revealed later, when little can be changed. In addition, many women, deeply in love, are willing to believe any nonsense that the beloved is breathing, and not everyone will have the strength to end the relationship.

Each woman in the process of life is formed (partly in the mind, partly in the subconscious) conditional image of an ideal partner.

This is influenced by a lot of conditions: relationships with father and other close men from birth, characters from books, films, TV shows, games, even genetics.

Therefore, in speaking of love, it is important to remember that this feeling deeply illogicaland the person to whom she has appeared may not shine with the positive qualities listed above, just a part of his features coincided with the inner image of that very ideal partner.

For this reason, we often fall in love with people who have similar personal characteristics.

Signs of his love

How to find out if you like a married man? The way a married man will behave with a girl he likes, depends on many conditions: his character, aspirations, lack of or the presence of conditions that allow to change imperceptibly.

Some men try by all means to avoid contact with an attractive woman, while others, on the contrary, can begin to gently care for her (while trying to conceal that they are married).

If a girl observes his behavior, she can recognize signs of falling in love, even if a man tries to hide them.

The main signs that a woman likes a married man:

He becomes more tense when the girl is nearby. He becomes more difficult to calmly talk, tell interesting stories, joke. This is most noticeable in those moments when the woman entered the room where he is located. Not all men can properly hide their emotions, and if a man is young and inexperienced, changes in his behavior when a girl appears can be seen quite easily.
His body language speaks of the presence of feelings. He ruffles, sorts out something in his hands during a conversation: ruffles hair, twists a button or cuff link, straightens his tie, and generally looks restless (however, this behavior can be characteristic and just an anxious man with some mental disorders).
If he does not try to hide his feelings, then when a woman appears, he will sit down, shake off his clothes, raise his head. If he tries to hide, he may, on the contrary, start looking in the opposite direction, be slightly hunched over.
Also, a man in love will either avoid looking into the eyes of a woman or look intently.
If he tries to hide his love, he will look unnecessarily restrained, purposefully avoid communication, look the other way. A man will diligently pretend that you do not exist, and here everything depends on your attentiveness and on his acting talent.
If attempts to avoid conversation, contact by looks are clumsy enough, then it will be possible to notice. But some girls may consider such behavior a sign that they evoke negative emotions (and this assumption is justified).
If he is interested in a relationship, he can start caring (or at least he will understand that he likes you). He will also begin to take better care of himself, to put on better clothes, to preen. The specifics of his behavior depend on how much he is afraid of exposing and whether he has the ability to successfully hide treason. If he knows that his courtship can be seen as friends with his wife, he will try to do everything carefully, using hints. If he wants to invite you on a date, he will try to find a place where it will be difficult to meet acquaintances.

It is important to try not to be mistaken when interpreting the behavior and gestures of a man, since they do not always indicate that he is in love.

How does he like it?

Key recommendations:

Before trying to make him fall in love with you, think about whether you really need it. If a man really loves his wife, then at best you will get the role of a mistress who will never be replaced by a spouse, and at worst he will simply ignore you or make it very clear that nothing shines for you. You can also run into Lovelace, who already has a pair of mistresses without you. If a man is not a womanizer, then you will have a weighty chance only if he and his wife are not very smooth.
Carefully find out what kind of relationship he has with his wife, how strong is their relationship. This information is not always possible to find, but if everything in that family is bad, a man may also complain about problems in a dialogue with a colleague.
If you learn additional details (for example, she doesn’t cook well and stopped using cosmetics), remember them.
Take care of your appearance. Do sports, look to the stylist, regularly apply makeup, pick new attractive outfits. A beautiful woman is more likely to attract the attention of men, including the attention of the one that is needed.
Let him understand that he attracts you. Talk with him more often, become a confidential person for him, from time to time give him neat compliments, praise. In parallel, try to give him what he does not receive from his wife. For example, if they are scandalous, you, on the contrary, need to behave as politely and adequately as possible.

Be patient. Build a romantic relationship with a married man is not easy, especially if he is not in the mood for treason. There is also the possibility that a few months of effort may not be enough. In this case, the best option would be to abandon the idea of falling in love with him.

Tips for psychologists

What if you like a married man? The main recommendations of psychologists:

To begin with, determine what you will do with the feeling that has appeared. If you feel fear and confusion, try to calm down, relax, perform rituals that always gave you peace of mind (take a bath, drink a sedative, take a walk, massage yourself, sleep well). Remember that only you decide what will happen to your life. Do you want to get his attention? Are you ready for the consequences of any decisions? Will you go on about feelings or hold back? Will you be happy if you become his mistress, not your wife?
It depends on the answers what exactly you should do after realizing that you are in love with a married man.
If you do not want a romantic relationship with him and are ready to hold back, try to be patient: in order for love to go out, you need at least several months. Avoid communicating with him often, concentrate on your favorite things and work, often do what brings you joy, communicate with friends (a frank conversation with a close friend can help you feel better).

If you understand that you will do everything possible to fall in love with him, try to do it. Your life is yours. Recommendations that will help win the heart of a married man are given in the section above. But remember that you will have to take responsibility for your decisions. Do not allow yourself to be too frivolous.