Often married women face the fact that their husband does not want to have a child. And it does not matter how old he is - 20, 30, or already almost 40. Any girl who marries, dreams of an almost perfect family in which a child would surely be - perhaps not even one.
Most often in such families, if a woman starts a conversation that it’s time to start thinking about children, the man either leaves the conversation altogether or suggests postponing the solution of this problem for a year or two. Because now there is a crisis in the country, the work is not the same, there is a lot of work, the boss is dissatisfied with it, etc., they say, not now, then a huge amount of excuses.
young men are rarely ready for early fatherhoodThis suggests that the man is simply not ready for the baby, he must be prepared for this decision gradually.
Of course, there is such an option, so that no one should be prepared for anything, and at one fine moment simply stun the husband by declaring his pregnancy without giving him a chance to get out. For this option, you just need to stop protecting yourself, forget to take birth control pills, confuse dangerous days with non-dangerous ones, pierce a condom. There is room for feminine imagination and opportunity.
Unfortunately, one shocking phrase about a possible pregnancy is often too little. No, well, of course there is some chance that after your confession the man can suddenly feel his fatherly feelings, maybe even let out a tear, sincerely glad that he had the opportunity to become a father. But this happens very rarely.
Most often, such a statement can infuriate a man that you decided everything without him, without asking what he wants. This provokes a considerable scandal in the family, sometimes it can even cause a divorce. Some may put a woman in front of a choice, or she will have an abortion, or they will divorce.
To prevent this from happening, a woman needs to connect all her charm and tact. But first you need to find out why your husband does not want a child.
There may be several reasons
- he is afraid of change;
- he is afraid of responsibility;
- he is afraid of children;
- he is not sure that he will cope with the role of the father.
It often happens that a man is really “not mature enough” to become a full-fledged dad, and simply is not ready for this. In 20-25 years, I still want to take a walk and relax with friends, and not to cut circles and diapers with the stroller near the house. Do not forget that men "mature" a little later than girls and are much more afraid of changes in their lives.
To persuade such a man to become a dad, you need to periodically tell him a few facts that can dispel his fears. Firstly, no diapers need to be changed now - there are diapers, for any pain in the stomach there are a lot of medicines that help to cope with colic, and sleepless nights are just the first half of the year. It is necessary to dispel his fears about small children by any means.
Every man is afraid that after the birth of the baby, his woman will completely switch to the child and forget about him. Therefore, do not neglect to once again take care of your husband, treat him with delicacies on the table and diversity in bed. Perhaps this is what will convince your husband that you can not only cope with the child, but also not forget about him.
If your man is very important how you look, you should exercise to bring your body into shape before pregnancy. And also adhere to all that is necessary for a good figure during pregnancy and after it. Let your husband be able to make sure that you always watch your figure and the appearance of the baby will not affect your appearance or your family life as a whole too much.
