Often men who do not have particularly attractive appearance or material wealth, enjoyed incredible success with women.
Popularity with the weaker sex depends more on understanding women's psychology and the ability to apply their knowledge in practice.
Mastering the simple rules of a pickup will help you gain self-confidence and learn how to deal with women.
What is pickup for?
The concept of "pickup" means familiarity activity with the opposite sex for the purpose of seduction and to obtain the necessary for this knowledge and practical skills.
Currently, there are a lot of training, the purpose of which is to train customers in the basic methods and techniques of a pickup truck.
Such training includes not only the theoretical part, but also workshops.
Learning pickup techniques allows men to solve the following problems:
- become self-confident;
- learn to meet women;
- develop effective communication skills;
- understand female psychology;
- learn to seduce quickly the object you like.
In practice, the main goal is to acquire the skills of quickly seducing the women you like. In fact, pikapery seek without extra effort and time to enter into sexual contact.
The basis of the exercise
The founder of the teachings is considered American writer Ross Jeffrieswho wrote a book in 1992, How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed.
It was Jeffries who founded the very first seminar on seduction. Later he held a conference on a similar topic.
The writer substantiated to some extent the consumer attitude towards women initially existing inequality between the sexes.
In his opinion, even the most unattractive woman, who demonstrates her willingness to have sex, will find a partner without any problems.
This may not be the most beautiful or the most successful man, but he In any case, there is.
A man for a quick entry into a burdensome relationship with a woman in the absence of an attractive appearance, wealth and charm have work hard.
Negative side
In pickup there rational grain - he helps self-confident men learn to meet and communicate with women.
These skills can help impress your favorite girl and start a relationship with her.
In reality, often pickup trainings promote enough immoral lifestyle.
A man learns to seduce endlessly women acting for him as a soulless object. And the more goals are achieved, the better.
As a result, such a consumer attitude towards the opposite sex leads to the following negative consequences:
- the development of cynicism, which is manifested in the open disregard of the existing norms of morality and ethics;
- causing moral sufferings to women who may misinterpret the attitude of a pick-up artist to them and in the future it is hard to experience a break;
- the risk of missing a truly promising relationship with a suitable woman in pursuit of new victories;
- the rapid satiety of the constant change of non-binding contacts, which is guaranteed to cause a feeling of boredom;
- low quality of life experience obtained from such fleeting relationships without emotional involvement;
- loss of ability to display sincere feelings, feelings, sympathies.
Techniques
The pickup technique includes a series of sequential actions:
- Acquaintance. This is the most difficult stage in which you want to make contact with a woman and not to frighten her off. There are many ways that have long been proven effective: to help carry heavy bags, sit down at a table and treat coffee, make a compliment on the street, give way to public transport, etc. At first glance, these are the usual ways of casual, uncomplicated dating. To recognize a pikaper at this stage a woman has no chance.
- Disclosure. A man begins to receive the necessary information during communication: age, place of study or work, hobbies, character traits, life goals, etc. Questions are asked naturally, without pressure, so as not to give the impression of interrogation.
- Rapport. This psychological technique is that a person artificially adjusts to the values of his opponent. As a result, he achieves complete trust and favor with himself.
Women, as you know, are easily enchanted by a companion who colorfully paints his virtues and deeds.
At the initial stage of the relationship they have no desire to verify the accuracy of the information received.
- Setting estimated dependency. Each person has certain complexes. You can easily detect weaknesses and use the knowledge gained for their own purposes. The easiest way is flattery. So, a woman unsure of her appearance instantly falls under the influence of a man who will constantly give her compliments.
- Touch. This moment requires a truly fine game. Most women are alarmed by the quick desire of the boyfriend to establish body contact. For this reason, pick-upers learn to act in a similar way imperceptibly, unobtrusively. These can be light touches of the arm or shoulder during discussion of a serious issue, imperceptible pulling on the waist when crossing the road, giving a hand when descending from a ladder, etc.
- Enticement. When the victim is already ripe and completely under the influence of the charm of her seducer, there comes a moment of luring her to the right place. This is where sexual contact can occur.
Of course, such plans are not announced out loud. Enticement can occur in the form of an invitation to coffee, a friendly party, etc.
- Removal of responsibility. This rule operates in two directions. Pikaper convinces the victim that she is not responsible for his rash behavior. It just happened. If conflict situations arise, the man easily takes the responsibility off of himself - there was no coercion to have sexual contact, everything happened by mutual consent.
Mystery methods
The most popular in the world received Eric von Markovik's pickup methods, better known as mystery. This is a Canadian figure who created a system called the Mystery Method. In the pickup community, this system has gained great popularity.
Demonstration of social value
Mystery explained the success of individual men with the ability to demonstrate their social value.
In his opinion, the biological value of men, which lies in its attractive appearance and good health, does not matter much for women.
Much more attention they draw on social signs:
- financial security;
- leadership skills;
- self-confidence;
- strength.
The mystery method is to seduce women by demonstrations of socially significant behavior.
And it does not matter what qualities a man actually possesses, the behavior he demonstrates is much more important.
If he seems to woman strong, confident and successfulthen she will go after him without delay. And the real picture will be revealed when it will be too late.
Linear seduction
In the process of dragging a man, each woman experiences three states: interest, trust, arousal.
It is important to carry it through these three stages and get what you want.
Interest occurs after a man demonstrates a high social value.
It takes a few minutes. For the appearance of trust you need to spend together at least 4-10 hours. It is necessary during communication show openness, friendliness, interest.
Quick effect helps to achieve some kind of joint process that requires joint efforts. Emotional convergence and constant unobtrusive touches lead to arousal.
A game
Pickup is a game. It is necessary to perceive the whole process from this point of view. Attempting to meet a girl is a start.
Reception of refusal is a restart and a reason to start the game from a different place first. No worries, insults, disappointments.
Lessons
The following life examples demonstrate the basic principles of a pickup for guys in action:
- In the flower pavilion choose a woman who causes sympathy. We approach her and ask for help in choosing a bouquet for her grandmother's birthday. We make it clear that we have no problems with finances: we can get a bunch of any cost, the grandmother’s birthday will be celebrated at the most expensive restaurant in the city at the expense of a loving grandson, etc. After purchasing the bouquet, we propose to stroll through the park together. If a woman is busy at the moment, the date is postponed to a convenient time for her. During communication, we build a conversation around her person, not forgetting to ask leading questions and receive the necessary information. "Open" talk about ourselves, share the "most intimate". Do not forget about unobtrusive touches, constant eye contact. If she has an interest and location, we offer to move to a suitable place.
- Choose a dating site on the dating site. We carefully study the page for interests, hobbies, views. Getting acquainted with the mention of her interest. In the process of communication we focus on the points of contact. "Openly" talk about yourself and ask her leading questions.
If she answers reluctantly, increase the response time to her message. The need for waiting will cause slight irritation and impatience, and this, in turn, will stir up interest.
When her responses to messages become quick and detailed, you can offer a meeting. During the date, act the same as in the previous case.
Sample messages online girl
Original messages on the network - a win-win for tying communication with the woman you like.
You can use one of the following examples. welcome phrases:
- In your opinion, what should a man write to a woman he likes not to get a refusal?
- Good afternoon, and what size of shoes do you wear? ... 38 ... Well, we met!
- Hello! I am one of those who thinks you are very beautiful.
- I have never met in this way before.
- The Constitution says that each of us has the right to happiness.
- I am coming up with an original way to meet you for the second day, but nothing happens.
Precautionary measures
Applying seduction techniques in practice must not forget the precautions:
- should not give importance to contacts;
- You should not enter into relationships with overly emotional women who may experience serious problems when parting;
- discovering emerging feelings for the object, should immediately stop communicating;
- if love has time to arise, you should stop and make the right decision.
Pickup tricks are a real salvation for insecure men who do not know how to attract women.
Proper use of pickup techniques to achieve a specific goal will help to succeed.
5 pickup rules:
