Sometimes it happens that the life paths of two people diverge, but the desire to part is not always mutual. And then in the soul of a person who was left next to a sudden emergence of emptiness, the feeling of oppressive melancholy and inability to think of anyone other than a loved one who disappeared forever settles for a long time. A lot of time passes, but the pain does not recede, and memory inevitably returns to the events of months or even years spent with a loved one. And then the desire to break out of the vicious circle makes a person ask himself the inevitable question: how to stop thinking about the person you love so much and start living in a new way?
10 years ago I got into such a situation myself, and now from the height of past years I can share my thoughts on how to cope with it.
The first lesson I learned was: everything that we are strongly attached to, we sooner or later lose, so life teaches us to grow above ourselves. And the second lesson: it is difficult to part with someone whose life is dull and not interesting, who is used only to take, not give, and who for this reason has few friends. In a word, if the misfortune of separation from a loved one has befallen you, it means it’s time you seriously worked with your inner world.
Frankly, this is not an easy job, it will take some time and effort. But the effort is worth it, because you will develop independence and optimism. And then the question of how to stop thinking about a person will become irrelevant for you, because your life will be filled with interesting exciting activities, meetings, travels.
Some important tips
1. Understand the simple truth: nothing lasts forever on earth. People come and go - this is the inevitable and natural law of life. If you look at separation from this side, then it will be much easier to let go of a person, because you cannot tie anyone to yourself. You shouldn’t fight with thoughts about who left you, it’s better to take the loss with your heart and thank the Universe for the lesson. This is the first step to healing the soul!
2. Learn to give love to everyone around you. These could be your family members, friends, colleagues, any people you can support or help with. No wonder they say: if you feel bad, find someone who is worse, and help him. By giving others care, warmth, understanding and support, you develop your own strength and independence. The one who wants only to receive is dependent.
3. Learn to appreciate and love your own life, because you have one! In life, so many interesting things, and you need to have time to learn a lot and try. Is it not a pity to waste time in melancholy and despondency? Develop your horizons, look for new interesting friends, like-minded people. Start learning a foreign language, go horse riding or play the saxophone, go on a trip. Are there any more interesting activities?
So, the answer to the question of how to stop thinking about a person is this: start with yourself. Follow these tips, and you will not notice how your life will gradually begin to change. And then, quite possibly, you will find a new relationship more free and happy!
