Who of us at least once in my life was not hard?
There are such moments after which we despair and hysterical.
In this case, it is important that there is a person who is willing to listen and support.
How to calm a person?
Hysterical
How to calm a crying person? In moments of an attack of hysteria in a person, you can resort to some measures that will help to cope with this condition.
- The first thing to do is “Chase away” all outsiders, if any. At such moments, a person in hysterics does not really want to see a lot of people, especially if everyone tries to give some advice. If a person wants you to stay and not chase you away, then be with him.
- The most important thing: you just need a sincere hugwho cries hysterically. Hugs should be filled with love, because it is important for a crying person to feel love and support at this moment. Now he will not be comforted with any words, hugs will be enough, a person should calm down. No wonder they say that sometimes embracing alone is enough to calm.
- If a person is ready to talk, then need to listen to him carefully. You should not stop and try to insert your cue, it is important for a person to see that you are genuinely interested in his condition.
It does not matter how long it will last, and if a hysterical re-erupts during a conversation, it is necessary to support and reassure.
- Physical contact - this is very important, so often touch a person, stroke him on the head or shoulders, take his hand. One touch can solve many problems. Indeed, during this period, it is more important than ever for a person to feel care and attention. Therefore, do not be afraid to exercise warmth.
- It is important to choose the right words. After all, you can shake up too much and a person will be covered with a new wave of hysteria. Do not use the words: "Get ready", "Do not be a rag." A person may become uncomfortable with his behavior, and he will be even more upset. He can stifle his emotions and end up being left alone with his own problems.
- Ask if a person needs help with anything.. If he needs something, try to fulfill his request.
- After all this, when the storm of emotions subsides, try to distract a person from his problems, cheer him up, or take him to some interesting place.
Depressed
It is very difficult to communicate with a person suffering from depression. It's not just a bad mood that lasts for a few days, this condition can last for months.
All that you can do for a person is just to be there all the time, to go along this difficult path together.
Remember that help is needed after the "acute phase"when a person becomes easier and he gradually returns to life.
Stay close all the time.
Even if it seems to you that a person does not need this and does not understand at all that you are near.
Help him. You will have to collect all your patience, refrain from any advice, for a patient with depression they are absolutely not needed.
Bring more light into his room, bring fresh flowers. Try to cook him his favorite food. Let him know that he is not alone and he should not be afraid to be alone. Speak pleasant words to him more often. Show more tendernesshug him.
The main thing is to be sincere. Speak only what you feel, do not prevaricate. After all, the patient can understand this, and this will aggravate his recovery.
In anger
There are 4 main ways to help calm an angry person:
- No need to enter into a verbal squabble with an angry man, and especially raise his voice to him. After all, you need to calm him down, and not to anger even more.
A person in such a state cannot soberly perceive everything, he is controlled by emotions, therefore he does not control himself.
You need to speak firmly and confidently, ask the person to sit down and calmly discuss everything. Offer him a cup of hot tea.
- Try to tell the person that aggression and anger can not achieve anything. You need to calm down and then the solution will come by itself.
- Get the person out to get some fresh air., it will help get rid of negative thoughts, distract and calm down. At this time, you can start joking or tell some funny story.
- If the anger does not go away, offer to splash it on some item, for example, break a pair of plates. This will help to throw out emotions.
Counseling Counseling Psychologists
The person whose relative is dying
How to calm a person who has lost a loved one? If you have not experienced a loss and do not know how to behave in such a situation, then the best thing would be to bring the person who survived it.
But the meeting must be arranged unobtrusively. Tell me carefully that there is a person with the same problem, and he will be able to help.
If a person is a believer, then you can ask for help from a priest. The help of a specialist in psychology also does not hurt.
If you knew the deceased, remember him together. If you have shared memories, it's time to talk about them. Remember only positive momentsthat brought you joy. And, of course, you only need to speak good.
And most importantly: you just need to be close.
Be near and listen. Listen a lot. Do not comfort and make rejoice.
A person who has lost a loved one will cry and suffer, will repeat the same thing many times. But you just need to listen to him.
Help with household chores and with some chores. Important in this difficult period just be around all the time. A person must feel supported. This will be the best consolation.
Favorite
For a loved one, it is important to know that you are there and are ready to support him. Find out the reason why he is upsethug him. The main thing - to give him talk.
Listen carefully to him, he should know that you are really interested in his problems, and not just pretend. Therefore, periodically repeating that you understand it.
Women or girls
Women tend to be more emotional than men. There are several ways that help them cope with hysterics.
How to calm a girl if she cries?
Do not immediately find out the reason, you just need to come up and hug.
Stroking on the head, gently kiss and hold to yourself. Gently ask what happened to her.
In no case can not laugh at her tears or the reason for which she cries, even if she seems frivolous to you. Show her your care and understanding.
Speak to her only pleasant words. You can do some romantic act or make an unexpected surprise.
How to calm my wife?
Stay calm and restrained, no need to shout and try to prove something.
During the period of hysterics, try to stay one-on-one with your wife.
Try to talk, ask a distracting question, and then ask her what happened. Firmly hug and speak her only pleasant words.
How to calm the girl at a distance, for example, in the VC? At a distance, it is much more difficult to calm the girl down, if there is an opportunity - call her, she should speak out, and you will comfort her with pleasant words, express your support to her.
If this is not possible, then write to her VC, ask to tell about the problems. Also write her words of support.
How to calm the girl who threw the guy?
First of all, make her go outside, you can go to some cafe or just to nature.
It will be useful for her to be among people, and not to sit in her room and cry.
Do not leave her alone with your nasty thoughts, distract her with something. But in no case should you introduce her immediately to someone, this will cause unpleasant associations and will not lead to anything good.
You should not say the phrase “you will find better”, it usually does not help. Forget about alcohol, it will only aggravate the situation by drinking, feelings will come over her and she can call her ex.
How to reassure a friend who broke up with her husband? You need to be prepared for a huge stream of tears. The main thing is to listen and support. Bring a lot of sweets, nothing cheers up like chocolate.
Make her go out for a walk. During the walk you need to distract the girlfriend with some topics.
Together you can remember funny stories that happened to you during your friendship. You can go shopping together or arrange a spa vacation.
Men or guy
It is believed that men are less emotional than women. But this is not entirely true. They just hide all their emotions deep inside. And this is not worth doing.
How to calm the husband?
You need to stay calm and positive, you should not sit next to her husband and start crying, this behavior will only make him worse.
Feed him delicious and favorite food. You can arrange a romantic evening.
Listen carefully to him, express words of encouragement and hold tight. If a man demands that you leave him alone, then do it. But if he says nothing to you, then be near.
How to calm a guy when he is angry? Do not immediately tell him something, first you need to listen to him. No need to try to calm him down and tell him not to be angry.
It is better to give it time to cool. When the anger passes, distract him from the problems of a delicious dinner and transfer the topic to another channel.
How to calm a guy when he feels bad? No need to try to elicit from him the reasons why he is ill. It is better to hug and hug. The moment will come when he will tell. Feed the guy a delicious meal and offer to watch a movie together.
How to calm a friend? Be a good listener. Let him know that you are interested in his problems. Do everything to make your friend comfortable. In no case do not tell him that his problems are not so terrible, which is worse.
Do not give extra advice, if a friend asks him, then only tell me what you see fit.
How to calm the son? Express to him all his motherly love. Do not impose yourself with your questions, express understanding. Feed your son's favorite dish and tell him that everything will work out and everything will be fine.
What words calm a man?
It is important for a man to know that you support him.
Speak to him such phrases: “You are strong”, “I know, you will manage”, “You will succeed”, “I will always be near and I will always support you”, “You can rely on me”, “If something is wrong, do not worry , Everything will be alright".
Every person has bad times. It is important that he has people who ready to help at any time. After all, support is so easy, and from time to time, we all need it.
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