How to stop taking offense over trifles
There are many states and feelings that poison a person’s life, make it unbearable and negative. For example, resentment, jealousy, insecurity, fear, anger, aggression, irritability. Especially difficult get rid of touchinessbut if you still want to succeed, to become a happy person, you need to understand how to stop being offended.
What is offense?
Actually, an insult is nothing but an illusion, your expectations that you thought up for yourself and now you are trying to cope with them. It is important to understand that the insult is laid in your head, and only you make the choice to be offended or not, and is there any reason for this?
And if you thought about how you look at the moment when you are offended. Most likely, you are like a small naughty child who wants to be loved and appreciated just for what he is, always stressed that he is loved and appreciated, that he is needed. But it only shows your insecurity.
If you need to always talk about love and emphasize your importance, it means that you can hardly be called a self-sufficient and independent person who is able to achieve success in this life and become a happy and independent person. This is how you are perceived by those around you at the moment when you are offended; you only cause a feeling of embarrassment and self-pity, but you don’t look like an independent and responsible adult for your life.
Surely, you will not like to hear such an opinion about yourself, most likely you will be offended again or will you no longer be offended and make the right conclusions? So, if you decide that from now on no one places any hopes or responsibility for everything that happens to you, then it’s time to move on to how to stop being offended.
Control your emotions.
Whatever the situation was not necessary to immediately draw conclusions. If you feel that it is difficult for you to hold back emotions, then ask the interlocutor, your “offender” to talk later, how to calm down. No need to be offended right away, remember that from this day nobody can offend you if you do not allow it, that is, if you do not decide to be offended.
Try to adequately assess the situation, discarding all emotions, whatever they are positive or negative, keep a cold mind and logical thinking. Look at everything from the outside and think, and is there any point at all to worry and get upset, and especially to be offended.
No one owes you anything.
Remember this once and for all. All people are the same as you, they have their own lives and their own beliefs and principles. If a person considers it necessary to help you, he will help you and not because you can harbor an insult against him, this is already a kind of manipulation, but because he wants to do it. You should take responsibility for yourself and your own goals, and not wait until someone does something for you, because you think that someone is obliged to you. Believe if you can stop being offended and not to wait for people to act or display emotions, it will be easier for you to live, and unexpected help will be a pleasant surprise for you.
Be taller.
As it turned out, the insult is just an illusion, negative energy that can turn into unpleasant memories. Also, due to fleeting resentment, relationships can deteriorate. Resentment can cause such feelings in you as hatred, anger, irritability. All this will subsequently lead to stress, emotional breakdown, chronic depression. Further, it will negatively affect your health and well-being, you will suffer from headaches or dizziness, chronic diseases will remind you of yourself again, or problems with pressure or vision may begin.
And now just ask yourself whether it is necessary for you or you are above these emotions, you are a developed person, you are a confident person with adequate self-esteem, who loves and appreciates himself and who independently controls himself and his life.
